I am being bullied at work this is being going on from the beginning two years ago.

Anonymous

November 1,2021 at 12:01AM UTC

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I am being bullied at work this is being going on from the beginning two years ago. As of Friday it has been getting worst I don't want to work there anymore. My biggest problem is I can't talk to management because they are part of the problem. I am so depressed, lost and unsure of myself. I don't know what to do?

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AnonymousNovember 1,2021 at 12:19AM UTC
Use this time to focus on your job search. Get your resume up to date, network and make sure your LinkedIn profile is stellar.
While you're still employed use your insurance and get all your doctor's appointments, dentist & vision appointments taken care off. Also use the EAP if your company has one to tap into mental health services & financial planning services
Finally, take good care of your health and nutrition so you can stay strong. Looking for a new job is stressful in the best of times. You want to make sure your depression is not made worse with stress.
Bretley DannerNovember 1,2021 at 2:19AM UTC
You are so on it!!
AnonymousNovember 1,2021 at 1:00AM UTC
I have been there. Look for another position.
In the meantime....
1. If this is a remote position, use email and maybe Teams/Skype as my mode of communication only, or at least as much as possible. It helps to limit exposure and provides a written record.
2. If in the office, a good set of headphones and music/motivational or inspirational book via Kindle is always a good way to tune out the negative background noise. Again, limiting exposure as much as possible.
2. If in a meeting and bullied, don't react, respond in a professional manager to passive-aggressive behaviors or backhanded comments. Sometimes ignoring them while discussing the meeting topic at hand speaks volumes.
Here is a link to a workplace bullying website, https://workplacebullying.org/. It has some good info.
The first link on the homepage is for people being bullied.
AnonymousNovember 1,2021 at 1:46AM UTC
I think you need to find a new job.
AnonymousNovember 1,2021 at 2:12AM UTC
I've been there and it isn't good when management is part of the problem. If you can go out on stress leave, then do that. If not, start looking for another job.
AnonymousNovember 1,2021 at 2:13AM UTC
Leave. It will not get better. If management has set up an environment that is toxic, combative and competitive, the weak ass employees in the office will follow suit, and they will almost be rewarded for it. Go where you are appreciated, and treated like a professional. With the advent of social media, and a certain American President that bullied people every day for 4 years, some people now see it as normal and acceptable. It’s disgusting.
AnonymousNovember 1,2021 at 7:45AM UTC
Start looking elsewhere. After 2 years? They are pushing you out.
Jackie GhedineNovember 1,2021 at 12:29PM UTC
It's time to put a plan in place to find a new opportunity.
I would suggest spending time remembering all the amazing achievements you've had in your career. When we transition from a 'toxic' job, it often strips away our sense of worth. Before going on interviews, this absolutely, 100% has to be rebuilt otherwise you won't show up as your best self.
Use a career coach (not because I am one but because I know the results you can get) and outline your unique zone of genius and how it benefits companies. Then go out there and confidently let organizations know they are lucky to get you.