Someone reported me to HR

12 Comments

1. AnonymousAugust 23,2022 at 5:05AM UTC

   If he's asking you to look for a new job outside the company then yes he is asking you to to leave and work someplace else. He is being extremely DIRECT.

2. AnonymousAugust 24,2022 at 12:14AM UTC

   Unclear who is asking OP to leave: person who complained or HR?

   Also unclear: whether the complainant or HR has the authority or a reason to ask OP to leave?

3. AnonymousAugust 24,2022 at 1:34AM UTC

   HR is asking me to leave indirectly. Not sure what I’ve done. The person that complained has the “power” because she has close relations with the higher ups. My colleagues are also not sure what happened.

4. AnonymousAugust 24,2022 at 4:51PM UTC

   Well you can stay and wait to get fired or leave on your own terms.

5. AnonymousAugust 23,2022 at 2:13PM UTC

   This sounds very fishy. Is there anyone else in HR you can go to to get answers?

6. AnonymousAugust 24,2022 at 12:10AM UTC

   Discuss with HR what you have heard about the complaint and your colleague’s response to you.

   What you are reporting does not make sense. Is the person who reported you a manager or a co-worker? And who has been asking you to look for jobs outside: HR or the person who supposedly complained?

7. AnonymousAugust 24,2022 at 1:35AM UTC

   HR is asking me to leave indirectly. Not sure what I’ve done. The person that complained has the “power” because she has close relations with the higher ups. I’ve asked my HR what the complain was about and he just brush it off and said “It’s not about them, it’s about you” but he doesn’t tell me why?My colleagues are also not sure what happened.

8. AnonymousAugust 24,2022 at 2:12PM UTC

   It doesn’t make sense that HR isn’t telling you what the complaint is. Speak with another member of HR. They may not be able to tell you who filed the complaint but you should know what the issue is.

   Separately, start polishing your resume because you might be forced out of the company.

9. AnonymousAugust 25,2022 at 3:01PM UTC

   Yeah! If she knew the nature of the complaints, she could work on correcting those behaviors. Even if she needs to leave her current job it can be helpful for navigating future positions!

10. AnonymousAugust 25,2022 at 1:14PM UTC

    As an HR professional, this is how I would I interpret your situation (I wasn’t there so there assumptions here): It is possible it is more than one “complaint “ and since there is a similar theme, HR (not sure why not your manager) is wanting you to be self aware around how you may say things or do things that could be perceived in a negative way or are a violation of policies. Since you didn’t say you were give a verbal or written warning, this conversation is a way to get you information you need so it doesn’t get to that. The reason a exact complaint isn’t shared is because the exact complaint isn’t relevant since there is no disciplinary action and to help prevent retaliation. Retaliation comes in many forms including just trying to ask the person that complained more detail or to explain yourself (please remember I am making assumptions).

    The 2nd part of suggestion you look else where for a job can be because you made a statement about not wanting to work there, this is not the first issue that has come up (no reason to fire you just a way of saying if you are frustrated or it hard to follow the policies for you), OR you have complained to HR multiple times about your job/coworkers/managers etc and those things won’t change so you may be more happy some where else. Again all of these are assumptions and may not apply to your situation. Any time I have talked to someone about outside opportunities is because they have said they don’t want to be at the company anymore or the constantly complaining about things that will not change. I am very clear that my suggestion is just that a suggestion and based solely on how the employee is feeling not anyone else.

    Unfortunately, there are many unqualified or well trained people working in HR. As another poster stated try talking to someone else in HR. They may be better at explaining the situation or why it was suggested you look for a new job.

    I wish the best !

    AGAIN I HAVE MADE SEVERAL ASSUMPTIONS HERE- so anyone not the to original poster I ask that you don’t tell me I am wrong in my thought process. It is my opinion and filling in blanks to see if I could help.

11. Jacqueline CutlerAugust 25,2022 at 2:20PM UTC

    Yes.

12. AnonymousSeptember 12,2022 at 1:58PM UTC

    Yes