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I’ve been going back and forth about posting this publicly on LinkedIn

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I’ve been going back and forth about posting this publicly on LinkedIn

My father died

when I came back to work, I was retaliated against - yelled at in meeting in front of staff, staff ceased all communication with me and my work was taken from me for months- even though I was still expected and did show up to work. I’ve never been reprimanded, written up or anything. At the time I’d only been apart of this organization for 4 months

i filed paper work to initiate informal mediation with “leadership” who acted unprofessionally, and they were neither remorseful or willing to communicate to explain why they did what they did or attempt resolve it.

i escalated it to EEOC and the “higher leadership” involved used me as a scapegoat to address and correct their lack of required established policies and procedures, but refused to hold the people under them accountable. Now, after fighting to get my work back, I’m supposed to be comfortable to work with these people again, to trust them with performance evaluations like a target isn’t going to be on my back. I’ve asked to be transferred to another department as well as help to leave. I’ve made it clear in meditation that I have no desire to work in a hostile environment or where I am not valued.

i am looking for a job, but what else should I do?

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  1. Anonymous

    It seems you have exhausted all recourse. Just keep looking for a new job. Also speak with an attorney to find out if there is a legal claim that might be file against the company for the further bad treatment.

  2. Anonymous

    Let your friends, former co-workers, neighbors, and anyone else you know who might be able to help that you're looking for work and be specific about what you're looking for. To be honest, after you successfully filed an EEOC complaint, they probably won't bully you any more; their lawyer probably told them to back off, but I totally understand wanting to leave. Use your connections, attend job fairs, make sure that you adjust your resume according to what a particular job requires, and remember you're at work to earn a paycheck, not to make friends. When you're not at work, treat yourself to things you enjoy and take good care of yourself.

  3. Anonymous

    Sounds like a bad experience but help us understand why would you post this on LinkedIn. Like, what’s the desired outcome?

  4. Anonymous

    My desired outcome would be for awareness. There are plenty of posts on LinkedIn about people having terrible experiences at work, some round it out with how they overcame them, some are seeking guidance just like I did here. But that’s just a perspective, which is why I said I’m not sure if I should post it there or not. Maybe I’ll get recommendations for a great employment lawyer and more advice on how to move forward….

  5. Anonymous

    Serious question: what do you want an employment lawyer to do for you, tell this employer that they’re mean and nasty? This board’s default position is always get an attorney. Sorry to say but it’s not illegal to be an ass hole. Find another job and move on. If you’re still agonizing about this to the point that you’re considering airing your plight on LinkedIn, think about visiting with a counselor. As so many others have said, a LinkedIn missive will black list you. People will 100% be afraid to hire you.

  6. Anonymous

    Not sure why you would consider airing this on LinkedIn but I would advise against it especially in this tight job market. Fair or not, most potential employers would not look favorably on a contentious LinkedIn 'drama' post. Talk to an employment attorney. Many offer a free initial consult.

  7. Anonymous

    Im not sure if I should, which is why my post opened that way. My goal is gain perspective any spread awareness, who knows who else has gone through this and felt defeated. Maybe they didn’t have this outlet to learn of employment lawyers who offer free consultations. So, thank you for that.

  8. Anonymous

    I understand. But if your desire is to find another job in the current job market, you might want to think twice. There are other places that you can air the grievances to help others without shooting yourself in the foot as you try to move forward. We're in a very different employment climate right now. 3 or 4 years ago, you could have gotten away with a LinkedIn grievance post. Today, it will get you blackballed.

  9. Anonymous

    I’m not understanding why you would post this situation on LinkedIn…..

  10. Anonymous

    I didn’t have that same experience but my sister died. 7 years ago now. The week leading up to that day I was out of the office, over at her house with her husband and teenagers. It was an end to a 5 year battle with ALS.

    My company had been acquired recently. My manager was no longer my manager, but she reported to my new manager, who was located in another state. When I figured I’d be out for a little bit, but didn’t really know more than that, I called my previous manager, who knew all about the situation over the past years. I let her know and asked her to inform OUR new boss. I didn’t know this new boss at all. She canceled a meeting with me when she visited our site, and didn’t reschedule. I had never talked to her. I managed a team of 5 at the time. And I guess she didn’t want to talk to me. Which was fine. I knew my job. When I returned to the office after my sister died she left me a voice mail. She had nothing say other than it was highly inappropriate for me to not inform HER of my absence directly. I replied to that message saying ”I know (my previous manager) kept you informed. I’m sorry if your feelings were hurt that I wasn’t up to sharing with someone I’ve never spoken to before. I’ll leave it at that”. Next time I heard from her was a couple months later when my whole team was laid off in a 5 minute group conversation via conference call. We weren’t surprised and didn’t mind at all. Our whole company was being laid off week by week. That woman though. Who needs to be like that?

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