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Coping techniques until new job is found

I am currently working in the most toxic environment I have ever experienced. I have been with the company for a little over a month and have witnessed the president and ceo demean, disrespect, verbally abuse, and humiliate her employees. The employees that could not deal with this are no longer with the company and that was really a weeding out process. The ones that remain are kept as her slaves..

She is now targeting me. For example, she assigned a task to bring in 4 mental health clinicians in 3 days to me and 2 other people in HR. I was able to get 2 and the others didn’t locate anyone but she targeted me for not meeting the team goal. The others were left unaccountable for this task which was grossly unfair. She even told me to send her a spreadsheet of all activity and resumes and she might have to call them and might do a better job than me. I was floored by her comment but took it with a grain of salt because this type of behavior is in her dna. She has started to make me physically ill.

i stay because I need a job and have bills to pay. I was unemployed for 7 months prior to this company and took the job as a means to an end. I also took a substantial decrease in pay and title. I used to be a recruiting manager before taking on this individual contributor role.

Her leadership skills are poor. She leads by trying to intimidate employees and tear them down instead of lifting them up. I find her to be absolutely disgusting.

I am continuing to send resumes out with a goal to find a job by the beginning of next year. I hope to garner some interviews now but know that companies don’t want to start employees until after the first of the year.

If anyone has any insights or suggestions,, please let me know.

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  1. Anonymous

    Slaves? A bit dramatic to equate working adults who have a choice to slaves.

  2. Kathy Ann

    Wage slaves.

  3. Linda

    I had the same experience with one of THE MOST TOXIC BOSS - I have ever had. I does NOT get better - my advise - get out.

  4. Anonymous

    Check out what mental health benefits are included in your health policy and find a good therapist. They can tailor a coping regimen based on your specific experience. When I was in a similar situation, that's what I did.

  5. Anonymous

    I have worked in staffing and think you are also in that field? Either way, your boss/CEO or President, same person? not sure which “she” you’re referring, but regardless, the industry is volatile. I’ve worked in it for years where people behaved like lunatics. I got out. Look at higher ed jobs that perhaps will allow your skills to be used across many different types of jobs. A career center is a good thought. I’ve been in it for a very long time. The behaviors just go from one company to another as in the end it’s sales. I’m only guessing here but if you worked as a recruiting manager you can transfer those skills elsewhere. Consider getting out of that industry. Or if you are in HR perhaps seek work in a higher ed or state job. Just some thoughts but do keep us posted.

  6. Anonymous

    Keep your head down, focus on delivering and breathe.

    Further, I've learned to pour energy and joy into my personal life to help balance my life and fill me with gratitude and hope for my future. It works in an amazing way.

    I think people forget how energy factors into your job search and interviewing. You want be joyful and positive during your search. People feel that energy. If you let a job wear you down and suck the joy from you it shows. Even if you think you hide it really well.

  7. JB09718

    Not much you can do aside from leave. Until you land another job I would just stay out of her way and over communicate any of expectations or tasks she sets and meet them as best you can. On a day when you know you’ll be in her path, wear your favorite outfit, listen to your favorite songs on the way to work, and treat yourself to your favorite takeout for lunch. Turn a bad day into a good one any way you can!

  8. Anonymous

    A suggestion...Ask her to write a letter to prospects, I assume you are an IC in recruiting? Then use her own words in emails to send to prospects. Send the emails with a send receipt requested to show when folks have opened them or read them. Then in follow ups, send a calendar link to her calendar where they can add themselves to speak to her directly. Do a blitz and send it to anyone with the title she wants to attract. You will be overwhelmed with responses. When they still don't turn she will see the why...or not. But the blame will shift from you to her.

  9. Sandra Swearingen

    Run. This is a toxic boss who plays with people to make her feel more powerful. Start looking for a new job immediately. You have a target on your back. You can’t win. Good luck

  10. Anonymous

    I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you. Sometimes by the time it hits this point, it's really hard to undo things. Document everything. If you're planning to exit, start preparing your items and knowledge.

    If you can- follow the advice that was given by others. If not, maybe ask a helpful friend or EAP or a counselor for tips on how best to navigate this (it will be helpful to have a release and a plan---again, perhaps you have the willpower to do it. if you need help, it's available).

    Make your plan (it sounds like you are observant and have started your exit- good). Now, how to deal with things before you leave. Re-read all of your Benefits and use them (EAP, time off, work from home, etc.). Distance yourself physically and mentally if possible. You may have a target on your back.

    You know yourself well. Protect yourself and also, know what you can and want to tolerate. It sounds like this boss acts this way because she thinks she can ---and because no one is calling her on it.

    So, I hope you can exit gracefully and into a better role. That said, make an exit plan that includes if you need to quit or go on leave. It doesn't sound like she's going to stop, so you need to decide what your line in the sand is. Maybe just not listen to her and do your work (I know, tall order). What would you do if you got laid off? Would that be bad?

    Energy either flows or resists. You're trying to flow (away). Resistance would add tension (and most don't want that). Sometimes standing up to bullies is worth it (sometimes not). Doesn't have to be a big drama- just saying "no."

    If workplace rights have been violated, you can report senior leadership for creating a toxic work environment to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC).

    Good luck!

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