I am constantly corrected by supervisor in front of other staff and customers.

I am constantly corrected by supervisor in front of other staff and customers. I have discussed this with her in person and email. I am the only one who ever gets correction or being written up fir things that I alone have not completed. I come in to find them hudled in the back and then disperse. People that I previously had been friendly with a curt and rude. I have done nothing but try and defend myself. I was out with Covid in June I was very sick for 3 weeks this began right after. My employee file in two months has become huge. I have not been written up before and now it has been weekly. I’m inthe appeal process for an intent to terminate and I am not sure how to tell what has been happening with out looking like a whiner.

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  1. Anonymous

    First, I hope your Covid issues are getting better!!

    I think it's time to move on. These people treat you like crap and though not warranted, want you out. It's stupid and childish. But it 100% has to do with unemployment.

    Don't walk until you find something. I have soooo been in your shoes!!! I held out and received unemployment while I kept looking!

    This organization is a joke and YOU WILL PREVAIL!!!!

  2. Anonymous

    Thank you I’m still appealing the intent to terminate in the hopes of a department change. But I have presented a good case although I seriously doubt I get to stay.

  3. Anonymous

    I know it's hard to see it now, but a similar situation happened to me and I held out to make them fire me - With the way they wrote me up, I should not have lasted one week, let alone almost one year, but that's beside the point, because I decided I didn't want to get blacklisted for other employers.

    At any rate, I was able to find a job through an agency within a month, and the situation was the polar opposite. Really loved that job. Within three years, I had doubled my salary, which never would have happened with the original company.

    This situation may even be a blessing in disguise if you realize that you are the same person who had glowing reviews before. That is the destructive part. Evaluate the criticism and correct anything that needs correcting, but realize that some of what is said may even be the opposite of your characteristics, which happened in my case.

    As the others said, start looking for another job immediately but hold out for as long as you can to get the severance if you need it financially. Some day you may, like I do, look back on this situation as one that set you on a great course that you would not have taken without this experience.

  4. Anonymous

    Try to apply elsewhere. In the future document every factual instance to back up your experience.

  5. Anonymous

    I do have documents and documentation of events

  6. Anonymous

    What is happening is that your team is pushing you out.

  7. Anonymous

    I have become Acutely aware. I haven’t done anything to deserve this .

  8. Heather Cutler

    Maybe it’s time to say to your employer: it’s obvious this situation isn’t improving so I’d like to talk about a separation agreement and severance package. Time to be really selfish and recover as much money as possible and preservation of your health insurance benefits for as long as possible. Ask for a career counselor or assistance from a placement firm. I’m so sorry this was happening, I was in a similar situation about 7 years ago and it was awful. Best of luck in your next steps.

  9. Anonymous

    Great advice . This is exactly what I requested and received after being harassed by a former manager . Thank goodness for the outplacement counselor . Amazing person to work with .

  10. Anonymous

    I would consider contacting an employment attorney to find out what your rights are.

    I’d believe it is illegal to fire someone because they have had COVID-19, and it appears that is what these people are trying to do to you.

    Have you reported this harassment to the HR department in writing, noting that before you had COVID none of this harrassment and questioning of your job performance was occurring? Are you in a protected class of people (female, over age 40, a minority, disabled) and is this harassment related as well to any of these characteristics? It is illegal to harass Asians because they have had COVID.

    if you are experiencing limitations due to having had COVID, such as short term memory loss, you might consider immediately informing HR that you have a disability and require accommodations. They can still fire you if you can’t do your job with requested accommodations but have to go through a process and provide you with accommodations.

    Just as a aside, this group of coworkers’ behavior is inexcusable and just plain bad behavior that we wouldn’t let our kids get away with. I know I’d be sending mine to apologize and bring you flowers. It’s not your fault for sure.

  11. Anonymous

    This harassment did not exist prior to covid. I had never been written up before July. It’s been on going weekly write ups since then. “To document our discussion”

  12. Anonymous

    So sorry about this
    It's totally wrong for your supervisor to constantly correct you Infront of colleagues or customers
    It causes alot of embarrassment and in turn it may make you loose confidence in youserlf
    However, most supervisors like it that way because they want to show their superiority over you which is absolutely wrong
    I would advise you to talk to your HR or some one more superior than him and have things sorted out

  13. Anonymous

    It sounds like she is working her/him way to get you fired. Keep records for yourself if that ever happens. Any conversations you have with this supervisor, log everything that he/she does that looks like they may write you up.

  14. Anonymous

    I have maintained records since o realized what was happening. My grievance I feel made this worse but I have logs and managed to retain emails and copies of documents.

  15. Anonymous

    If you have your ERA handy, I would read that front to back and learn it real quick. Know your rights as an employee! Your ERA can be your best friend.

  16. Anonymous

    I would like to thank everyone for responding . Yes she in fact notified me on 8/22/2022 of her intent to terminate l. I was slow to realize what was occurring but on 8/12/22 it hit me. I filed a grievance for my employee file and HR. I trusted the process but still needed to collect my things on 8/22 after the meeting. My supervisor was out from 8/15 ( after the grievance) until 8/22 day we met with the intent. I was able to get copies of all the documents. I felt could help me and asked that the additional complaint documents be forwarded to me for the appeal process .

    im a state employee. My supervisor denied step one it’s been escalated to step 2, Which is her supervisor and finally the VP. I’ll keep you posted. I did contact the EEOC and the initial information provided they feel I have been targeted but the formal complaint not yet filed.

  17. Mariaconcetta Marino Natale

    It’s a good thing you work for the state and have procedures in place. Same thing happened to me after 20yrs of exceeded expectations. I changed position and all of a sudden my 150%(literally) wasn’t enough. If you love your job and can get a new boss who won’t hold it against you do everything you can to keep your job. If you don’t fight for a good severance package and also call your union rep if you have one. In my case the woman was my age with children and in NJ there isn’t a lot to fight for when the job is ‘eliminated’. This is how companies have been able to get away w/o lawsuits. Good luck!

  18. Crystal Howell

    Seek a wrongful termination attorney away from the office, the initial consultation is free. Bring your documents, notes, log of incidents. Let this backfire! Keep us posted. Get your doctor confirmation of days out, etc.

  19. Anonymous

    That vindictive nonsense will not work with this one. This person stated their personnel file is thick, meaning they signed their write ups and his case will be tossed out. Just move on and be a better employee next job

  20. Anonymous

    Time to leave . My former manager was doing the exact same things to me . It was at a point where every conversation was a reprimand . Its hard to come back from that .

  21. Anonymous

    It sounds like your supervisor has been gas lighting you. I would say it would be time to move on. But you really need to document everything and try to file for unemployment, if possible.

  22. Rhonda Royal

    OMG! I really feel for you. First things first, remember that your work (much like other workers) can be corrected. Take some time to review, research, and repeat the proper format in everything work related. Next, speak with HR, even if you need to do this on a weekly basis. Last, (I’m sure you know) you are being singled out to be terminated, you can fight this but it will be an ‘uphill’ battle and you may not win. Strengthen your resume, take a free course or two, consider working remotely, but prepare yourself for what may ‘most likely’ happen. When the new job does come along, simply report to HR (not your mgr.) and explain that you’re leaving in two days time. P.S. two weeks time gives the employer time to prepare themselves before taking in a new employee. You’ve suffered enough, leave two days after you notify HR. Good luck to you!

  23. Donna LaPointe

    I've been through this and HR is not your friend or even a neutral party. They side with the employer. Focus on finding a new job. Remember they're the bad guy here and not you. Good luck!

  24. Anonymous

    It seems like your supervisor is attempting to make your life so miserable that you will quit first, thereby saving on having to provide you with a severance package. As difficult as it is, don't give in and do protect yourself with documentation and a free attorney consultation. Put the law on your side. Best wishes!

  25. Vonnie's Chips & Sips

    The law? Not if it's an "at will" company. Its best to look for another job because if they want you out, you're going to be out. Either that or get some work ethic

  26. Anonymous

    Even "at will" companies do not get a free pass to harass and humiliate employees. It's called dignity and everybody is entitled to it.

  27. Milissa Jacobs

    You need to find an attorney that specializes in this situation and document document document. Don't let them chase you out. It isn't a schoolyard and there is no time for cliques.

  28. Vonnie's Chips & Sips

    But most employers at "At will" and that lawsuit will be thrown out like Thanksgiving leftovers.

  29. Milissa Jacobs

    If she is being harassed at work, it sounds like she is, then they are breaking the law. It sounds as if they want her to quit so they don't have to pay unemployment, but she is clearly being harassed.

  30. Marisa C.

    DO NOT QUIT! As someone who literally just went through this, do not quit or you will not be entitled to severance or unemployment. Instead, find yourself a therapist. Do your best to compartmentalize work from other aspects of life. Start working on updating your resume and begin looking for work. But I cannot emphasize enough the therapy to get you through the next couple of months. The last thing you want is to have your manager's actions in your head

  31. Vonnie's Chips & Sips

    Sounds like you've been placed on the Radar and your supervisor wants you out. Instead of coaching and working with you, it sounds like they'd rather replace you altogether. If I were you, I would start looking for another job and don't get comfortable

  32. Shelby C

    Get an Attorney.

  33. GirlBossanova934974

    First, start looking for another job. Second if you wish to go to an employment lawyer, you are going to need a lot of documents so you must right now download and retain everything. If you are terminated, the employment lawyer is going to have to tie your Covid illness to your termination. Your side will have to prove a tangible tie from your illness to your termination. I just finished up an unlawful termination matter just 2 months ago. I had a stack of documents an inch thick. Even then, the matter took 2 years to settle due to court delays. There are 2 types of rewards in this game. Small ticket where you get $5,000 to $15,000 and the big ticket where you get $100,000 plus. Most companies are willing to let the matter go for the small ticket and just settle. The big ticket requires a lot lot more.

  34. Anonymous

    Oh my goodness, this hits so close to home. I “really feel for you”, as long as you are not stressed out, I would stick it out. Don’t quit. If they let you go, you can collect unemployment while you seek other jobs, although I would start looking for other jobs now! If you truly think they are wanting to get rid of you, you’re probably right! My story was, new Director, brought in her own team and wanted to get rid of everyone else. Super frustrating. I learned that fighting the Company does not work. They don’t have your back. (Some Companies), find one that deserves you. Oh, by the way, she is no longer with the Company… LOL

  35. Princess P.

    My heart goes out to you. I've been in this position and unfortunately the writing is on the wall.

    After being promoted, the hiring supervisor left the company after working closely with her for 2wks (she was amazing) and my new supervisor despised me. I was happy, excited and eager to learn...she was downright miserable and made my work life unbearable. Although I reported to EEOC, sought free counsel with an employment lawyer, kept emails on file, appealed with HR, they ultimately let me go. Good riddance! They tried to deny me a severance package but that's when I started fighting back and received one month pay and benefits. Luckily, I was hired a week later after being let go by a temp agency, and two months in was made permanent. The company was amazing and I've never looked back.

    However, I seriously needed therapy thereafter. I was afraid to speak up for myself - would stutter when supervisor would ask me questions and breakout in sweats, look like a deer in headlights when it became my turn to talk in meetings, couldn't sleep, became paranoid of coworkers. Eventually I grew out of that and became more comfortable in my work environment and had an amazing group of co-workers. Sometimes it's best to leave a toxic workplace environment for your sanity and peace. Even if you are transferred to another department, supervisors (and some HR) talk and will find a way to make your life even more miserable.

  36. Anonymous

    This resonates with me as my company does the same thing as they don’t want to pay for severance and unemployment. It’s disgusting how they get away with the abuse.

  37. Communication Coach

    Please do not waste your energy on any appeal process! There are times that an employee does quality work, but, personalty conflicts are so pronounced with dislike that the positive work production will never overcome the personality friction. Especially when the rest of your work force is aligned with management. Move on! It's not fun looking for a new position, but, this kind of toxic workplace makes the investment in a new workplace worth the effort!

  38. Anonymous

    The energy you would use to appeal this is better spent getting a new job where they appreciate you.

  39. Erica Mitchell

    I feel it's best to just move on and find a place that recognizes your talents. They are pushing you out and that's happened to me before. Leave that toxic environment.

  40. R.A. Andrews

    Scapegoating is real, and it can affect us at home, at work, or anywhere that chronic blamers are part of a group. If your intuition starts speaking to you about others speaking ill of you, then pay attention and trust yourself. If you also notice that people who used to be friendly start treating you differently, then there is some evidence. Start planning your exit because there is nothing you can do when a chronic blamer has you in their sights. It's horrible, but not every workplace enables bullying and abuse. Go find your healthy place to work!

  41. Jill Ding

    Your workplace is doing this on purpose to get you to quit. I see a pattern from this organization to save on costs regardless of the employee's wellbeing... Do not quit and make them pay you a severance package (if possible). I would also strongly advise documenting in case they try to deny you severance. Depending on your situation, it may be worth filing a case with EEO or NLRB.

    In the meantime, start looking for your next role and mentally check out. Do your best to ignore them and just do the bare minimum. Make quiet quitting work for you :)

  42. Kim Raper

    Sadly, there is unlikely a positive solution for you with this company. You have been deemed either a threat or you are the current victim of a nasty click and that is never a good place to be. I would be looking elsewhere as you will have to be the one to help yourself. You cannot fight that level of vile behavior and its really not worth it. You have had an illness that has impacted you and they have shown their true colors like a pack of animals who sense an ill pack member. I would move on as soon as you are able to. Unlikely to get any better. All the best to you.

  43. EMILY KIKUE FRANK

    I'm so sorry, you need to start working on an exit strategy. You'll probably never know what cause it, but they are trying to chase you out. If you try to stick it out, you may very well begin to doubt your own competence, and you will certainly continue to suffer this sort of treatment.

  44. Anonymous

    Are you the supervisor that the OP is referring to or just part of the clique that is bullying her? JC Lady...hope you never find yourself in a similar situation- Karma is a B!!!!

  45. Maegan M

    keep everything as stating facts about the situation

  46. Anonymous

    GC..you are completely and totally out of order. Why would you say.... Don't you believe the Covid-19 card has been used beyond its expiration date! .....my hope is that is never happens to you because you seem to be above ever having health issues...regardless of how many others have had that issue. And in case you didn't know, some instances of Covid are so severe that working from home is not an option due to extremely low energy levels.

    you are definitely in the kick a person when they are down category. Some day we may all be perfect like you.

  47. Trish Calles Williams

    Document EVERYTHING

  48. Anonymous

    You need to update your resume and start applying for jobs outside of you company immediately.

    Don’t wait any longer. Your supervisor is trying to get you fired and is building up a file on you to have cause to do so. HR will not be on your side, they work in the interest of the company. Whatever the reason may be do not wait until they terminate you, then it will be harder to explain during the interview process. I’m so sorry that this is happening to you, I had this happen to a few friends and acquaintances and usually the person trying to fire you will prevail not because they’re right but because they are motivated by that need and will spend any time and effort to see it through. If you don’t get out soon it will start wearing on you emotionally and you don’t want it to affect your interview process negatively.

  49. Jennifer Finger

    Your best course of action is to leave the company ASAP, so I would skip the appeal and start an aggressive job search. Update your resume and let it be known through your personal network as well as any professional networks you belong to that you are job hunting, and discreetly interview for new jobs. Meanwhile, document all the scapegoating and other negative behavior against you in case you need to show that you are in a hostile work environment and are being constructively fired (if not actually fired) from your job.

  50. Anonymous

    Find a new job now , doesn’t matter if it’s not fair they are telling you what they are doing , find a new job and leave this mess behind they

    sou d like bullies and they made you the scapegoat

  51. Anonymous

    Why do people bully so much now in workplaces? And what makes someone a scapegoat? Is it that person or they are threatened to some degree?

  52. Anonymous

    The same things happen to me to. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. Look for a new job. I just went to HR too and they are “mildly” retaliating. Enough to where I can’t say anything but giving non stop jabs and insults indirectly. I don’t even want to give a notice at this point but maybe it’s best to be as Professional as possible. Check out mentally like people suggested and be on your way to something better.

  53. Anonymous
  54. Anonymous

    Thank you. I had not read it before I have contacted them and I do have an appointment.

  55. Rebecca A Britt

    agree with what others have said about finding a new job. However, do NOT quit without one. If they fire you, you can challenge if they try to fight unemployment and UC usually finds for the employee.

  56. Anonymous

    It looks like the role is not a fit. Take it was a learning opportunity and seek something that is a better match. Do not disparage your boss in your next interviews.

  57. Anonymous

    Here's my problem with this: everyone is saying quit, run, etc. However, why are the bullies always the one to make out ahead?? This workplace bully is getting exactly what she wants and no one will protect those who are or will be bullied. When you leave, they will just pick on the next weakest link.... so the bullying will continue! It needs to be nipped in the bud and plucked from the workplace!! Bullying of any kind should not be tolerated!

    I went through this at one of my staff jobs. I was blamed for EVERYTHING! I was even told by our director that I was the problem! I left.

    Just before I left, everyone who had ever worked on our floor or had been floated to our unit (this is nursing) filled out a petition to have this one charge RN removed from "power". She made everyone miserable, she took pleasure in the things she did, and would never help anyone! Funny thing, within a couple of weeks of me leaving the bully was demoted! By the time she was demoted, they had lost most of the staff on the floor.... don't let people tell you nurses left to travel!! NO! Nurses leave bad bosses who tolerate bullying! Why do we like to travel?? Because we no longer have to tolerate this type of behavior! We travel because if we don't like one place, we can move on and not look back~

    There need to be more laws and avenues in place to prevent work place bullying. People have harmed themselves over this type of behavior. This is not high school anymore....

  58. Anonymous

    I’m not quitting and I’m not giving up. I don’t give in to tyranny . It’s a large enough organization that one or both of us should move departments. I involved compliance and they are investigating.

  59. Kathleen McGrath Kachel

    Good for you! Don't tolerate disrespect and mistreatment. I live in a right-to-work state where they can fire you because it's Tuesday, though they usually just treat you like crap until you leave on your own.

    Work takes about 65% of the average person's day and we spend more time there than anywhere else except sleep. So to expect to be treated fairly and have a good work-life balance is NOT unreasonable. People get sick but in this day and age most people can work remotely and they should be given the opportunity if they have to take an extended leave for something and still perform their duties.

    Why more companies don't treat employees like they need them astounds me. Are they going to do all the work themselves? If we don't stand up for ourselves no one else will so hang in there and good luck.

  60. Anonymous

    Apparently you're now on the outs. Find a new job, because they will find a way to get rid of you - if nothing else they're making you miserable. Find someplace where you will be appreciated. Sorry this is happening to you, it does suck. I was the target of the "in" clique once, and it definitely sucked.

  61. LORI-ANN BURLINGAME

    How did you learn that you had COVID?
    Did you offer to provide your manager with documentation from your doctor? It appears that she does not believe that you were ill and may be retailiating against you. In addition, did she give you an opportunity to work remotely?

  62. Anonymous

    I did in fact provide the documents to her twice. The entire office got Covid with me.

  63. Shelly Edwards

    Without knowing what the write ups are for, it's hard to give advice.
    Are they justified? Perhaps or maybe not. If this started after your return from COVID, it could potentially be an illegal retaliation for a justified medical condition. If you have tried to speak with your supervisor to no avail, I would ask for a sit down meeting with the supervisors manager and your human resources person. Make sure you know for certain if the write ups were not justified, then go in to explain your side of the story, tell them that this feels like you are being singled out following a medical condition, and that you want the bullying to stop. But make sure you have your information correct before you meet with them. I would also not bring up that you "are the only one" being written up. You have no idea what is being done with other employees and speaking as an HR Manager, employees who come to me bringing other people's business instead of focusing on themselves are an annoyance. When you meet with them, focus only on yourself and how this manager is treating you and you will have a better chance of being heard. If that doesn't work, then its time to start looking for a better environment.

  64. Anonymous

    I did nothing wrong. Its under review and I supported my actions with clinical fact.

  65. Anonymous

    It's clear you are not favored by this company. They have spelled it out for you as clearly as saying we don't want you to work here. Please find a new job with another company that appreciates your contributions!

  66. Anonymous

    The supervisor clearly has no respect for your feelings. Try to change to other jobs using agencies.

  67. Anonymous

    Pretty sure she has enjoyed making my life hell.

  68. Antoinette VanSchaick

    I was in a similar situation a little over 3 years ago. The HR manager was friends with the "office bully" and every time the office bully had a gripe about me, I was corrected. One time it was at a staff meeting with an attorney and other paralegals. I saw the writing on the wall and got the hell out of "Dodge". I am much happier where I am now.

    If you don't have a real love for your current position and employer, take action and try to get out quick. You do not deserve to be disrespected. Be well.

  69. Anonymous

    You should look for another opportunity, this is odd behavior and they owe you an explanation for the change. Do they know you had Covid or did they just think you were on vacation and they had to pick up slack? Either way it’s appears they have it out for you and it’s not worth the energy to stay unless you really love it.

  70. Anonymous

    I know that I had Covid it was verified by my physician.

  71. Anonymous

    UPDATE; I didn’t get paid on pay day or after 6 days of the intent to terminate. I emailed the supervisor (the one) and she reached out to payroll.

    The Payroll department told be me in writing I don’t get paid until 9/12. I replied that is unacceptable . That it’s illegal understate and federal government . The proceeded to email the entire PDF of both laws.

    Payroll emailed back stating they will give me a check today.

    I though yay I’m winning and no. The gave me a supplemental check and are not paying the rest until the 12th.

    advise?

  72. Anonymous

    if you tell us what state you're in we can provide better assistance. Payroll laws vary from state to state.

  73. Anonymous

    Texas

  74. Communication Coach

    Have you filed a complaint with EEOC? They usually are quite prompt in contacting an employer and getting payment corrected. Most employers are smart enough to be responsive.

    Filing a Formal Complaint | U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (eeoc.gov)

  75. Anonymous

    I have filed snd I have an appointment scheduled, along with the department of labor and the the agency in my state.

  76. Tracey

    Girl, get an employment attorney!! They're doing some shady @#$%!

  77. Anonymous

    Look for another job. The communication there sucks.

  78. Karen Bernal 'student'

    If my husband treated me that way, I'd find a new husband.

  79. Anonymous

    Let them fire you.

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