How to move on after failing at work?

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June 29,2022 at 7:07PM UTC

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How to move on after failing at work?

I have been a good employee throughout my career. Unfortunately, this past year I have been underperforming, not completing tasks and being overall unmotivated. My manager has tried to help but I am not sure it’s the right help I need. I decided to leave my position and found another job that might be a better fit but it’s hard to think about how badly I performed and the damage to my reputation. Any advice or guidance would be appreciated.

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AnonymousJune 29,2022 at 7:48PM UTC
Not sure if you are hitting career burnout. This can be the cause of this type of being unmotivated. You may need to schedule a 2+ week break to get yourself in a better state of mind before going to something else. After that, write down the positives of your career and what you learned from the poor performance. Use that to help guide you to the next career. Do not spend excessive time dwelling on the problems of the past. Just remember the quote from Benjamin Dover "It's okay to look back at the past. Just don't stare."
AnonymousJune 29,2022 at 8:37PM UTC
I agree that it sounds like burnout.
If your company offers an EAP look into therapy to learn the signs of both depression and burnout and get the help you need. It doesn't get better magically. It only drags you further down until it impacts nit only your mental health but your physical health as well.
AnonymousJune 29,2022 at 8:50PM UTC
Why are you beating yourself up over this. Many employers have a poor setup where they burn out employees. You are not a robot. And not ever job is meant for every person. Make peace with the fact that you made a decision out of self love to see the reason to go somewhere else more fitting. Focus healing and preparing for the next position. Once you leave don't look back.
Cyndi RosenblattJune 29,2022 at 9:24PM UTC
Maybe schedule a short meeting with your boss before you leave and bluntly acknowledge that you've been struggling for the past year and appreciate their efforts to help, even if you ultimately decided it was best to start fresh in a new role.
AnonymousJune 29,2022 at 9:26PM UTC
You mentioned being unmotivated and being offered help from your manager that wasn't the help you needed.
Take time to understand why you were unmotivated and why their support wasn't what you needed.
No matter where you go if you haven't addressed these first then you'll find yourself in this same scenario again.
Liz PerryJune 30,2022 at 1:38PM UTC
You sound as if you may be burned out and/or depressed. I've been there, and it was really hard to get over, so I encourage you to seek out a therapist to help you through it. If your company has an EAP (employee assistance program), that's a great start to reaching out for some support. Good luck.
AnonymousJune 30,2022 at 6:46PM UTC
New job means new opportunity! You are starting over with a clean slate!
Most likely it was particulars of the work conditions of your job causing the burn out! Let’s hope the conditions at the new job are a lot better for you! Maybe find some positive affirmations to look at at the start of your work day. If your new job is truly a better fit stop worrying about the bad performance of the old job! Leave it in the past! I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
AnonymousJuly 4,2022 at 2:06PM UTC
Therapy can be wonderful for moving forward if you can’t stop ruminating over the past. Good luck in the new job !