Help! I just started a new job last week.

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1. AnonymousJanuary 31,2025 at 8:56PM UTC

   Title IX investigations take a lot of time, and change is not made right away. Bide your time, you're in a state system, which means, stay one year, but under your year mark, seek work in other agencies. I'm also in higher ed, Title IX is always a problem, takes forever, from what I've heard and know someone who had formal complaints but still works there. Don't get tied up in the fodder of what others around you are doing unless it affects you personally or your job. If your department is under scrutiny, someone will get to the bottom of it, but it may not change. Hang tight, work your year, then seek elsewhere.

2. SheilaFebruary 5,2025 at 2:12PM UTC

   Also, with regards to Title IX, please consider the current political climate. Everyone is on edge and with the rollback of the DEI efforts some of these allegations may never see the light of day. Sorry to say this but forewarned is forearmed.

3. AnonymousJanuary 31,2025 at 9:09PM UTC

   You had other offers so I would reach out to them immediately and see if you could resurrect one of those asap.

4. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistFebruary 1,2025 at 6:07AM UTC

   Ok, I get that there's an investigation. But this is not about what disgruntled ex-employees think about this person. It's about how YOU feel about them.

   Read the comments in the post a few above this - about the woman who walked off her job after her boss abused his wife in front of her on a TEAMS call.

   What if those complaints were filed by some of the awful people described in the comments?

   You said you accepted the position specifically because of the supervisor - have you seen any inkling of bad behavior? Does the work environment seem highly toxic to you?

5. AnonymousFebruary 2,2025 at 6:48PM UTC

   If you feel uncomfortable, then yes you shoudl be looking for work. I was in a toxic work environment and I didn’t care how often they said it was going to get better. If it did, it would be without me. My health and my family is more important than some job.

6. AnonymousFebruary 4,2025 at 6:05PM UTC

   I assume you did not research this prior to getting this role. Not everyone experiences the same thing. Take a deep breath, tread gently and for now don't change your linkedin or any external profiles to reflect this move. Give it ~30 days consider it your own personal probationary time period and during that time dig deep into what is fact not fiction without pointing back to you. Then you can make a sensible decision about staying or going from there so fast. Stay out of the lane of the discourse because you may only hear one side of things.

7. AnonymousFebruary 5,2025 at 3:49PM UTC

   My first suggestion is to stay out of the gossip zone. I have coworkers here that are angry that I have moved up more in 7 years than they have in 20. If I had listened to how everyone spoke about the two managers above me, I would have quit the first week.

   It turns out they are more than supportive and want nothing more than for me to succeed. I showed up for work, ready to learn and I took advantage of every opportunity to learn.

   The top manager became my mentor and I honestly trust him with my entire career. There was a much higher paying job and my name was being thrown around for it. He called me into his office and told me about it. Gave me the link to apply if I wanted and when I asked what he thought, he said I would be miserable in a month. The money isn't everything. Everyone's view of toxic isn't the same. Honestly some get what they give.

   I would encourage you to see for yourself - give it 30 days as suggested earlier. You might find out this is a company you want to work for.

8. AnonymousFebruary 5,2025 at 8:38PM UTC

   Reach out to one of the other offers to see if they are still available. Rarely have I seen them remove a “manager”

9. AnonymousFebruary 6,2025 at 12:20AM UTC

   Always remember that employment is a two-way street. It’s not just about meeting their needs, but the environment needs to be safe, supportive and collegial enough to do so. Don’t wait for an employer to recognize that. They may never.

10. CStiggerFebruary 6,2025 at 4:29AM UTC

    if it was on the news....did this not come up in your research of the company / new supervisor?

11. Moni J.February 9,2025 at 1:26PM UTC

    I can’t stand these companies… they hire you and tell you all these lies to get you in the door knowing the company or people are toxic as hell. Trust me it’s a tough situation to be in when all you want is a job.. you definitely have to get out of there fast.

12. AnonymousFebruary 11,2025 at 6:31PM UTC

    I just had to duck out of a situation fast too. I liked the hiring manager/managing partner. It seemed like such a positive place to work. I accepted the position over another position because it was supposed to be a hybrid position, which would have helped monetarily not to have to drive in every day. When I started, I was assigned to help another person in the office. She immediately changed my work hours, told me that everyone in the office was lazy, demeaned me constantly. It was awful. She is the most toxic person ever. She has run a lot of people out of the company.

    Money may be good, but if you have to spend it all on therapy to keep your head above water, it's not worth it.