Looking for advice on asking my DOS to consider moving me to another manager.

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February 26,2021 at 6:32PM UTC

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Looking for advice on asking my DOS to consider moving me to another manager. My company has 4 sales teams each with a different manager. I have been on my team for 7 years. My manager is not dynamic, but does not micromanage. Over the last 2 years I have not felt supported by him. Last year in particular it became very evident the lack of respect he had for working parents. He has been demanding, combative, and at times dismissive. He is rare to offer a solution for a problem or praise. He is holding me back in my day to day and with opportunity to be promoted. I am proven to be one of the most talented on his team. Is is possible to ask to be moved without appearing as if I am dramatic? How do I phase the conversation?

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AlexisFebruary 26,2021 at 8:40PM UTC
https://fairygodboss.com/articles/how-to-ask-for-a-new-manager-without-ruining-your-reputation-at-your-company#:~:text=Be%20honest%20with%20your%20current%20manager.&text=But%20also%20be%20honest%20about,want%20to%20burn%20any%20bridges.
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AlexisFebruary 26,2021 at 8:40PM UTC
Here is a great FGB article with some advice. That must be so draining.
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Krista CouttsMarch 2,2021 at 11:12PM UTC
Do you have regular one on ones with your current manager, and have you discussed where you need support/training/guidance? If you have expressed to this manager where you need support and it is still not happening, can you speak to his superior? Maybe ask for a conversation about your growth path? Good luck!
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FGB userMarch 9,2021 at 12:36AM UTC
Have you spoken to your manager directly (but kindly) about how to best support you yet? If so, did it go anywhere?
Whose approval do you need in order to be moved, and where would you be moving towards?
Could you pose it as a need to help the other team with your skillset and pose it as growth for you?
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Kate Eberle WalkerApril 20,2021 at 10:57AM UTC
There is nothing more frustrating than a manager who holds you back, so I 100% support your instinct to look for a new boss! If it's possible, I think it's always better to actually apply for another job in your company, whether a promotion or lateral move - make it about your desire to grow and learn something new rather than about a rejection of working for him. I also think it's good to identify another more senior person in the organization that you can ask to mentor you and advocate for you - express your interest and readiness to move up in the organization and ask them to help guide you. It doesn't have to be "going around" your boss - just treat it as part of your own career development to ask for time and mentoring from more senior levels of the organization - they should be happy to give it!
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