Has anyone had new job regrets?

Anonymous

April 26,2022 at 4:02AM UTC

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Has anyone had new job regrets? How did you manage it, and did you end up leaving? Hoping someone can share their wisdom or experience so I can get some grounding on my situation.

I am not sure if I am in full regret or if it's new job jitters, or perhaps compounding of the two, but my gut is telling me this culture and team is not right for me....Only a month in, but I also found out today 2 people on our team (my peers) interviewed for my job, and all everyone on the team has been doing is venting to me about the others that I had to set some boundaries around that. It's emotionally draining. And I am trying to learn this new role with a lot of ambiguity which I am trying to get clarity from my boss, and that's overwhelming enough to work through when my boss is scatter brain and is a horrible listener and wants to only talk about her issues. I set up these calls so that I can get up to speed, get clarity regarding my role, but they just end up becoming venting sessions. I am almost shocked at these behaviors because I am not used to it.

There is so much negativity, my eyes fill with tears because I don't know what I've gotten myself into. I don't think I have ever worked in this dynamic before, at least not on my immediate team. And now I think about it, these two people that interviewed for my job were not part of my interview, I see now why. I don't know what I totally missed that as a red flag or some sort of flag.

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AnonymousApril 26,2022 at 4:21AM UTC
I think this sounds like a toxic workplace; recently I found myself in a similar situation where the work morale was low and my peers were unhappy with each other. Foolishly I had thought I could ignore this, but several months later I found myself emotionally drained and unable to focus on what was important for my role and my professional growth. Last week I gave my 2 weeks notice and I already feel so much happier -- no matter where the future takes me, I will never ignore red flags again.
I am not a great believer that a job should be the source of one's happiness (that's an individual responsibility) but certainly shouldn't be the source of misery either.
No matter what you decide to do, I wish you best of luck!
AnonymousApril 26,2022 at 4:26PM UTC
Please don't blame yourself for missing something — I think it's easy to feel guilty and have hindsight bias here. If you can, I'd try to take a step back and look holistically at your options and what you really want out of a job!
AnonymousMay 1,2022 at 2:23PM UTC
Going through this now. I am 2 months in and leaving. My boss too has no time for me and also vents to me. My ideas have been put down and I was told to figure it out. I think you need to make an exit plan for your own wel being. Not all employers are this way. You will survive this.