I accepted a new role 2 weeks ago.

Anonymous

August 27,2022 at 12:56PM UTC

Welcome to Fairygodboss!

We’re the largest online career community helping women achieve their career goals. Gain access to articles, jobs, events, and a supportive network of women and allies. Membership is free, always.

I accepted a new role 2 weeks ago. But since then I’ve been getting a lot of messages from recruiters on LinkdIn for Executive Assistant/Coordinator roles for a bigger salary and hybrid schedule. The accepted role is a good one and highly visible as well as a chance to work with founders and partners of the firm. 20 vacation days and a week off during the Holidays. However, the benefits doesn’t activate until after 60 days on the job. I was ok with that at first but I did not want to miss out on other opportunities that can give me a better compensation. I feel guilty for accepting another role and telling the recruiter about getting another role. Which has t happened yet. But I’m in final stages for two roles. Was I wrong in accepting this role and engaging other recruiters?

thanks for your thoughts

Why women love us:

Daily articles on career topics
Jobs at companies dedicated to hiring more women
Advice and support from an authentic community
Events that help you level up in your career
Free membership, always

12 comments

Share your insight

Join an authentic community that helps women support each other at work. Share your professional experience or ask for advice — you can even post anonymously.

12 Comments

Join the conversation

JJAugust 27,2022 at 3:30PM UTC
No. If you’ve seen social media lately you have seen that there are lots of layoffs and companies will let you go on a zoom call with no warning and never think twice about it. You don’t owe them your life, so you can negotiate for better benefits or higher salary or more pay days off or take the other jobs—whatever is best for you, but companies have to earn your loyalty .
Kristie WhiteAugust 27,2022 at 3:59PM UTC
This is a highly competitive job market and everyone knows it.
Recruiters have no loyalty to you, they are intent on doing one thing - filling that job. So what happens after that job is filled is of no interest to them. Depending on the structure of the relationship, there could be some fallout but that is the nature of this job market. If you get a clear offer that is better, give your current employer a chance to meet it. But I would also consider that visibility factor. More visibility means more responsibility and more interesting work.
Lara Ivey KauchakAugust 29,2022 at 7:01PM UTC
Just Be careful - you don't want to lose the role you have if you haven't landed the other one yet... And make sure you definitely don't want to work for the employer you accepted the job with in the future. You will likely never get another offer if you cancel after you accepted.
KathyAugust 30,2022 at 1:30PM UTC
You may not get the either of the two roles in which you are currently in the final stages.
Do you have offers in hand from those two roles yet? If not there is a chance they could still fall through and you are left with the current offer.
Jessica Hill-KnudsonAugust 30,2022 at 1:42PM UTC
There will ALWAYS be other jobs that sound better, but remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 2:39PM UTC
If you are in a position you enjoy and the people around you are sane, that can be worth more than money and prestige. Decide if the position you have has intrinsic value beyond the salary, time off and other perks. We live in a crazy world and sometimes value comes in different packages.
Joanna PoeAugust 30,2022 at 3:19PM UTC
You're never wrong to promote yourself and take the best opportunity that presents itself, even if that comes after you've accepted something else.
Weigh it all carefully, and don't leave a sure thing for something that isn't just as well-clarified on paper.
AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 3:38PM UTC
Absolutely you are not wrong. Do what is best for you (make sure you evaluate the entire package, including assigning a value to the work itself). Believe me, company's do NOT look out for humans, we have to look out for ourselves. Be professional, and apologize if you choose to take another position. You can just say that another position that you have previously interviewed for came to fruition and it is a better fit for your skillset. As an aside, I don't know why companies make employees wait 60 days for benefits - it's a huge stressor and expensive for the employee's to handle. The cost to the company is negligible. It's a silly thing to do.
AnonymousAugust 30,2022 at 3:40PM UTC
You also might ask if the 60 day wait for benefits is negotiable, or maybe they would cover the cost of your health insurance until theirs kicks in? Worth asking.
Jennifer TaylorAugust 30,2022 at 5:56PM UTC
I would definitely keep exploring the other opportunities, but at the same time, I would ask the recruiter to re-negotiate your benefits. This is commonplace, so don't feel bad or feel like you're asking for too much.
froerden@yahoo.comAugust 30,2022 at 9:21PM UTC
Don’t get buyers remorse! Keep the job you accepted. It sounds great. 60 days is no big deal. Buy your own insurance to cover the gap or ask the company to pay it or split the cost.
KellyW43August 31,2022 at 2:42AM UTC
What is the career path for the position you've already accepted? What is the earning potential?
Also, will taking one of the higher paying positions help with your growth?
You want to take this and a few other things into consideration before taking another position. Money isn't everything, but when your potential for growth and making the money down the road along with a great relationships and culture, come into play? You'll want to stay where you are at.