I hear you. I left a toxic work situation (4 months into a new role) and landed another job (3 weeks later) that’s not toxic per say but it’s not a fit. Unfortunately, I had to land a new job quickly since the toxic job was so bad I had to leave with out a new job. New job is much better but I don’t see myself there long term and is just a vehicle helping me along the way. I’m grateful but I still have to keep looking.
Sometimes no matter how many questions you ask in a job interview the reality differs. I’d like to think for both jobs I landed I asked a ton of great questions in the interview. I thought I knew for sure that both jobs wouldn’t be toxic or not a fit. The thing is if the job stinks people want to sell it to you. So they might cover up stuff and be on their best behavior. Maybe they want to change things and not be a toxic place anymore and they think you’ll change that. That’s not your job. So if you ask really straight forward questions and how they answer them can give you clues.
I would ask if there’s high turnover. You can maybe find a nicer way to say this but I’ve asked this in interviews and it’s built trust. You could lead with due to the pandemic how has your company dealt with all of the changes and challenges etc. See how honest they are. I found out at the previous toxic job that I left only after I took the job the position and the person I replaced was fired after 1 month and 2 other people were in the role in a 7 month period. Yikes. Wish I had known that.
So my next interviews I asked about the reason the job was open. At my new not-a-fit-but-not-bad-job the person before me went back to school. I’ve seen her visit too. They speak kindly of her. So that’s a big difference.
What makes everyone happy at this company?
Why do people stay?
Ask every possible question imaginable until you feel confident that you understand what this job is really like.
Also, think about what you’ve learned at your toxic job and think of good questions to ask based on your toxic experience. For example as I’ve previously stated I ask why the position is open. It resolves for me never being told after accepting the job I’m replacing someone that was fired after a month.
Lastly, envision a non toxic work place. Then look for jobs that align with this.
Never beat yourself up if you land a new job that’s still toxic or not a fit and keep looking and never give up.
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