I had a similar experience a few months ago. I had a phone screen at 6p at night with a member of upper admin - but someone who I would not directly work for or with if hired. I then had a video interview with the same person a few days later. That apparently was my 2nd interview. The third interview was 7 hours. I was to meet with others in upper admin and/or those who were directly involved with the position. I obliged.
The first meeting I had was with the individual I would potentially replace. That meeting all alone told me everything I needed to know. They were unhappy. They alluded to poor boundaries by upper admin. They also insinuated that they had to speak to the CEO regarding issues with inclusivity for themselves.
The 3rd meeting I had was the nail in the coffin. The medical director was a pompous jerk who was deluded about what his agency offered. He BRAGGED about how families had to seek 2nd mortgages on their homes to be able to afford the services the agency offered. He acted as though he was proud that his services could only be afforded by the affluent. It was a very disheartening meeting. His approach to operations and collaboration was also very antiquated. He would also have been the admin I reported to directly. I know myself well enough and knew it would not be a good fit.
I stuck around for the rest of the day out of morbid curiosity. It only got worse - all of which was due to the medical director's odd desire to flex his role and authority. I attended a client staffing, that also included the client at one point. I needed to step out of that meeting to pay my meter (yes, I paid for 7 hours of a meter, they did not validate). I asked to sit toward the back of the group so I could leave without disturbing anyone. The medical direct refuses to allow me to do that and instead demanded that I sit front and center so the client could see me and I could see the amazing process they have. If I were a client seeing a stranger at my very personal and intrusive meeting, I would wonder why I was not notified prior to the meeting - which the client clearly was not notified.
It all left a horrible taste in my mouth. They ended up ghosting me, which saved me from sending a "I am no longer interested" email. That in and of itself was also a red flag. The fact that they asked me to spend 7 hours with them and then not have the decency to update me on the status of my application.
I dodged a bullet.
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