Freaking out as I have an interview today for a role that represents the cultivation of my experience.

Anonymous

July 22,2022 at 4:09PM UTC

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Freaking out as I have an interview today for a role that represents the cultivation of my experience. I'm trying to treat it like a regular interview and prepared multiple times but I'm literally shaking with both nerves and excitement. I haven't been this amped in a long time for an interview and really want this role. My goal is to blend excitement for the role without appearing too eager. I've tried everything today from exercise, meditation and prayer but I'm still angsty. Does anyone have any tips on how to chill while appearing relaxed at the interview?

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AnonymousJuly 22,2022 at 4:45PM UTC
It lies in your breath. You must control your breathing so energy flows and does not get stuck in your body.
When energy flows your mind is sharp and you are better able to articulate your thoughts and focus on your responses.
Do some deep breathing exercises and harness all that adrenaline.
Good luck!
AnonymousJuly 22,2022 at 6:03PM UTC
Anonymous, thank you and that helped. I sometimes hold my breath and by the end of the interview, I'm feeling lightheaded. Telling myself to remember to breathe and taking long-drawn out breaths is taking away some of the nerves.
AnonymousJuly 22,2022 at 5:09PM UTC
I'm bad at coming off as "relaxed," as I'm pretty much never relaxed. The little things I do that seem to help, however, are having hidden "anchors" around me.
If I'm in an in-person situation, I'll wear a certain jewelry item or something (it's more difficult then) but if it's a video call, I'll have little keepsakes that mean something to me on the top of my monitor or even in front of generally-blank screen space. As my hands don't need to be flailing on camera all the time (yet frequently are anyway), I'm usually holding something right in front of my keyboard. It's kind of the same concept as a stress ball but I'm an extremely sentimental and kinetic person, so discreetly fiddling with a bracelet one of my kids made me can help keep me grounded in a situation and focused on where I want to be.
AnonymousJuly 22,2022 at 6:04PM UTC
Thank you, Anonymous. It's a Zoom call so I went around the house and took memorable photos into the room to use as anchors. I don't feel alone and when feeling nervous, I can glance their way and take a breath / relax.
AnonymousJuly 22,2022 at 5:40PM UTC
I've been in your shoes! I say be genuine, tell the interviewer(s) that you are finding it difficult to contain your excitement to find a role that truly feels like it was made for you.
Congrats! You will do well! The fgb community is thinking of you!
AnonymousJuly 22,2022 at 6:06PM UTC
Love this group and thank you for the positive vibes. I wouldn't be so nervous if I didn't want the role. I know there isn't a perfect position but from the previous conversation and JD, it sounds perfect for me. Thank you again!
AnonymousJuly 22,2022 at 9:29PM UTC
How did it go??????
Crystal HowellJuly 23,2022 at 12:15PM UTC
I went through that long ago, I bite my tongue a little. It relieves stress and puts me back on track. Good Luck!
AnonymousJuly 23,2022 at 12:49PM UTC
Hope all went well on your call!