Unsure if I should take up the new job

7 Comments

1. Marquisha ThomasFebruary 5,2023 at 5:12AM UTC

   Never hurts to put together a pros and cons list for both jobs and let your gut tell you what to do when you see them both laid out in front of you. Good luck!

2. AnonymousFebruary 5,2023 at 5:47AM UTC

   I’m work to two side

3. AnonymousFebruary 5,2023 at 2:08PM UTC

   Are there any red flags you are picking up on that would make you think the new position is not all it's meant to be? E.g., did the last person quit or get fired? Did the supervisor speak badly about the last person who had the job? Are you hearing anything in the office about the position that sounds questionable? Do you know any people working in that department you could talk to? I am not saying that it isn't just nerves, or being comfortable, but the one time I ignored my instincts I ended up in a really bad job that only lasted 6 months just because I was trying to get out of a really bad job. On the other hand, sometimes even challenging positions can promote personal and professional growth, so if its something you really want, you may want to go for it regardless. As you said, you have wanted to move up for a while, and all change comes with risk. There is also the possiblity that if you are the person who applied, then changed your mind, that action may also have consequences the next time you want a change. Consider carefully, and good luck.

4. AnonymousFebruary 5,2023 at 4:15PM UTC

   Are you getting bad vibes about the new role for any reason and that’s why you’re hesitant? If not, then you might just be afraid to leave your comfort zone, but in order to grow and succeed it’s necessary to be uncomfortable sometimes.

5. LailaFebruary 5,2023 at 7:06PM UTC

   There’s no red flags from the new job except I work from home for two days in my current job. It’s very accommodating especially with my children. Whereas the new job I’m not sure how many days they will allow me to WFH. So really I’m stuck and not sure what to do.

6. Laura BrennanFebruary 10,2023 at 7:07PM UTC

   Not that I don't think gut feelings aren't useful, but from what you said, there are no red flags, there's only the unknown. And our brains are really, really good at protecting us from the unknown. There Might Be Dragons!

   So my two cents is, thank your brain for protecting you, and then think about why you have "always wanted to move up to a higher position." Is it the challenges? The respect? The excitement of new work? The money? What would all of that make possible for you?

   Who will you get to be in this new role?

   That can sometimes be the scariest thing, growing into a new vision of yourself. But it's also exciting and fulfilling.

   You've said your only worry is that they won't be as accommodating with WFH days, but that's not a fact like a chair is a fact. That's a negotiation. It's a series of conversations. Maybe you'll have to work in office more for the first couple of weeks while you get settled into the new position, but maybe after that you'll have a lot more flexibility than you do now. You don't know -- and our brains hate the unknown, so it looms very large right now.

   But what if you told yourself that you can handle whatever it takes? And that you can ultimately design it to be a position that supports you, so that you can do your best work for them? Win-win.

   I think trusting yourself to handle whichever decision you make and tapping into why this one is something you have wanted for years -- or "always" in your original post -- is the way forward.

   Tap into your reasons why and trust yourself.

   Congrats on the offer! You've got this!

7. LailaFebruary 12,2023 at 5:06PM UTC

   Thank you for the support! I have taken up the job offer few days ago and hopefully it’s a blessing in disguise!