I keep getting feedback that I “need to work on sounding more confident” at work.

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February 18,2022 at 4:22AM UTC

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I keep getting feedback that I “need to work on sounding more confident” at work. I personally feel relatively confident when I speak, I don’t stutter or use filler words or quiver. I speak consicely and directly. Someone who left the firm told me he thinks it’s just sexism because another colleague who is quiet doesn’t get told the same thing. It’s not like I can change my voice from a 24 yr old female to a 35 yr old man... for context I have been working in private equity for 2 yrs (since graduating college). Someone actually told me my voice sounds like asmr when I present ? (a female colleague) and I tend to talk slower to portray that said confidence. Is it me or them?

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AnonymousFebruary 18,2022 at 6:18AM UTC
Try to get feedback from more stakeholders and ask for coaching either from them or an external training firm.
The external firm is a better option, and then you can both show that you worked on their feedback, and get some neutral perspective. Worst case, you learn something new. Best case, you learn that you kick ass and can use that in a group where people are more open-minded.
Namita BajajFebruary 18,2022 at 6:47AM UTC
Well, as much as voice plays an important role in showing confidence, there are other factors like body language and verbal communication that can help you ace that acceptance that you are looking for. Always remember that how to speak, what you speak and the way you present yourself, play a vital role in creating an impression on the other person. Hope this helps! would be happy to elaborate further,
AnonymousFebruary 26,2022 at 8:05PM UTC
You could always record yourself, then review it for yourself. Ask them to review the video with you and point out where they are perceiving your lack of confidence. You could also ask trusted colleagues to help by providing their feedback. Sometimes, we aren't aware of these minor things we could be doing that affect another's perception of us. Constructive criticism can help make us aware of it, when provided respectfully. I hope you find these suggestions to be helpful.