How to handle friendship with a supervisor opportunity.
October 26,2022 at 5:18PM UTC
A job recently opened up that I'm interested in, I put my resume in, got an interview and my coworker/friend did the same. It's a supervisor position of the team we both worked on. I spent time on the team before getting another opportunity where she's been with the team the whole time.
This could go either way, we're both qualified and while I wouldn't have any hard feelings if she got it, if I were the one to get it, I'd be her supervisor.
I get the feeling she might have a problem with this. She has expressed how much she REALLY wants this position and while I do as well, I see it much more as just an opportunity for growth, and if an opportunity for more growth arrives after, to move on to the next thing. If she gets it, I'll just keep my eye out for the next thing, no big deal to me. I still love my job I'm currently in.
And while we both need to interview and see what the outcome is, I've been thinking of all the options on how to handle which outcome. The one where I turn out to be her supervisor is something I've never encountered before. I've been turned down for jobs and a colleague has gotten it instead so I know how to navigate that, but this is a different beast.
Has anyone been in this situation and what became of it? Is there anything you'd do differently or have any advise to offer?
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