I had very rewarding 25 yr career as a team lead in oil and gas industry.

Anonymous

September 26,2021 at 3:20AM UTC

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I had very rewarding 25 yr career as a team lead in oil and gas industry. Have had teams of up to 12 staff on some projects and always treated them with respect and included their ideas and expertise as a team.

Flash forward to November 2015, my boss who barely spoke to me in two years about my staff or projects because everything had run smoothly. Suddenly wants to sit in on Interviews for a intermediate position I was hiring for. He demanded I hire a person who was over qualified and extremely unfriendly towards me in the interview.

Within 1 week she became toxic to my team, would complain to other coworkers that I was bullying her and not listening to her ideas.. she even went to the doctor and got a note saying she would have a nervous breakdown if she had to work with me. She was stalking me had binders of every word I ever said to her. I had to block her from any social media for myself and my family.

I was a contractor had been with company 5 years. Her and my boss were employees. my boss went to HR and wanted me fired as he wanted to promote the toxic employee to my position.

They said did he have any documentation to back up his wanting me fired. And he didn't.

I was documenting everything but she was still able to turn coworkers against me.

I ended up leaving was my first experience with a toxic subordinate and it was terrible.

Just wanted to vent.

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AnonymousSeptember 26,2021 at 3:23AM UTC
Forgot to mention she and my boss had a prior relationship and he told her she could have my job
AnonymousSeptember 26,2021 at 5:14AM UTC
Wow. So this was 5 years ago. Are you in a bettet space now?
AnonymousSeptember 26,2021 at 7:18AM UTC
I was traumatized. I didn't include the fact my boss who is 6 ft 3 Bosnian whom I've always treated with respect threatened me while just 2 of us were alone in his office. He said " in the old days I would grab you by your head and smash it into this desk "
AnonymousSeptember 26,2021 at 11:50AM UTC
This was back in 2015? Have you been able to find fulfilling and successful positions since then? Are you employed?
AnonymousSeptember 26,2021 at 5:20PM UTC
I did work until end of 2017 . Then I tried being a barmaid day shift old neighborhood pub. Great job till covid. Now I'm I'm retired enjoying my family
Deborah MitchellSeptember 26,2021 at 2:39PM UTC
It sounds like you are letting the past live rent free in your head.
What's the good stuff that has come out of this? How can we help? Or are you just looking for support via us listening?
AnonymousSeptember 26,2021 at 6:23PM UTC
Was something I wanted to share. I didn't change the caring person I am I still treat all people with respect.
Deborah MitchellSeptember 26,2021 at 6:31PM UTC
Is there anything we can do to help?