Reasons why you may have been ghosted!

Reasons why you may have been ghosted!

Have you ever been ghosted by a Recruiter?

Yes. This is uber unprofessional.

Yes. There is no excuse.

Now that we’ve gotten that out the way, we can begin to try to understand this phenomenon in order to assist you in possibly preventing it and/or how to maneuver or deal with it.

For some context…

Ghosting…is a haunting word that was selected to define this action for a purpose. In this context and most when referenced, it refers to receiving or being in contact with someone and then the ultimate shade…they disappear with no warning or explanation.

Here are my top 3 reasons that a Recruiter may Ghost you? It may seem ridiculous but the mindset of a Recruiter, especially if a third-party Recruiter, is that once a posting or message is sent out about a potential opportunity that anyone truly interested will jump on it.

Untimely Responses

It may seem ridiculous but the mindset of a Recruiter, especially if a third-party Recruiter, is that once a posting or message is sent out about a potential opportunity that anyone truly interested will jump on it. Though it is innately understood that there could be several reasons that a person is unable to respond quickly, in this market there are several others who will.

On to the Next

I call it the “Recruiter Brain”. Often times Recruiters are faced with multiple job requisitions if internal or for staffing/third-party recruiters, they are working with multiple clients with multiple job requisitions, simultaneously. Once a Recruiter sets their eyes on a specific role/job post, their focus can be very short lived. How this manifest is that while the Recruiter is focused in on this role you have their attention and outreach is sent. After all candidates of interest have received outreach…they are “on to the next…” role. If not responsive in a quick window of time, by the time you respond the Recruiter is on to something else. This in itself presents a challenge however what complicates it and swings it even more out of your favor is if 10 others have already responded, fit the bill of what the Recruiter is looking for and meets the magic number of candidates they were looking to forward along to their client.

By the time you respond, and the goal has already been met, you then run into the challenge of the number 1 reason why you may be ghosted by a Recruiter.

Sheer Volume

Recruiters are human too! Surprise. There is the ability to just be overwhelmed. The goal of the Recruiter is to meet their goal and satisfy their client, which is usually not the job seeker. Once that is complete then the rest is considered the aftermath. There are some great systems and tools that can and are being used to be more accommodating to candidates throughout the application process, however, some Recruiters don’t even have time to update the system to trigger the communication at that moment. Yes. It sounds like this should be a required part of the job and has increased as a focal point for most people-first organizations but especially if a third-party Recruiter, and there is no guarantee of placement in play, there is really no priority to responding back to share that a role has been filled or that the goal number of potential candidates has been reached. Not comprehensible from the job seeker perspective, but think about the current market and the number of applicants that you see have already submitted applications. If there are over 100 applicants for each role and a Recruiter is working on 100 roles, that’s 10,000 applicants to 1 Recruiter.

So now that we’ve examined “the why”, let’s talk about some ways to prevent!

· Be responsive

· Respond quickly, even if it is simply to state that you are interested

· Be transparent…responding to share that you are interested but currently away from your laptop, or in a meeting, etc. Is perfectly acceptable.

· Provide a timeframe…sharing when you ARE able to submit your resume or set up a call is very informative. There is no guarantee that the Recruiter will still be accepting candidates for the role at that time but it is better than not responding or responding with an open-ended response to a call to action.

· Be prepared in advance. Set yourself up to be able to respond quickly. Having your resume saved on your phone, having a 5-min vetting process (referenced below), having quick access to your calendar and availability or already having an idea or script prepared to be able to jump on quick calls with Recruiters are all good steps to be able to be on your toes.

Warning - It is recommended that you develop a 5-minute vetting process. Once a new opportunity arises and you have received a communication expressing interest in your skills or wanting to move forward in the interview process, you should be able to vet the source, company, role, etc. very quickly before you respond, as unfortunately there are also job scams out there. Look at the LinkedIn profile, company website, Glassdoor reviews or posted testimonials, etc. If you even get the feeling that something seems off, then abort mission.

Hopefully this helps lend a little understanding in a job search market where the applicant pool is increasing. It's my guess that these occurrences may also trend in the same direction.

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  1. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition Specialist

    Another potential reason: the recruiter has been laid off - Talent Acquisition teams have been decimated in the lay offs - and may no longer be there to get back to you.

  2. Kat

    But what about clients who never get to this stage? All the recruiters I've met with have the same spiel - you've got this great resume, and I can work with you to tap into all these hidden jobs. Then I hear nothing back. I don't ever get to the stage where I'm actually a candidate for anything-just a contact quota filler. That's the part of the recruiter process that frustrates a lot of people.

  3. OLIVIA JOHNSON

    Hi Kat! This one can be complex as depending on how the communication with the Recruiters occur there could be different reasons. A few things to consider:

    • Do your best not to leave it in their hands. Once you have been notified a Recruiter wants to communicate with you, take a look at their company website and positions that are open. Have these ready to share with the Recruiter if just an exploratory conversation. Have specific roles identified so it's no longer subjective.
    • IF you have a call with them about a specific role then there are some nuances to the "Screening" interview. They are very direct and usually short and they are not as casual as most Recruiters say they are. Think about the checklist that the Recruiter has in their head for the role and what areas of your background and experience are applicable to the role.
    • Consider developing or adjusting your Elevator Pitch. Recruiters talk to/communicate with lots of people every day. Like your resume, they need to see the relevance QUICKLY. I will find a great article through The Muse and circle back to update the comment for you.

    Unfortunately some Recruiters will make a quick decision and not tell you if it's not favorable to avoid the conflict.

    Hope this helps. Again, nothing is guaranteed so this may still occur just because of the sheer volume of candidates but every little bit helps.

  4. OLIVIA JOHNSON

    fyi, for the "attention getter" I don't recommend getting too personal.

    https://www.themuse.com/advice/perfect-pitch-how-to-nail-your-elevator-speech

  5. Anonymous

    What about being ghosted after several rounds of virtual and in-person interviews, being told you're a top candidate, then nothing? No rejection email, no call, and when prompted no response. I've gone to the hiring manager once and they even ghosted. I can only assume they were trying to keep me on the list while they negotiated with someone else. But I would expect communication of some sort. This has happened to me multiple times in the last couple of years.

  6. OLIVIA JOHNSON

    Again, so sorry to hear this! Especially this far into the interview process. Most companies I think have been working on internal systems to prevent this. I do believe that your guess is at the top of the list of reasons why if it has been a short time, within a month or less. If more than that then unfortunately the other reason may be that some are not as forthcoming with news that is not favorable and think that ghosting is better than just saying we have moved on with other candidates or made our selection. Another commenter just added a great component to this as well within the recent months that believe it or not your contact or others may have been laid off.

    A few things I would recommend to assist in creating some outlets that you can pursue when situations like this occur would be:

    • Connecting to interviewers via LinkedIn immediately after meeting with them and more importantly BEFORE the next steps. It is much easier to get a response to a connection in the beginning when they just met you rather than after if you have been declined. They are then concerned that after being declined you may be reaching out for answers or share grievances, etc. So once you complete your interview, send a thank note and an LI connection request. This way when things like this occur you are then already connected to be able to reach out and kindly ask about status.
    • Always ask in your interview about the next steps of the interview process and estimated timeline if not communicated. It may not be the case in this situation if it has been some time but the response to this question will shed some insight, i.e. interviewing other candidates over several weeks, not looking to onboard for a month, etc.

    Though this may not eliminate this occurring it may help ease your mind that you did all you can.

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