Do you have any advice on how to address subtle sexism from my two male bosses who may not realize their behavior? For example, they held a meeting with two external partners today in my specific field of work but didn't invite me. Instead, I was asked to set up some calendar appointments for them. I am supposed to be in a senior-level position, yet I keep being treated like a junior or secretary.

2 Comments

1. AnonymousJuly 10,2024 at 9:03PM UTC

   You say no, I think you can set those up yourself.

2. SophJuly 10,2024 at 9:16PM UTC

   That's not subtle. I would speak from the perspective of responsibilities and operating efficiently. If they ask you to set up appointments for them, let them know that you will take a look at and accept an invite as appropriate if they send it to you, and if they require more support, perhaps they can borrow someone's secretary. It's direct enough for them to get the message that that's the role of an administrative assistant and the relationship between you three is different. At the same time, it gives them space enough to save face, just changing their behavior going forward. Regarding the meeting with the external partners, if you haven't already, check to see if it was a low-value meeting. In your area doesn't necessarily mean it's worth your time. If there was a good reason for you to attend the meeting, let them know that to make the best use of everyone's time and operate efficiently, invite you next time.