Over the last few weeks, I went through the interview process for a new job and received the offer this morning - YAY!

19 Comments

1. AnonymousNovember 26,2024 at 10:06PM UTC

   Always remember, just because you are moving forward and your current role will soon be in your past, doesn't mean the relationships you've built are left behind. Now some do not go with me nor make it to my future, but many do. Focus on that and not the what ifs. Congrats to you!

2. BreAndrea JonesNovember 26,2024 at 11:03PM UTC

   Congrats on the offer. Best wishes to you.

3. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistNovember 27,2024 at 4:39AM UTC

   CONGRATULATIONS on your big new adventure!

   You wrote: "I know this will be an incredibly tough pill to swallow by my current employer, and they will most likely counter and try to keep me."

   I'm sure they will be sad to lose you, but that's a them problem - don't make it a you problem.

   No matter how good someone is at their job, everyone is replaceable.

   And that company could start laying people off tomorrow with no notice.

   Giving them 4 weeks notice is extremely generous on your part. I wouldn't be surprised if they counter but since counter offers rarely work out well for the employee, just politely tell them thanks but no thanks if they offer.

   GOOD LUCK!

4. AnonymousNovember 27,2024 at 1:34PM UTC

   Congratulations on your new opportunity.

   That is how I would phrase it to your current company. It's a new opportunity to expand You in a new direction you are yearning to go. To take a new road, a new journey and see where it leads you.

   It's hard to argue with the passion of starting something new that is focused on a person's desires and career path. Doesn't mean they won't try but I would keep it positive and about You.

5. Kris WolframNovember 27,2024 at 1:40PM UTC

   It’s nice of you to give 4 weeks notice. However those will be 4 very long weeks. You should only give 2 weeks. It’s nice that they want to keep you. Just tell them it’s time for you to move on to a new adventure.

6. AnonymousNovember 27,2024 at 1:53PM UTC

   If your new job is okay with you starting in four weeks, giving two weeks' notice and then taking two weeks to decompress would be better. This gives you many options, including taking a vacation, having a few days to finish up anything left at the old job, or even asking to report a week or so early for the new one. Two weeks is the generally accepted notice, and giving four will drag it out to the point you are just twiddling your thumbs the last two weeks you are there.

7. Tami L CannizzaroDecember 2,2024 at 4:13PM UTC

   This! I wholeheartedly agree. Sounds like a break is needed before starting at the new place. And remember, when you begin the new job, refrain from saying things like, "at my old job we...." The new place knows you came from somewhere else yet doesn't want to hear about it. They want you to be open to their way of doing things and embrace "newness".

8. Sue Gordon- retired Career CoachNovember 27,2024 at 2:26PM UTC

   ”I truly appreciate that you want me to stay, however I am ready for a new opportunity— this company has been great, and this is a tough decision, however it is what I want to do right now. Thank you for understanding”

   And in this case, getting a little teary is AOK.

9. AnonymousNovember 27,2024 at 5:53PM UTC

   Here is what you say, I was recruited away for an interesting opportunity to take what I have learned here and will have the ability to use my experience with a new employer which yes, will bring challenges for sure but at this time in my career I want a change and I hope you will celebrate my new opportunity with the same vigor as I have given to this company for the last 10 years. Do note this is not about money for me it's about opportunity. My decision is final in case you were considering a counter offer and I prefer that you respect my choice and not entertain giving one to me. How can I close off my employment here to make it easiest for you to find my replacement?

   End of story...feel free to steal word for word. Congratulations!

10. AnonymousNovember 27,2024 at 7:57PM UTC

    You shouldn't present it as a negotiable opportunity with current employer. Here's my notice, I will miss you, but I am excited for this new venture. Don't entertain a conversation to make this being viewed as a leverage.

11. GirlBossanova934974November 28,2024 at 2:15PM UTC

    Couple of things here: 1) NEVER ever entertain counter offers. You are leaving. 2) 4 weeks notice is too long. 2 weeks should be it. 3) In today's world of anything goes, don' t be surprised if your current employer does not honor the 2 weeks and asks you to be gone, sooner than later 4) I would NEVER put a high value on my work with any employer. TRUTH IS that most employers are dumb as a box of rocks when it comes to figuring out the value of each employee. Many employers these days are run by vastly overpaid bookkeepers who see employees as costs, not bigger or larger profit centers.

12. rgstaffing@bellsouth.netDecember 2,2024 at 7:39PM UTC

    GirlBoss you are 100% right on everything you have said. It amazes me that some of these people just don't understand the world of business and never never never take a counter offer. 4 weeks notice??? Heck no.

13. RachelNovember 29,2024 at 2:07PM UTC

    They've asked me "is there anything we can do to make you stay". I just said, I have to take this opportunity. I was in the exact same boat.

14. AnonymousNovember 29,2024 at 2:39PM UTC

    I am not sure of your process for resigning, but if you can have a conversation with your manager or boss while giving your written notice and explain your reason for leaving, I think it will be easier for them to just accept it. Their gut reaction will likely be to counter offer because no one wants to lose a good employee, but if you have a good relationship with your company, they will respect your resignation.

    I was actually in the same boat 2 years ago. My employer took a chance on me 8 years earlier, literally taught me everything I know about my industry, paid for me to go to trainings and get certs, and I got so close to some of my coworkers.

    I started to feel burnt out because there was nowhere for me to move up anymore until my manager left, and she was just a couple years older than me with no plans of leaving the company and planned to stay until she retired.

    When I turned in my resignation letter and told my direct manager and our boss, I cried, my manager cried, and it was just really emotional because they were like my family for the past almost decade, knew my kids since they were born, and were they during so many big things in my life. (I know it's cliche, but we were such a small team with a unique bond, and we all truly liked each other) I gave them a 3-week notice because it was tax time and I was in the middle of a project I wanted to finish because I didn't want to leave them in a bad place.

    I had an exit interview with the head of HR and my manager, and HR asked what it would take for me to stay. I told her my reasoning for leaving and that I was just ready to spread my wings, and she understood because our company was very small. It was very amicable and she repsected my repsonse and didn't try to entice me to stay.

    I left, still keep in touch with my old manager, and I have been to lunch a couple times with her and our boss. They always ask me to come back, but it's turned into more of a joke at this point because they know there isn't anything they could offer that would make me come back.

15. AnonymousNovember 29,2024 at 4:08PM UTC

    Sometimes they don’t counter offer - sometimes they fire you. Be prepared to have a month off if you are giving that much of a window.

16. rgstaffing@bellsouth.netDecember 1,2024 at 5:39PM UTC

    Please be a grown-up when you give your notice--there is no reason to cry omg. Write a nice letter of resignation thanking them for the opportunity over the years that they have given you and now you have accepted another position that offers you professional and personal growth . You are giving a long notice ( 2 weeks standard ) and I don't understand the part about them "accepting" it. You are resigning and you are in charge. This is exactly why I am hesitant about placing candidates who have stayed this long at a company because they have not demonstrated that they can actually make changes and adapt. I trust that you have thought this through so give your notice, hand them your letter of resignation and don't expect or participate in drama. I hope they wish you well and I hope you don't languish for drama and begging on their end.

17. Celis NebulaDecember 2,2024 at 3:27AM UTC

    Wow... that shows an utter lack of feeling. She has been at the company for over ten years, of course there are going to be emotions when leaving, especially if she has had a good relationship with that company. When I left the organization I had been with for over 15 years, it was emotional for all sorts of reasons - one, I was going into a completely new field of work, two, I was leaving wonderful coworkers whom I had know for several years, and three, yes, I was making a "scary" change. It was emotional for me and those I worked with, and a LOT of us were crying my very last day... but I still have good relationships with many of those people and we meet quarterly for lunchs together. Had I been in a interview with someone like you, I might not have pivoted into my current position where I am a KILLER advocate for those with various disabilities, helping them find programs that support and encourage their professional and personal development with my social work degree.

18. rgstaffing@bellsouth.netDecember 2,2024 at 7:34PM UTC

    It was not about that at all. It is about being a professional and giving notice. I am sure you would have succeeded in spite of leaving a 15 year job. You missed the point.

19. AnonymousDecember 2,2024 at 8:55PM UTC

    Who knew? I thought that by staying with my current organization for 10+ years, I was demonstrating all sorts of good things based on my productivity on a daily basis, rather than getting judged by some sweeping generalization that is so off base. This seems like one of those instances where assumptions are not doing anyone any favors. I work in healthcare and boy, if you want to see people who can adapt to change, look no further. Instability is a daily occurrence.