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Have a boss who- when she is in hot water likes to take it out on you because you are her assistant?

My present boss takes no accountability for her actions, and loves to project on me when she is in trouble. 2 major things happened this week and she never did her part. She never communicated to the correct parties, and Now that she is feeling the pressure from upper management, she is taking every little detail out on me. Everything. Her emails are rude. Her comments are disheartening.

How do you handle a boss like this?

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  1. Ashley Z

    Quit, that's how I've handled bosses like that.
    I wish I had some more elegant words and encouragement to offer you but from what you said, I don't see any positive change in your future. If you feel like you have an open enough line of communication with them, you could try to discuss it but it doesn't sound like they want any feedback.

  2. Anonymous

    I would never suggest such a knee-jerk reaction without first talking with the person. What happened to her boss this week that caused her to fall behind on what she did, and why did she not communicate or ask for help? The OP may not have the benefit of being able to survive without a job, so it is better to see what she can do to help first rather than walking out the door and leaving her family and livelihood at risk.

  3. Kat

    If it's a one time thing, let her know this is not acceptable behavior for her to take things out on you. If she apologizes and changes her attitude toward you, then stay if you like your job. If this is a repeated pattern of behavior even after you tell her how it makes you feel, then polish up that resume and find another job. You deserve to be treated better and not used a scapegoat for her problems.

  4. Anonymous

    Unfortunately this is a hard one to approach. Do you know who she answers to? Can you set a meeting with her supervisor and her? This would be a good thing to bring up during a performance review, but save every email and message from her so you have something to go off of if this doesn't end up in your favor. She is responsible for acting in a professional manner just as everyone else is expected to. It's called professionalism and she needs to follow it. You don't need to be anyone's "out". Good luck!

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