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Is it necessary to share the details of why you cannot attend Teams meeting on a specific date/time

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Is it necessary to share the details of why you cannot attend Teams meeting on a specific date/time

Subcontractor here...provide services for a small consulting firm... We have a weekly meeting via Teams (3 people) to discuss work performed in the past week and anticipated work. Owner of the company rescheduled our usual Tuesday meeting (she has a Dr appt) and noted specific dates/time for rescheduling. I provided the dates/times I can and cannot be on a call. Coworker (male) did the same but gave specifics about eye doctor, tests, dilation etc etc. I did not give specifics as I do not think it is necessary for her to know my personal business unless it was something urgent.....What are your thoughts?

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  1. Anonymous

    Just because everyone else (even your boss) chose to share their personal business does not mean you have to, especially if this is during a time when you would normally be "off the clock."

  2. Anonymous

    Yes i agree but needed a sanity check

    thank you!

  3. Susannah Baron

    Definitely not necessary.

  4. Anonymous

    Thank you!

  5. Hillery Sacco

    Provide only availability; why you are not available is irrelevant.

  6. Anonymous

    Exactly what i thought

    thank you!

  7. Anonymous

    Exactly ! Thank you!

  8. Anonymous

    Totally not necessary. What the coworker did was overshare.

  9. Anonymous

    My thoughts as well...I believe it is a form of insecurity and lack of confidence on his side.

    Thank you for your input!!

  10. Anonymous

    I totally agree with you TMI... he does it all the time ... a form of insecurity if you ask me.. Thank you for the sanity check!!

  11. Anonymous

    I worked with this person long ago that broadcast EVERYTHING: financials, relationships, health. It was annoying honestly- she wanted attention in a huge way. And she wanted others to share their personal details.

    I did not and I got tattled on. I merely said "dr". Not good enough- she was one to critique EVERYTHING too (dr, don't you care about yourself?)

  12. Anonymous

    E..v..ery.... thing... even his wife's ailments!! Thank you again for your input!

  13. Anonymous

    People are more telling than I am! A simple "fever" is sufficient, but even that is unnecessary!

  14. Anonymous

    I always provide context/reason.

    I want my boss to have that.

  15. Anonymous

    So you tell your boss you have an OBGYN appt? I just say doctor.

  16. Anonymous

    Thank you... interesting perspective....

  17. Anonymous

    I never do, It's not their concern.
    It's their concern that the work gets done timely and I'm OK with the doctor note (stupid, but I'll play along).

    They don't tell me their details, why do I owe them???

  18. JJ

    No especially as a contractor but if it is not super private a general statement might make others feel better. I would say I am leaving for a personal appointment versus I need an hour to work out my crazy with my therapist.

  19. Anonymous

    Great advice! thanks for sharing .... especially the therapist part...lol!!

  20. Paulla Fetzek, MSEd

    You most certainly don't have to share why you can't be available. However, I also have no issue if someone does. As it happens, I have both an autoimmune disorder and an inflammatory disorder. My boss has health issues as well. He and I have supported each other for over two decades. So, when we take time off for health, we will note why.

  21. Anonymous

    Makes sense with your situation...and glad you have each other to lean on. Thank you!

  22. Anonymous

    Tell her dr.
    That's enough. IMO, people that share more are looking for attention and it will backfire. Don't share more than necessary

  23. Anonymous

    Agree with you! Thank you!

  24. Anonymous

    No, it is none of their business why you cannot attend a meeting, this is work not family.

  25. Anonymous

    Love it..... work not family!! thank you!

  26. Anonymous

    Not necessary to share details. There could be an infinite number of reasons you're not available, and none of them will change your availability :-)

  27. Anonymous

    Thank you for your input... appreciate it!

  28. Anonymous

    Depends on your contract, and can you adjust to meet the needs of their asks? Not sure why we can take it into consideration and first thought is pushback. Don't want the details either, Can you try to cooperate? Remember, you're a contracted, there's no reason to re-up that if you're not making yourself available, it's the reality.

  29. Anonymous

    Thank you - appreciate your input.

  30. Anonymous

    You don't need to provide derails but context is great. A doctors appointment, dentist procedure etc is sufficient.

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