I struggled to get a job for a while and got offered a role that wouldn’t be my first choice but I accepted it because I needed work. I took a large pay cut & it’s quite stressful so far…

17 Comments

1. AnonymousAugust 14,2024 at 12:57PM UTC

   Take the job.

2. AnonymousAugust 14,2024 at 1:01PM UTC

   You owe the company nothing. If roles were reversed and they were not happy with your performance they would be interviewing others for your job while you still sat in the seat. Sounds like you already aren't happy in the job and not making the money you want/need/deserve. Take the new job once they formalize their offer in writing, give your notice, and move on. Women need to stop "feeling badly". Most men don't have this problem. It's business not a personal relationship. No concern about "looking bad to other employers" it simply doesn't go on your resume.

3. AnonymousAugust 14,2024 at 1:04PM UTC

   The impact will be minimal if you leave under your probationary period of 90 days. I would be respectful of your current employer and give your notice asap so they can re-engage their second choice candidate.

4. AnonymousAugust 14,2024 at 1:22PM UTC

   Wait until you have the actual offer in hand. Then give a 2 weeks notice as courtesy. They may just let you leave right then and there since it has been a very short time . BUT NEVER give a resignation because of a soft/informal offer. Heck even formal offers can be rescinded before you start.

5. AnonymousAugust 14,2024 at 1:38PM UTC

   Yes, I agree with the other comments. Reading this, I was like, yeah she should definitely take the job once it's finalized and official. I do understand that feeling and glad there are platforms like this because it's good to have someone else view the situation. A lot of things we think too much about or stress about are simple and I'm definitely a victim of it. Companies will always be Companies. No matter how much of a family they call you...a family isn't replaceable just like that...but you and every other employees are. I understand the thoughts of the morals, I do think that during situations like this, but that's why communities like this are helpful. If you do take the job and it turns out not to be what you thought then, you learn from that. It wouldn't be the end of the world. I've had times like that that I thought about it for so long and was miserable at a place it seems like I should like, but it just wasn't the right fit. I got a job at a different place with less pay overall, but the environment was much better and I was glad to have left and not let the thought of "what if I face worse there" stop me.

   Wishing you good luck. Follow your gut. The answer is always there. You already know the answer, which is why you came to seek permission, but you don't need it. Good luck!

6. KellyW43August 14,2024 at 1:44PM UTC

   Take the position. It's what you've been looking for and it works for you.

   Just let the other employer know that you appreciate the opportunity, but you are going to move on.

   Congratulations by the way.

7. AnonymousAugust 14,2024 at 2:13PM UTC

   Get a formal offer in writing before you do anything. Give 2 weeks notice and begin a new life. Do what's best for you. Companies do what's best for them 100% of the time. Congratulations!

8. AnonymousAugust 14,2024 at 2:31PM UTC

   I took a job with a huge pay-cut and was terminated 3 months later for having a disability. Yes, it’s reported. Now I’m back in a role that’s, what I do! It’s a contract/temp job and I fear it could be short term.

   Do what’s best for YOU!

   Loyalty doesn’t always go both ways.

9. Joann S. LublinAugust 14,2024 at 3:21PM UTC

   I agree with other commentators' suggestions. Here's one more: Don't burn your bridges on the way out the door. You should not only give suitable notice. You should also send your boss, etc. a gracious thank you note for your brief experience working for him or her. And don't badmouth this employer by name on social media. Let us know how things work out for you.

10. AnonymousAugust 14,2024 at 5:14PM UTC

    Is your state an "at will" state for employment. If it is “at will”, this means that either the employer or the employee can end the employment relationship at any time without reason unless you have an employment contract or union agreement governing the terms of your employment or work for a government employer.

11. AnonymousAugust 15,2024 at 1:52PM UTC

    If they wanted they would get rid of you without pause. Take the job

12. Shannon EhretAugust 15,2024 at 2:12PM UTC

    Take the job if you feel better about it than the one you’re in. You don’t owe anyone anything.

13. AnonymousAugust 16,2024 at 12:36PM UTC

    Take the job you want with better money. Why be someplace working stressed out about not making what you really want . I'm still looking and annoyed by this

14. Paulla Fetzek, MSEdAugust 16,2024 at 12:53PM UTC

    Hello!

    Firstly, for me it says a lot for your character that you care how your current company will react to your leaving. I appreciate it because I would react the same way.

    In the long run however, think of it this way. The company will have multiple people interview for the job. There's only 1 you. Do what makes sense for you. If you want to defuse with potential employers, you can always explain to them just as you did here.

    All the best!

15. AnonymousAugust 16,2024 at 12:56PM UTC

    when I first became a recruiter back in the late 80s and worked until 2021 in corporate recruiting, I didn’t see in the earlier days many people leaving a job in a short period of time however, times have changed emplyers move like snails and as hard as I tried as a recruiter to move the process along internally, it moved at their pace and there was no sense of urgency many times and we lost candidates or they started and left because they had other coals in the fire, so to speak. you have the right to be happy every day in your work, if that means leaving for the other job, then so be it. I admire that you feel bad but it’s pretty common place and I’d like to think the employer will learn that they need to move with a sense of urgency when finding the right candidates to fill roles.

16. Jennifer A.August 16,2024 at 1:33PM UTC

    Give as much notice as possible and go. I understand that you feel committed and may feel like you are betraying them. It took me time to learn that our loyalty is to ourselves not to a job. Your happiness is all that matters. Besides they would replace you in a heartbeat. That’s my two cents for the day. ?

17. AnonymousNovember 9,2024 at 1:31PM UTC

    Thanks for all the advice, feedback and supportive words! I took the job and I’m happy so far! I think I was almost looking for permission here, but I genuinely felt bad for leaving my other role so soon after starting. But I also think business is business and they’ll survive without me lol. I just needed to hear others’ opinions and get over it.

    Thanks all!