What are small signs that a job is not for you long term?

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1. AnonymousFebruary 27,2022 at 5:31PM UTC

   I wore rose colored glasses for the first 6+ months of a “dream job”, but slowly the little concerns/red flags I noticed, even from back to the interview process, became more problematic. I stayed in the role for 2.5 years because the work was great, culture not so much, and I wanted to push through the adversity and gain experience.

   I didn’t exactly leave gracefully, as I told my boss how awful the job was (he agreed!) but I quit with 3 weeks notice and nothing else lined up. Was so depleted by the dysfunction that I rendered myself incapable of having energy and clarity to look for something else.

   I guess my advice is listen to your gut, it’s likely not misleading you. Think to how your future self would’ve wanted you to handle the difficult circumstances and do your best to learn what you can while keeping options open. Don’t overstay just to have a certain tenure on your resume. Best of luck to you!

2. SarahMarch 1,2022 at 1:20PM UTC

   Yes! Don't over stay! It's more harmful for you in the end. Burnout is real. I only stayed about 4 months too long in a role and I felt like I was empty. I can't believe you did 2.5 years!

3. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 8:51PM UTC

   I had too much pride to resign, was in my 20’s and thought it would make me a “quitter” if I didn’t continue to grind it out. Thank goodness a mentor talked some sense into me and encouraged me to leave!

4. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 1:22PM UTC

   "Don't overstay just to have a certain tenure on your resume" was the literal advice I needed to hear today. In a similar position to many of you right now, and I'm contemplating returning to my previous position within the company.

5. Julie AndrewsMarch 1,2022 at 1:35PM UTC

   Perfect advice-don’t overstay! Big mistake.

6. Keisha JonesFebruary 28,2022 at 2:01AM UTC

   Hi Anon,

   I would say having a manager that has no knowledge of your job duties, offers no advice to help you advance in the workplace, and throws you under the bus for something they were responsible for completing. Also, if you hear current employees start taking bets on how long they think you will last.

7. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 2:02PM UTC

   On the flipside - a manager who used to do your job and nitpicks every little thing, micromanages, and ultimately can't make room for you in their head.

8. KathrynMarch 1,2022 at 1:15PM UTC

   We could be twins I took this job because my interim one ended suddenly now little and big things but my favorite we want to call you manager but you still make minor mistakes yes because I am human. She mentioned two mistakes and then tells someone else she loves me because I can do anything, Make up your mind please. And she would never tell me i am doing a good job. Im looking getting interviews juts no offers yet

9. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 1:51PM UTC

   As your manager she can love you as an employee, see the potential for your growth and still point out mistakes you made. That’s her job and that’s how you learn. If she didn’t point out legitimate mistakes she wouldn’t be doing her job. If they weren’t legitimate mistakes that’s one thing. She should, however, tell you you’re doing a good job when you do a good job. She should be encouraging you. If she isn’t an honest conversation with her to let her know what you need may be all that’s needed to fix the situation.

10. SarahMarch 1,2022 at 1:19PM UTC

    I've had several experiences where it wasn't a fit. 1)when the job lacked any ability to be creative and autonomous, everything was so boiler plate and standardized I wondered why a robot didn't do my job sometimes! 2) when I was treated like a vending machine versus a true partner that was consulted. There were a lot of templates versus serving my "customers" uniquely ?3) Where the value of the role and team were hard to link to the business outcome and it felt uncertain how our jobs were justified.

11. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 1:34PM UTC

    I’m in this position now. The people are great, the pay is good, but the overall culture is just not for me. By definition, universities are free thinking, but when you are trying to get something done, everyone (and I mean everyone) having the ability to say no and not adopt new tools and/or ideas is really frustrating to me. I left many years of corporate success to feel like I am a failure.

    Things were improving for me, but now the director that convinced me to take the job is leaving, right as there are some significant changes to where our team is within the organization. This made me think that there would be some fundamental changes to how the team would run. Sure enough, our contractors, who have always been treated like direct employees are no longer part of the regular meetings, etc. As we were part of the operational excellence team, this does not sit well with my 20+ years of experience in OE, the last five of which were in leadership roles.

    I took this job to wind down the last 2-3 years of my career, thinking that directly helping people cope with the ever changing work environment would get me back to what I love doing. Now, I’m just confused, and for the first time ever, seriously thinking about leaving a job without another lined up.

    Hoping you figure it out!

12. MonicaMarch 1,2022 at 1:36PM UTC

    First off, I applaud you in this post and realization - not always an easy thing to come to terms with! I’ve dealt with quite a lot of those “small things” in my past experiences as well - from the immediate hire to the little mannerisms experienced or observed of team members that you notice don’t sit well with you, but maybe don’t have the words at the time to reason the why behind it. That said, while we might call them small things, they sure do add up quickly - from my experience, taking note of each of those things was helpful when I reviewed the larger list to identify not only what it was that I wanted in my next role, but the next company that I wanted to work for.

    I’d encourage you to 1) continue to lean on the FGB community - a really warm, welcoming space here; 2) start branching out to people in your network who might either have direct experience that aligns with what you love and are looking for, and/or could potentially make a connect; and 3) build, build, BUILD that resume, if you haven’t already - start mindfully taking note of the things that you’d like to showcase from your current role in conversations with potential future employers. Quantify everything.

    If you want to leave gracefully, what I’ve found is that continuing to put good and fair efforts into what you’re doing now is a great way to ensure you aren’t burning bridges upon your departure - and when you put in your notice, having that open conversation with your manager (as you feel comfortable) to communicate that you’ve appreciated the opportunities to learn and grow with the team and as a professional, and want to venture into opportunities that are more closely aligned with your career goals. No one could, or I should say SHOULD, ever argue with that - and if they do, it solidifies your having made the right decision for YOU - no one can take that away from you. Best of luck!! Let us know how it goes :)

13. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 1:37PM UTC

    I was casually asked my first week, "So how long will you work before you quit to homeschool your kids?" I was casually told my first month my brother "probably shouldn't exist" (he's mixed race).

    My first year I was repeatedly asked to get coffee for people attending MY meetings, and called "sweetie". It wasn't so much the microaggressions - it was that the company created an environment with no personal accountability and no training on what is and is not acceptable workplace behavior. That one aspect of company culture was enough for me to know this is not my forever company.

14. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 5:21AM UTC

    Yiiiiikes.

15. Ale GMarch 1,2022 at 1:37PM UTC

    Left my remote work for the first job that I was offered. 9 months later, I kind of regret my decision. Not easy and I am there with you. Taking my time now to go back to remote work. Hang in there, don’t settle. That opportunity we want, it’s out there for us. Stay alert and avoid red flags!

16. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 2:27PM UTC

    I'm not entirely sure that any sign is a "small" sign. Anything that doesn't seem quite right should be viewed as a warning sign to be watched. Some of the difficult areas might be temporary due to internal changes/restructuring, due to new hire training period/acclimation, or might be due to learning communication styles and how to push things along in the organization.

    If there is restructuring (new management, new systems, new structure), there should be consistent and transparent communication from the organization and leadership, especially direct leadership. The communication and processes towards improvement should be consistent.

    If you are a new hire going through training and orientation, again communication is key. Are there regular follow-ups with direct supervisor and team? Is the process and communication tying into the overall company mission and goals? Maybe your role doesn't connect directly to upper-level leaders (C-Suite), however, there should be consistency.

    And you definitely should be introduced to and shown the lines of contact you will have (i.e., reconcile customer invoicing with accounting, work with tax department with withholding/company liabilities, organize onboarding new hires with administrative assistant, review bonuses/commissions with retail leaders, etc.).

    As a leader, I reach out to my department heads and other leaders to meet-n-greet and learn how I connect with them and how I can assist them. I don't leave that up to my direct supervisor. However, my direct supervisor (no matter the level) should be involved ensuring communication is flowing and there is clear understanding. Direct supervisor should also be there to ensure that other leaders/managers are working collaboratively as well.

    I bypassed some "smaller" things the past two direct roles I had. They really were not "small" at all; I let them slide thinking "oh, maybe that is just how they talk because they know each other and are comfortable".... or...."I'm sure once I get in there and start learning everything will connect". WRONG! One situation the CEO insulted my profession - HR. Directly said to me that he hates hiring HR. Also said that HR is just a complaint department. Same CEO, whom I met with several times a week, would put down and discredit several managers - one of whom was on my team! Wow, I should have recognized that for what it was - a horrific display of an immature leader and lack of understanding how to build an organization.

    The other situation I had a bad feeling, and the BIG issues came fast and furious. It was a mess of systems and processes that did not connect. Along with that, a leadership team that did not have an understanding or appreciation of legal compliance for company registrations with regards to payroll and other tax liabilities (multi-state/multi-site operation). Beside all of those issues, direct supervisor NEVER outlined to me who I would connect with for what. And the team that I was on, my supervisor and recruiters, cursed regularly (F-word), dressed in leggings, jeans with holes and one recruiter actually came to the office in slippers.

    Please, listen to your intuition....it is usually spot on!

17. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 2:34PM UTC

    I always read but never comment but this is me.
    The job I have was one of the first ones I applied for the first week of my layoff. A couple of interviews and a couple of months later I was offered the position. I think after the first 3 months, I knew this wasn't the right fit for me. My boss is very accommodating and my coworkers are great, for the most part. The training, or should I say the lack of training has spurred my decision to start looking. I give the company 110% and got a very good review for my first year here but I'm not used to struggling so much. Good luck in your search and do not settle. Find a company that is a good fit for you.

18. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 2:41PM UTC

    Sounds similar and I cut bait, could not be happier.

19. AmeliaMarch 1,2022 at 2:52PM UTC

    I've actually been through this quite recently. Several instances of sexism from my boss have been driving nails into the coffin, but the final sign was our HR manager giving her notice because she was overlooked for a promotion. It's a bit complicated, but our company *just* talked about employee recruitment and retention, and our exec team decided to hire an external candidate with no HR experience to fill their VP of HR position. It reeks of something sneaky and controlling to me, so I'm doing the same thing- slow steps to begin looking for a new job.

20. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 3:33PM UTC

    I came back from sick leave (cancer) and i knew my boss would have rather have temp in place of me. I stayed on, we went all went out for lunch and my boss basically said that we needed to find the temp a permanent position. A few months later she advised me that no one in our team liked me (lies). I knew my boss personally for years before i took that position and to be honest she wasn't a very nice person to me after my sick leave. A year and half after i returned our company was sold to another company and i knew then and there that i was going to be let go but i refused to quit as they had no just cause to fire me. They had to give me a severance package. so two weeks after christmas, i was let go but on the positive note, i called one of my former employees and was hired right after i was fired, and i still received my severance package for 3 months. So in the end I won and my former boss has lost as basically they have now sold their soul to the devil while staying at the new company.

21. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 5:15AM UTC

    I’m really sorry you had to put up with such a monster.

    I’m so glad you were hired + got to get that 3 months severance.

    Bravo!

22. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 8:16PM UTC

    Thanks, i never understood women who were in the same position that we were in and get promoted and then become such bitches.
    Like what changed in their mentality.

23. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 3:55PM UTC

    I would say right now my issue is that I have an absentee boss. It seems nice because you have autonomy and you're not being micromanaged but there is no one around to manage the strategy and/or vision of where you're going. I would also say that my current role was misrepresented in terms of what it really is. I feel like my job is basically sales and business development. I'm in a pickle because my first role was only 8 months (super toxic), my second role was 2 years (boss was laid off 6 months in during covid), and now I'm 6 months into this role and it's not what I imagined. I would honestly leave tomorrow if I could but I feel forced to stay for a period of time because everyone seems to get so upset about "tenure."

24. Melissa M.March 2,2022 at 2:06AM UTC

    I totally hear you there as a person who has done lots of contract work. Unfortunately, there's an old school mentality about tenure at companies versus seeing someone as marketable, adaptable, resilient, etc.

25. GirlBossanova934974March 1,2022 at 4:37PM UTC

    Hate to say it but this is becoming more of an issue in today's workplace. From my several decades of work experience, what you get out of your job is OFTEN what you put into your job! Expecting rose peddles and honey in the first few weeks as some sort of sign of what's to come is somewhat unrealistic. There is a thing known as a settling in period. After that, you never know what's going to come through that door. Maybe some senior manager leaves for a big pay raise and there is a big promotion up for grabs? Maybe the company gets a big contract and there are plenty of new highly paid skillsets to be had? Somebody and/or your not so great boss retires and in comes a real 'go-getter' who wants to hear your ideas etc. You never going to find out unless you stick around. Fortune favors the bold.

26. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 9:04PM UTC

    I can say with no hesitation that had I stayed on longer at most of my jobs it just would have been a longer stint at a crappy job lol. I usually keep it touch with people for years and years after leaving and 95 percent of the time nothing would change. That being said, I do agree that benefits could potentially come to those who wait it has just never happened to me lol.

27. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 7:35PM UTC

    It's often not about the employee at all, it's about how the organization is structured, especially at the corporate level. There is either a place for growth, or there isn't.

28. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 4:44PM UTC

    I knew about six months into the job I just left that it wasn't as good a fit as I had wanted it to be. The work was frankly boring. Covid hit, so I just put up with being bored so we had that stability during lockdown. We were in lockdown for only six more months before they forced us back in, and then we were on a hybrid schedule for a year. It was tolerable during that time, for the most part, although I knew I wasn't working at anywhere near my capability. There was a team member that was visibly miserable working for our manager and VP, and when she finally got out, they decided to grow the department. They initially hired two very junior people, gave them opportunities that should have gone to someone more senior, and that was when I started actively looking. It got worse when they hired yet another person who started openly arguing with me about what she wanted to do out of what were already my responsibilities, which she was in no way qualified to do. I had one of "those meetings" when I was told "no one on your team likes you", which were lies, and that very day, I turned in the resignation letter I had already written and left permanently. When I looked at what I would have to deal with if I had stayed, even if I had given a two-week notice: more negativity, un-inspiring projects that were coming in at a slow drip, gossip, poor covid response, mandatory in-office presence, a long commute...versus MUCH more creative freedom and decision making power, it was such an easy choice. I don't regret a thing. I don't know if they would have considered that graceful on my part, since I didn't stick around long enough to suffer through another two weeks. But, within 24 hours of my resignation, I opened up a business account at the bank and set three appointments to drum up business. I'm still looking for another role somewhere, but I have plenty to keep me busy (and paid) in the meantime. I live and work in a at-will employment state, so while they would have liked to off-board me at their leisure, it wasn't anything I was obligated to do. It's never healthy to remain in a poisonous environment.

29. Claire McCabeMarch 1,2022 at 5:07PM UTC

    Our boss said disparaging things about my direct reports. She interrupted people to answer her cell phone. The turnover rate was sky-high. The person in my role before me resigned for "health" reasons. Wish I had known before taking the job! (I left, btw) :-)

30. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 5:10PM UTC

    The small signs are the gut feeling you have that you are being overlooked, left out of work / projects that you should be a part of and that your co-workers ignore your inputs. They are tiny micro aggressions and easy to deal with while you look for something else.

31. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 5:29PM UTC

    culture has a lot to do with it too. If the culture is "we have no sense of urgency", then you will never accomplish anything. Unfortunately, the only way to find out ahead of time is to ask the questions that are most important to you as far as culture goes - or you know someone that works there already.

32. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 5:50PM UTC

    Diversity and inclusion - I’m Asian and really struggle with white bro culture at my current gig

    The way they work vs the way I like to work — I really enjoy working and so I’m a grinder as my mentor calls it. It can be hard working in an org that’s a little more slow/sleepy if that’s your natural drive.

    Opportunity to learn and grow — being challenged on the job is super important to me. As well as upward mobility in it.

    trust and communication!

    all the above things are specific to me though, so you should consider what are the top 5 most meaningful things to you to be happy at a job and scout an organisation like that :)

33. Shelby CMarch 1,2022 at 6:23PM UTC

    I have usually left for very common reasons:
    1) Vile, abusive management
    2) End of contract
    3) Relocated

    In my youth, I commonly left due to plain boredom. If I felt like I had done it all and was no longer challenged, being limited, they didn't trust me because of my age or gender, or they were petty and jealous... I left. I didn't want to deal with it. I learned. I selected better and developed better management skills. We need to learn customer service and management even if we aren't in those traditional roles because all employees are customers as well and it is a beautiful thing to learn how to manage your manager by anticipating their needs before they know they have them.

    I am not the type that "jumps" into anything anymore. My husband teases me because I plan to be spontaneous, but he is so predictable. :)

34. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 9:50PM UTC

    The small signs I usually notice first are physical things within me. I start feeling anxiety before work or certain meetings. Lack of sleep, delayed menstrual periods, and not a healthy work/life balance. Then I ask what is the cause of these symptoms and what can I do about them.

35. Chere EstrinMarch 1,2022 at 11:24PM UTC

    Generally, you start to notice that you are not getting the same amount of work as others; you are left out of meetings; your boss suddenly needs to see everything you are doing; you do not agree with the culture or politics of the firm; you feel that you are discriminated against; and more. Listen, if it's not right, you know it. That little red flag goes up and the radar turns on. There's no use looking for signs from the other side. You don't want to cry in the shower every morning. If it's not right, it's not right.

36. AnonymousMarch 1,2022 at 11:41PM UTC

    On 09/09/2019 I closed on my first house and on 09/28/2019, I along with many others were told our last day would be 10/31/2019. My severance was to end 04/30/2020 in addition to some other benefits.

    Because I had just purchased a home, I was worried and began the job hunt immediately and in November I interviewed with a company and my first day was December 10, 2019.

    In the beginning, it was so exciting because I was travelling, it was a different industry--although I was doing the same tasks for the most part, and I was just happy to have landed so quickly on my feet. Not to mention my ability to still receive a severance through April 2020.

    By April 2020, I knew that it wasn't the job for me. A couple of high achieving direct reports took to me and told me the task I was hired to do, was greater in scope than the leadership team anticipated and this was said to me multiple times. In hindsight, I came to understand what they meant and the magnitude.

    There were no training manuals, no training department, nothing documented, folks relied on tribal knowledge, work was being operated in silos due to several company acquisitions, there were no SOP's, no governance, departments and teams not communicating, and there was an emphasis on all things sales and the sales departments, other work groups be damned (just call us Cinderella).

    I reported to three people in a 8 month period and luckily the second person heard me when I said, "we are not ready." Fast forward and it's been two years this past December after telling myself I wouldn't stay past a year.

    I have interviewed with a few other companies--often when I felt myself getting perturbed at all of the "mess" and interviewed out of "anger" and as CV19 progressed, I started thinking about what I truly wanted to do and what I loved.

    So I'm still there because I am starting a business and it's super convenient, especially with me working remotely. A new job would require my time and attention and quite frankly, if it's one good thing that came out of CV19, I would say the drive and awakening that motivated a large amount of people to take a bet on themselves and go for it!

    I still perform at 100%, which is great, however, I'm competitive, I create and drive high performance teams, and my professional reputation is very important to me, so my typical is always 100+++, except in this instance.

    I do plan on leaving, but not until my ducks are in a row! When you know, you know. So if you're questioning it, your questioning is probably valid!

    I wish you well with your future endeavors whatever and wherever they may be!

    Sincerely,

    Almost OutofThere

37. Liz MilneMarch 2,2022 at 12:21AM UTC

    My only concern with this is your belief that you jumped at this job too quickly and that's why your ennui has set in: do be sure that you didn't accidentally luck into a good job; one you're underestimating because they hired you so easily.

    It would be awful to jump ship and then realise that, actually, the job was okay, and had you been looking for six months or more, your gratitude at *finally* landing a job might have kept it sweet for much longer?

38. Janet ParkhurstMarch 2,2022 at 1:17AM UTC

    After reading most of the input here, I'm sensing that we're considering red flags that are based on the people around us and EXTERNALS--not inner signs and emotions that try so desperately to grab our attention and move us to make a change--even if it's "too soon." Even if it means admitting to having made a mistake.

    When I started my new job, I was eager to learn and thrilled to have been given the opportunity. It was a brand-new industry and a brand-new job. It was exciting, challenging, and rewarding, so I almost didn't notice that I was putting in way more time (unpaid) than I should have been. I just wanted to be the best in this new role!

    Fast forward... less than six months later, I have anxiety dreams almost nightly, feel a slice of fear when I see my boss's name on incoming calls and now experience the functions of the job as rote and mechanical.

    Worst of all, there are so many moving parts to the job, that it consumes way too much of my brain and far more time than the 24 hours I am allotted per week to get it all done. I track my time and my average work week comes out to be, like, 34 - 35 hours per week. So consider the inner rage that comes with working for free and we can add "feeling exploited" to the list. (The expectation of Management is that I can and should be able to easily perform my duties within that time limit, which is way out of sync with reality.)

    So, where I once couldn't wait to get out of bed and do that job, now I'm filled with dread and loathing in the morning. I am also indulging in unusual, self-sabotaging and destructive behavior, such as staying up ridiculously late, watching reruns on TV and drinking way too much wine.

    I've invested so much time, energy and money (I seriously decorated my office), and now just feel down and depressed about the whole situation.

    So, my point is, regardless of our real situations and how we deal with them on the outside, the REAL RED FLAGS are coming from within. We must listen to our inner voices, acknowledge and honor those unruly emotions (and horrific new behaviors) and face the very real fear that can only accompany the acknowledgement that we are wasting our lives by succumbing to the unholy hell of working at something that brings very little joy each and every day. Or, on a larger scale, and one that will eventually manifest, a job that feels like a punishment. Listen, not one of us knows how much time we really have left in this life, so, in the words of a long-ago favorite colleague who succeeded at everything he did, "If it isn't fun, don't do it."

39. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 2:16AM UTC

    I am in this position as well almost 9 months into a job and there have been a lot of signs over the months, poor communication, lack of clarity on assigned projects, micro aggressions, some toxic colleagues who try to throw you under bus or subtlety try to sabotage your success, lack of communication from senior management, working in silos, leaders openly talk badly about colleagues, high turnover, lack of culture and DE and I , lack of collaboration.

    Today I’ve reached that decision after feeling utterly defeated on a project where I was excited with in the beginning and now i don’t care. I cried after work and realised this is it. No job is worth this no matter how short the tenure. Time to get out. Your gut/ body will tell you its not right! Always pay attention to those red flags or feelings something isn’t right as it usually gets worse. Best to realise sooner than later! The longer you stay the more negative it can make you feel. This has happened in several roles now but I’ve realised the only thing you can change is yourself. Build up your confidence, stay positive and learn from this and look for a better company.

40. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 4:02AM UTC

    Similar scenario, 1st job after layoff, subtle hints which made me realize it was not a good decision. The organization and my values were in conflict. The organization would tell little lies repeatedly, numbers were being fudged, bad practices and I jumped ship without a parachute. I was miserable and disappointed with myself at having made the decision to accept it. Then I found an employer and a manager to whom I thought it would be a win-win and it was not. She’s the epitome of a pioneer in the field, it did not translate into an empathetic leader. Loud and abrasive, belligerent in her tone, and condescending. Federal funded dollars, no SOPs, no direction/instruction— it was pure chaos, little sleep, 3am wake-up, weight loss and stress. Needless to say, I jumped ship less than 3 mos, this time prepared with a new job. Now my highlight is I am in my field of interest, learning new skills that will be an added benefit to my next opportunity — ST, I plan to stay. Get my things in order and then figure out what’s next. I think about the saying, the grass is greener on the other side and remind myself, the grass is greener wherever I water it. So now, my focus is on giving and receiving 110%, it’s not financially based— it’s on the intrinsic reward. I’m pleased to be in my field and have a seat at the table to bring about positive change.

41. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 4:51AM UTC

    I totally understand. This was me just recently, and we decided to mutually part ways. I had been looking for a lot longer than you, and an old boss contacted me. I was feeling the desperation and jumped in where I shouldn't have. I was hesitant at first, and over the next few months I became miserable. It just didn't feel right, and I didn't feel like I "fit" the organization. I have a whole creative side. This was far from creative. I have a lot of happiness and energy, and everyone just kept to themselves there. I was used to managing teams, and I was only managing myself and being managed. I felt almost claustrophobic. I think if you're asking the questions about if a job isn't right for you, it probably isn't.

    That being said, leaving isn't necessarily easy. But you just tell them that you found something else that spoke to you more. You owe the company nothing, really...and maybe they'll find someone that will love what they do. Think of it as making space for a person who may love it more than you. I know they did where I was. I'm sure my replacement is farrrr happier than I was.

42. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 3:34PM UTC

    I needed to read this and all the comments! same here. I took a new role within my company, because I was getting steller performance reviews but no upward advancement opportunity over the last 3-4 yrs. It took me 8 mos, but I found another role internally, better money, new team. It was the fear of leaving the 'golden handcuffs' of pay, benefits, and a leader in the industry. After <1 yr into the new role, I understand why it had been vacant. -Unmanageable workload -Poor internal collaboration (left off emails, off meetings) -Incomplete work by other groups -Self-directed onboarding ("just ask, what you need") - support and focus on measurements, not action. I've come to the realization, that this company will continue to overlook my talents and that I've delayed my departure by taking this role. furhtermore, my talents may not be the best match (my fault for thinking so)

    In the recent months, I've been interviewing externally. I think my fear that it will be worse elsewhere, has me stuck where I am. I'm unhappy...

    Something must change, and those 'red flags' I experience are BOTH, my internal voice and the external workplace factors. This has happened before, and I've figured it's usually 50/50 on the outcome if I like and thrive in a new role (based off my past experiences).

    Signed,

    I'm Ready to Blow this Taco Stand

43. AnonymousMarch 2,2022 at 7:48PM UTC

    The devil you know paralysis is real! I have to believe that there is a better place for those who seek it out, though!

44. Beth ConsugarMarch 3,2022 at 2:10PM UTC

    Feeling not challenged. Not bored, but not challenged.

    Not feeling motivated to go to work most days. We all have a day here and there when we don’t feel like going to work, but if most days are like that, you may have a small sign.

    Not feeling connected to your co-workers. No need to be best friends, but you should feel connected.

    I hope you find the right position for you soon!

45. AnonymousMarch 3,2022 at 5:36PM UTC

    No coat closet. It may seem insignificant, but I've found that it indicates poor planning in every aspect.

    Other subtle signs are the use of outdated language or a stale website. The organization is likely slow to adapt and evolve, which will be evident in technology, procedures, etc. There's usually a general lack of initiative in these environments.

46. AnonymousMarch 7,2022 at 7:19PM UTC

    Stale website…so true. Also, in some cases, I’ve found a stale office environment is a sign too. Dusty shelves, old calendars hung up, cubes not taken care of in years, etc.

47. AnonymousMarch 10,2022 at 3:58AM UTC

    Oh yes! Perfect description, lol. When I think of past employers, this one tracks. It even correlates w/how competitive my compensation was. That can't be a coincidence.

48. AnonymousMarch 3,2022 at 8:00PM UTC

    I’ve just given my notice after too many months of feeling confused, frustrated, unfulfilled. It hit my confidence hard - everyone else seems so happy, is it me? Maybe I’m not good enough for this? And now, after being hired by a woman who’s given me more positive reinforcement just during the interview process than what I’ve experienced in the role I’m about to leave, I realize: nope, it’s not just me! It isn’t a good fit. I am looking forward to my next adventure and already have several indications the next job is going to be a far better experience!

49. AnonymousMarch 4,2022 at 7:07PM UTC

    Hang in there, it takes 2 at least to tangle. Positive thoughts your way!

50. Carla VargasMarch 5,2022 at 3:03PM UTC

    Thanks for the encouragement!

51. AnonymousMarch 8,2022 at 5:44PM UTC

    All of these comments!
    So helpful and insightful.

    like so many, I’m in a similar boat. From week 2, I began questioning if I made the right choice of offers. I feel a sense of guilt and unappreciativeness because I know they are willing to invest in me for my own growth, but the culture isn’t the best fit for me. I’ve also began to realize - this is ok! I can’t compare what works for me with what works for someone else. The reason someone chooses to stay here 6 years are their own. I started looking at the same way I buy jeans….a size in one brand may fit me but not the lady in the next dressing room. You should not settle for “one size fits most”.

    the biggest flag for me, we aren’t allowed to have more than one personal item on our desks, if it’s a photo, has to be smaller than 5x7. And we can’t have anything on top of the cabinets next to us. Clean sight lines throughout the office.

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    If you consistently feel disengaged, uninterested, or lack passion for the work you're doing jacksmith, it could be a sign that the job is not aligned with your long-term goals and aspirations.
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