They have a teams group chat at work and I never comment on it because I like to mind my business but pay attention to theirs just to see what's going on.

They have a teams group chat at work and I never comment on it because I like to mind my business but pay attention to theirs just to see what's going on. This lady in the chat just asked a question about my department to ask who was over it and it’s me. Should I respond to it or not ? I feel like they lowkey don't like me any way due to a prior incident which is further adding to my anxiety about responding. 

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  1. Anonymous

    I'd assume, you are not required to answer anything that is directed specifically to you.

  2. Anonymous

    Let someone else provide that info. You're on thin ice with this person so I would not engage

  3. Anonymous

    If you are actually over that department and she is asking, I'm not sure why you would hesitate to answer. You are not there to be liked, especially if you are over people. You are to be fair, and treat people equally and appropriately deal with issues as they come up, but work is not meant to be a popularity contest.

  4. Anonymous

    Great response. I had a manager like the OP who allowed others to run over his direct reports because he was " too nice and passive *

  5. Anonymous

    Leave it but watch the chat. If it gets aggressive, copy the thread and send to HR. If this person who asked is in your company she should just google you. If not, let it go. As you climb, so does your unpopularity. The higher you are the more of a target you are. It's common. Quite frankly if it's something that affects your department, go to HR for guidance. Now on to your comment about a prior incident, you didn't expand. So, with that, if something prior happened that made others not like something you said or did, whatever you do, don't go into battle on an app. Go to battle with your HR folks and let them know what is being said and that it's very distracting. Stay quiet, be stealth and go to the right people to resolve the issue.

  6. Anonymous

    why would you not answer this person if she’s asking about leadership structure…and you’re the leader! I get not participating in office gossip but this is a legit work related question. And you’re wondering why people don’t like you?!

    stop playing games when you have the answer. How juvenile.

  7. Susan Heidi Wolman

    Respond in the kindest possible way offering to help her. This way they know you are watching. but also minding your own business.

  8. Anonymous

    Of course respond, you are on the chat. If it's used for other things than work related topics, it will backfire at some point.

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