Coworker is not much of a team player

Coworker is not much of a team player

An employee recently (re)joined our team. Long story short, he left the position over a year ago on secondment to another area and recently came back because his secondment ended. Although he was actively looking, he wasn't able to get another job. During his secondment, his position was filled by someone else who I worked really well with. She did amazing work and developed a good reputation. However, by the time my current coworker came back to our team, she was moving on to different position.

Well, my current worker and I are now working on a big project together (our manager is the lead). I am struggling a bit because I find that my coworker just does things on his own and sort of gets ahead of himself. This is a multi-stakeholder project and we should be making decisions on how we coordinate and approach the work together (with all stakeholders not just him and I). He seems to be excluding me from certain things sometimes. It makes me miss my old coworker because her and I used to work together collaboratively and plan things together. Our skills also complimented each other so it was great. With my current coworker, we seem to clash sometimes with the way we approach certain project aspects and I am not sure how to deal with this. How do I deal with this situation? I also feel like I want to tell him he needs to be more of a team player as he tends to work independently.. He may be trying to prove himself with this project too since with his secondment he said he felt underutilized and unappreciated.

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  1. Anonymous

    Try talking directly with him in a nonthreatening way (maybe over lunch together). Frame your sentence with, " I feel left out when you x,y,z, and would like your input on how we can work more collaboratively on thiis project. Could we maybe have brief daily or every other dayy meetings to discuss this project and the details and assign tasks?"

    You'll gain his attention and hopefully move past his independent work style.

  2. Anonymous

    Thank you for this advice. I ended up mentioning this in a very nice and somewhat indirect way, saying something along the lines of "let's work together collaboratively and make decisions together on how we move forward with this project". We then worked together to develop a plan and I set up weekly meetings with him to discuss. Last week we discussed our next steps and agreed that we should talk to our supervisor first before moving on to the next step. Today, out of nowhere he decides to go do something we hadn't even discussed and suddenly I see he is setting up meeting with stakeholders without even telling me. I had enough of this behaviour and I told him directly that I feel excluded and we need to make sure that we're both included in all correspondence related to this project since we're working on it together...he said sure but we'll see what happens. I don't think he will change much and if he continues like this, I might have to talk to our supervisor.

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