Should I Travel to an Optional On-site Meeting Right Before I Quit?

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August 9,2022 at 8:06PM UTC

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Should I Travel to an Optional On-site Meeting Right Before I Quit?

I’ve only been at this job for three months. Unfortunately, it’s not a good fit and I have another opportunity. I’m feeling pressured to travel tomorrow for an on-site meeting, even though I plan to put in my two weeks notice on Friday. The travel would involve a 6am and 7pm flight on the same day. I need to make the request tonight if I’m going to do this. Should I? I really don’t want to go, but I think it’ll show good faith and I can show my face in person one last time. Alternatively, since I plan to resign, maybe I should not ask to spend company money on a trip like that. What impression am I making by showing up to an on-site meeting and then submitting my resignation two days later?

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KatAugust 9,2022 at 8:35PM UTC
To me it doesn't make sense to do the trip. It would be awkward and a lot of hassle/expense for no readon. Tell then you're not going because you're resigning. Two weeks notice doesn't have to be exactly 2 weeks. If you give it 2 days early, that's ok. Just say you've accepted another position and your last day will be whatever day you planned.
AnonymousAugust 9,2022 at 8:37PM UTC
If the company is paying for you to go and attend as a last trip with your colleagues, then proceed as planned. If not and you're planning on resigning, I would be honest and give your notice early. Why spend the money if it's not needed? Something else to consider is letting the company know ahead of time, they might be happy to save the costs of you attending.
SLTAugust 9,2022 at 9:06PM UTC
If you are planning on leaving and have another opportunity lined up, don't go.
I feel it will be misleading
AnonymousAugust 9,2022 at 10:20PM UTC
Take a sick day or family emergency day if you have them or just put in your two week notice a few days early.
AnonymousAugust 9,2022 at 10:21PM UTC
Put in for sick leave.
2 weeks from now you will never see them again. Its better you dont go so you dont waste their funds on a wasted trip.
AnonymousAugust 9,2022 at 10:39PM UTC
I would think about what makes most sense for you. You aren’t going on a company paid vacation, it would be for a work trip to do work so I wouldn’t feel bad for going. I also wouldn’t feel bad for not going given you plan to leave anyways. Best preserve your energy
Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistAugust 9,2022 at 10:42PM UTC
YOU SAID:
"but I think it’ll show good faith"
Can you please explain specifically what you mean by this?
AnonymousAugust 10,2022 at 2:13AM UTC
Hi, what I mean is, since coworkers are asking if I’m going to be there, I’ll be showing effort as part of the team to meet with them in person. I think I’m the only person out of 7 attendees who will attend virtually. I was marked as optional on the invite though. By good faith I just meant still being a team player, even though I plan on resigning soon.
Another piece of this is that the meeting organizer has made me feel very uncomfortable to the point that I’ve had to document our interactions since the first week. I didn’t report it to HR because I was new but it’s part of the reason why I’d really rather not go.
I just finished work at 10pm and time has made the decision for me. I’m going to attend virtually.
AnonymousAugust 10,2022 at 1:14AM UTC
I'd go to the meeting. I am assuming you are not travelling for fun. There is some work that needs to be done?
AnonymousAugust 10,2022 at 2:19AM UTC
Thanks everyone for your feedback! I’ve decided to attend the meeting virtually. It’s the best decision for me, and I’m marked as optional even though coworkers have asked if I’m attending in person.