How much money do you spend on your partner?

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February 14,2019 at 4:37PM UTC

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Do you buy him/her presents all year? Just holidays? Do you just get them what they ask you for? I'm new to the whole gift-giving not on Christmas (my partner's love language is receiving gifts!) but I'm on a budget.

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Amanda HonigfortFebruary 14,2019 at 5:46PM UTC
I think about what I can reasonably spend and divy it up based on what holidays I expect them to give me something. If his love language is gifts, maybe their are less expensive options you could sprinkle in randomly like making a card or baking cookies for him?
Carrie TopolskiFebruary 14,2019 at 6:22PM UTC
I honestly don't spend much. I did in the very beginning and then I stopped. Now I surprise him here and there with things I know he likes or can use. Sometimes it's just cupcakes, or a Popsicle on a hot day. If that is not your thing then get creative. Make him personal gifts. There is no reason to go broke. What are we trying to prove by giving expensive gifts? It's the thought behind them that counts not the price tag. :)
Lady PeleFebruary 14,2019 at 6:57PM UTC
If it’s the thought that counts:
1. Love notes (free except for the paper). You can also leave them in unexpected places, such as taped to his toothpaste, in his underwear drawer, in the car visor or on the steering wheel.
2. Snack packages to bring to work (fill up ziplocs with raisins, almonds or other healthy items). I sometimes peel an orange for my husband, separate it into slices and put that in a ziploc. He loves oranges, but hates peeling them.
3. I once gave my husband a box of notecards that could be used throughout the year. For example, the date location of his choice, win an argument/last word card, dinner of his choice (I was trying to cut his fat/carbohydrate intake, so he used it for pizza and breadsticks); night out/in with his friends; control of the heater/air conditioner for the day (no arguments); a free pass on leaving the toilet seat up; anything I could think of that he might like or would make him laugh.
AnonymousFebruary 14,2019 at 7:19PM UTC
My partner and I discuss beforehand if we are going to give each other gifts for the upcoming holiday so we are on the same page. We also decide on on price point so that one person's gift doesn't "outdo" the other. This still leaves room for surprise without going overboard!
AnonymousFebruary 14,2019 at 7:49PM UTC
hmm I think it depends. I usually get him gifts that only he can use for his birthday (i've gotten him a jacket and tech stuff before) and on holidays, we do a nice activity together or plan an activity together (like trips!). for instance, today, we are going to a nice dinner and eating a box of chocolate covered strawberries.. and our anniversary is coming up, and we are going to a nice dinner and going to see ballet! I did get him airpods this year for valentine's day because he misplaced his headphones.
AnonymousFebruary 15,2019 at 12:12PM UTC
We didn’t do gifts on purpose for Valentine’s Day because we kind of think it’s a forced day to do so.
My husband gives small, affordable gifts on days that I don’t expect it and it always brightens my day so I try to do the same for him. It’s so rewarding.