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18 Comments

1. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 12:32PM UTC

   Before you 100% commit to leaving your FT job, please take into consideration what, if any, benefits they provide for maternity leave. If they actually do have something, understand what your are entitled to and what you may owe them if you decide to leave in the midst of your maternity leave.

2. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 12:36PM UTC

   The best solution to this would be to return to work and turn in your notice the day you return. Give them two weeks' notice and be done with it.

3. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 12:35PM UTC

   It is not advisable to work a full-time job at home with a new infant unless the hours are completely flexible. Most companies require that childcare be provided for WFH jobs unless you pick the hours you work and they 't have to be the same every day (telemarketing, for example, where you can make your calls when the baby sleeps, and you are measured by how many calls you make, not the hours you work.) Think of it this way, most in-person jobs don't allow you to bring your children to work (unless they provide childcare onsite), so this is no different. You can't provide your complete attention to both jobs at the same time.

4. CgJune 6,2024 at 12:38PM UTC

   I brought my kid with me to work occasionally. I also wfh and so do all my colleagues and all of them have children at home. No where in any of our contracts does it say we can't have kids at home while we work and -cough- I work in cyber security. She works in marketing. Every company I've worked for the marketing team had at least one person taking care of their kids while they worked.

5. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 12:50PM UTC

   What you've experience is definitely not what I've seen over the last 15 years.

6. Miquira JordanJune 6,2024 at 1:43PM UTC

   Yes I agree even with my primary job, I am on the phone with insurance reps in the US & I’d hear their children, pets and all in the background. I don’t think the workforce is the same as it used to be in this regard. Where children can’t be around, especially in this economic climate where a lot of people are struggling and everything is expensive

7. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 1:41PM UTC

   My second job has flexible work hrs… it’s not the normal 9-5. But thanks ?

8. CgJune 6,2024 at 12:35PM UTC

   I'm just a random stranger but I think your plan is solid- mind you can you afford to live on a part time job? Can you afford not to? Take a deep look at your money. The fact that a decent daycare can cost more than 1k a month and factor that in. Look mommy guit is a thing. But I think you are thinking about the right things. Go with your heart on this, a toxic workplace will make parenting harder and it's not worth it.

9. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 12:38PM UTC

   I honestly don’t know how you will “stay at home with your child and work”. It’s nearly impossible to care for a newborn (4 months old) while working full time from home. I think your plan to get hired full time is a good one; however, I would seriously consider who will care for your child while you work. Best of luck to you and enjoy your new baby!

10. Hold on Lee LouJune 6,2024 at 12:41PM UTC

    If you can handle it financially, leave the toxic job and WFH part time at the other job even if they can't hire you full time. Babies need a lot of attention, so a full time job may even feel overwhelming.

    My son is 15, and I would go back to take more time with him in a heartbeat. Don't trade that for a garbage workplace if you don't have to.

11. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 12:42PM UTC

    I feel like I'm missing something - the proposal to work full-time, was that with the primary job or the second job?

    It sounds or the only upside of the primary job is that you get money from it. A significant upside, mind you, but it sounds like that's the only thing keeping you there. If you can work full-time at the second job, that sounds like a win, at least temporarily. I don't know the relative financial situation but the main challenge sounds like it's going to be balancing the new baby and the actions you need to take to go the direction you want to go. And that challenge is going to be there regardless of your choice.

    So, understanding that this is easier said than done - see if you can work full-time at the second job, and/or look for a replacement for the primary job income. Toxic is toxic, if you can get money elsewhere then get it and don't look back.

    Congratulations by the way!

12. Miquira JordanJune 6,2024 at 12:59PM UTC

    Thank you! Yes the proposal is to work the second job full time since I can wfh and it’s what I actually want to do. My first job is just toxic & you’re right .. money is the only thing keeping me there.

13. Jean NaanJune 6,2024 at 1:54PM UTC

    Stay at the job that will let your work remotely and allow you to be home with your baby. You never know if a full time position will open. Good luck and Congratualtions!

14. Miquira JordanJune 6,2024 at 2:30PM UTC

    Thank you… I’m hoping they agree to the FT position before I go on leave. In that case I’ll start fresh in January!

15. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 2:19PM UTC

    If you can live on a part time salary (hopefully, the job you like takes you on FT, but who knows), not lose your insurance and the hours are flexible in WFH, it sounds like your mind is already made up. Go for it and enjoy this new phase of your life. Congratulations!!

16. AnonymousJune 6,2024 at 3:01PM UTC

    Allow yourself to be as stress free as possible. When your baby arrives you'll need flexibility and will be stressed enough adjusting to motherhood and recovering. Think of this job as selfcare. You need to enjoy this time with your family and accomplish all that is on your plate.

    Why on earth would you invite further toxicity in your life?

17. AnonymousJune 7,2024 at 12:42PM UTC

    I don’t think you will miss the stress of the toxic job. Let it go if you can live off the part-time job income alone and utilize the now extra time with your new baby. Having a baby is a job in itself. See if you qualify for any government assistance or health insurance based on the part-time income amount and marital status. Remember this is not your final destination and this is until your baby is old enough or you feel more comfortable putting your child in daycare. Give yourself a peace of mind with not having to stress about returning to a frustrating work environment while navigating motherhood. Congrats and best wishes!

18. Jacqueline CutlerJune 8,2024 at 3:33PM UTC

    No toxic job is worth it for you or for the baby. If the second job, the part-time one, expands, that's terrific. If it doesn't, and you are not exclusive to them, then you can do the marketing/social media work for others as well.