Am I being ghosted?

12 Comments

1. AnonymousAugust 15,2025 at 3:21PM UTC

   Did you reach out to the recruiter you worked with? It kinda sounds like you have been ghosted. But can you clarify - when you say you applied to over 31 different positions...was it all with the same company? Honestly...if you have been ghosted this time around, just move on. If you have applied that many times and not hired for the multiple positions that you did interview...it is not meant to be.

2. AnonymousAugust 15,2025 at 3:25PM UTC

   Yes I did reach out to the hiring manager. Yes it was all with the same company.

3. AnonymousAugust 15,2025 at 3:22PM UTC

   These things take time so don't rule this opportunity out until you hear.

4. AnonymousAugust 15,2025 at 5:01PM UTC

   It's possible either way. Keep looking, but don't rule this one out just yet.

5. LauraAugust 15,2025 at 5:44PM UTC

   Did you receive the contact information for any of the other people you met with? If you've given the recruiter ample time to reply, emailed and called them, I would see if anyone else could give you an answer. Ultimately, we have to advocate for ourselves and sometimes we have to get creative!

6. Tahirah WineglassAugust 16,2025 at 5:05AM UTC

   These companies need to start getting sued for this....especially if the new employee has to relocate for the role. But i agree with some of the posters below, ask targeted questions such as "what does a typical day look like in this role?" Especially if it is a brand-new role. This is what happened to me- I was employed with a state juvenile justice agency in order to get them into compliance with DOJ, after they had been sued for civil rights violations. Trouble began when i had completed all 6 of the certifications required for the position. I was bullied, harassed, targeted and was never given clear instructions on how to do the job because i was actually overqualified. When i contacted HR, the bullying got worse and forced me into a 3 month medical leave because of the stress. When i returned, i was terminated two days later over a "policy" violation that i was never informed about.

7. MaryAnn Coats HastingsAugust 16,2025 at 3:04PM UTC

   When things start going south, get out before you get a negative reputation . If someone in leadership doesn’t like you and you can’t turn them around, you are better off exiting before you are terminated

8. MaryAnn Coats HastingsAugust 16,2025 at 3:01PM UTC

   Two years and 32 positions? WOW, you are persistent. Are you sure you are qualified for each of the positions? If I find a candidate that has great personality a solid employment background, and is eager to work for the organization, I’ll hire them and find the right fit for them within the organization . There could be something in your background that is causing concern. Either your emotional intelligence, skills for the specific position, or someone knows you and has shared a negative impression. If they haven’t hired you after all these applications, they probably don’t intended to hire you

9. AnonymousAugust 16,2025 at 5:57PM UTC

   Of course move on, but understand 'no harm, no foul'. You may have been ghosted, but what are you going to do? It happens all the time now. Not great, but that's the reality all of us live in, especially in this economy and digital era.

   In the other hand, some positions and some companies take *forever* to hire. If they're not hurting for the position, they are just gonna take their time to find their unicorn. Sometimes I feel like companies just keep job postings up just to ensure they're "on the look out" for new talent. Just like folks are "casually seeking" employment, companies are "casually seeking" employees.

   On the other hand, depending on the responsibilities and technical skills required, the interviewing process can be 6-8 weeks. My husband seeks higher level finance roles in startups and the typical hiring cycle is 6-8 weeks, as outlined below:

   Week 1-2 (screening): A response from HR to schedule a phone interview.

   Week 2: A callback or email to schedule a non-HR interview.

   Week 2-3 (technical assessment): A non-HR interview. At the end they give you an assignment to test your technical skills.

   Week 3: They assess your non-HR interview and decide if they want to assess your take-home assignment/case study. Then call you to tell you that you've been successful to move on to the next round, where you'll meet with X and Y.

   Week 4: You meet with X. Either a peer, another manager of a interdependent team, or your manager's manager. (He interviews for Senior or Director positions, so X is usually Director or C-suite). HR let's you know if you're successful you'll meet with the CxO or founder.

   Week 5-6. You meet with CEO/CFO/CIO/CTO/Founder whatever.

   Week 6-8: You wait for everyone else in the interview lineup to make it through the process. Maybe there considering only 1 or 2 other people at this point, but the schedules are all offset so you just wait until they can make a well-informed decision.

   So there you have it. A glimpse of the 8 week process, where things are typically happening **every** week with maybe 5-10 other people, with maybe 1-2 people eliminated each round.

10. AnonymousAugust 16,2025 at 8:15PM UTC

    It wouldn't hurt to follow up to let them know you're still interested and wanted to see if they need any further information from you before making a hiring decision. If you get bad news that you weren't chosen for the role, ask for feedback on what you could have done differently and ask that you hope they consider you if any other position should open. Then just keep applying elsewhere until you get a position you enjoy. It's lousy how employers treat applicants these days, but don't take it personally. Things will get better eventually, but it's very dystopian at the moment.

11. AnonymousAugust 17,2025 at 2:02PM UTC

    Unfortunately, I think it may be time to move on

12. AnonymousAugust 19,2025 at 2:34PM UTC

    2023? Time to consider other companies. Send an email to the same hiring manager ask for a timeline and let them know you are in final rounds with another company by X date. No reply, is a reply. End of story.