My husband getting bullied bad at work and this job they do not care and I wrote everything down sense he been working for this company.

7 Comments

1. SLTSeptember 7,2022 at 10:06AM UTC

   I would suggest he started looking elsewhere.

   If there's violence, get HIM to speak up. If it's management he's not on the same page with, have HIM reach out.

2. KatSeptember 8,2022 at 2:43PM UTC

   I realize you are trying to be supportive of your husband in a difficult situation, which is great. But, this is really his problem to deal with. He needs to document things and decide if it's worth complaining. But if he's afraid to say anything for fear of losing his job, it's time to move on. The job market is really hot right now. So many places are hiring in every sector (retail, food service, truck driving, billboard painting, construction, etc.) with good starting pay and benefits. There's no need to stay in a situation like that. If he gets fired, so what? Then he can collect unemployment while he looks. If the bullying is bad enough that he's fearful of violence, quit immediately. No job is worth that. If you're not working, then get at least a part time job to help with the finances while he looks for a new job.

3. AnonymousSeptember 12,2022 at 1:49PM UTC

   I’m so sorry your husband is in a toxic workplace. And the toll it’s taken on him and you. I agree with the other posts that no job is worth enduring bullying and that he has to be the one to take action. Is there a state EEOC or Dept of Labor that you can seek legal advice from? Hope this resource helps some:

   https://workplacebullying.org/

4. AnonymousSeptember 14,2022 at 6:47PM UTC

   Bullying has a specific dynamic. Bullies figure out who they can attack. It would be very helpful for your husband to get professional support of a therapist to learn coping mechanisms and postive assertivenss. These skills are well worth the investment of time, work and the cost. This may well be treating the cause rather than just the symptom

5. Erica MitchellSeptember 18,2022 at 12:53PM UTC

   It might not be that they don't care, they might not know. If he doesn't speak up, nothing will change. I doubt he'd get fired for addressing his concerns. If he does, it's not a company worth working for. I've been bullied at work at a previous employer and after speaking up things got better. I'm not saying that's always the case but it's worth a try. I know what bullying does to a person. It's a shame that as adults this is still happening. Aren't we past high school?

6. AnonymousSeptember 18,2022 at 2:07PM UTC

   I was bullied by a colleague and it got really bad when my manager DEFENDED her. (She had a difficult life and wanted my role. She complained to him -- I'm in a different department!!- and he told me to stop being successful so she can be more confident. I never bragged to the girl, never said anything really. Different department.

   After this (the ending of my long -term frustrating issues - my patience ran out), I found a new job, gave my 2w and then left

7. AnonymousSeptember 19,2022 at 4:54AM UTC

   I was bullied by a colleague I worked with and reported it to my manager in the end. The person who bullied me didn’t get promoted when they applied for my managers job and subsequently left. Interestingly I don’t think they understood what they were doing at work was bullying and that they felt entitled to get more interesting projects, better pay rises and promotions. And if they saw anyone as competition that’s when their behaviour became inappropriate and unprofessional.