I have a little problem in communication meaning I am not sociable, how can I blend in despite being different

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1. Crystal HowellSeptember 26,2022 at 6:11PM UTC

   IF you have to be sociable in a corporate setting, just talk and ask questions about the person you are standing by or sitting by, people love to talk about themselves. Make small talk about them, most people will respond. You can ask your family to help you with some questions, when you are out of your comfort zone, you will be amazed about what people have to say........try it. Let us know what happens.

2. OreofeoluwaSeptember 28,2022 at 7:51PM UTC

   thanks

3. AnonymousSeptember 26,2022 at 8:10PM UTC

   Yeah, I agree! To become sociable, you have to rip the band-aid off and just do it (no pun intended).

   As a high functioning introvert, small talk of any kind w/ random strangers is the bane of my existence lol However, this is a double-edge sword because part of converting strangers into acquaintances/colleagues or potential friendships requires us to be open. Everyone is awkward when they meet someone for the first time, no one is perfect.

   Your differences is what makes you interesting! Maybe you can start small and join groups, like this one, where you can start connecting w/ people 1:1 casually offline. This can be simple private chat online too. I like to find groups online where I share a similar interest with, like meetup groups because usually that subject can be the light-hearted ice breaker to get you connected to the right people.

   As you gain confidence, I recommend trying to do virtual coffees/teas or in-person ones, no more than 30 mins. There are other professional platforms that can give you great practice too, but you've got to put yourself out there.

   You've got this! It's okay to start small and practice with people you know but each time, keep challenging yourself to try something a little different. You'll get good at it in time. Good luck!

4. AnonymousSeptember 28,2022 at 7:51PM UTC

   thanks

5. S.September 26,2022 at 9:15PM UTC

   Because most people love to just talk about themselves, learn to be a great listener, and people will naturally flock to you because of this. You really don't have to be a huge talker to get by socially. Have interesting questions in the back of your mind such as, how do you feel about the work you do? Any interesting plans this year? How'd you get to your position? What do you like to do for fun? That type of thing... you can do it.

6. OreofeoluwaSeptember 28,2022 at 7:51PM UTC

   thank you so much