6 years ago the former boss told me to hurry & look elsewhere- they weren’t keeping me- I’m still here- doing well- now they are considering me for a new position- which is also in my area of expertise- so… should I take it & show ‘em or run ?

7 Comments

1. AnonymousNovember 29,2022 at 12:21AM UTC

   Something isn’t making sense about this narrative if you’ve remained fixated on a former supervisor, no longer with the company, from six years ago. Has his criticism of you followed you since his departure? Has your employment remained tenuous?

   A few thoughts:

   -Suffering is a choice so if you’re still hung up on this gnarly supervisor from six years ago, please visit with a counselor to process this and put it to bed.

   -I sense that your position with this company has been rocky if you think they’re moving you into a new role just to get rid of you. You’re probably in an at-will employment state where they can essentially can you for any reason. This boarders on paranoid.

   -If you take this new role and then give them the middle finger (with the explanation above) the only person you’ll be screwing is yourself. This kind of behavior is childish and petty and your departure will be difficult to explain: I got even with my employer after I accepted a new role…and I walked out! It’s a bad look.

   If unresolved issues remain, involve HR, fully understand this new role and have your boss set clear expectations for this new position. If you can’t get over the boss from six years ago, do everyone a favor (mostly yourself!) and find a new job.

   Best of luck as you decide next steps.

2. AnonymousNovember 29,2022 at 11:46PM UTC

   Wow! Thank you THE BEST!!Needed this professional response and sincerely valid comments! A blessing at a time when I needed this reminder!! Beautiful- inspired and grateful !! Thanks!!

3. AnonymousNovember 29,2022 at 3:54AM UTC

   I try never to make decisions out of fear. You say you are doing well yet you are considering running out fear of what someone gossiping told you 6 years ago, am I missing something?

   If you want to leave do so with your own best interests in mind and with a plan.

4. AnonymousNovember 29,2022 at 11:45PM UTC

   Wow! Thank you ! Needed this professional response and sincerely valid comments! A blessing at a time when I needed this reminder!! Beautiful- inspired and grateful !! Thanks!!

5. AnonymousDecember 1,2022 at 2:33PM UTC

   Hi dear, if your former still there and being around him may cause you stress and discomfort, then don't accept the new role. If he is just in the company but leading another team, then you should consider it especially if you will expand and gain your skills through this position.

6. Crystal HowellDecember 2,2022 at 1:19PM UTC

   Listen to who signs your paycheck, not a former boss that was probably fired! Misery loves company!

7. Alexis GladstoneDecember 2,2022 at 1:47PM UTC

   You've already proven to them your worth! You are still there 6 years later and now they want you to take on something new. Congratulations on that. Don't let something that took place 6 years ago cloud your decision. As others have said, that is fear talking.

   You didn't mention whether that old boss is still with the company and/or what your interaction would be with them. Even if they are still there, it sounds like others with more influence see how good you are, so If the new role is something you want to do and you can learn and grow, go for it!