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How to properly say goodbye

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How to properly say goodbye

Hi, I have to leave the US due to my visa status and no luck on the lottery after 3 years.

I do not plan to come back soon, but also don't want to burn the bridge with my current team.

My new manager is just on board and we only have our third 1-1 I asked her to give me mentorship in our second meeting and now, It is a little awkward to say I am giving 2-week notice.

What is the proper way to say goodbye in this case? TBH I kinda like her since she is way better than my previous manager, and I truly want to get guidance and look for career growth.

But I can't bare this crapy work system here and have to leave now.

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  1. Anonymous

    talk to her

  2. Anonymous

    Yeah but in what way?

    Should I just say I don't mean to hide that my visa end soon?

  3. Anonymous

    I think you tell her the truth. Tell her you want more security and don't have it because of your VISA and you would like to stay in touch and perhaps she can mentor you from afar. Let her know the decision did not come lightly for you and that you cannot bear (the correct spelling BTW) to leave on bad terms. Wish her the best and let her know you are only too happy to help put together details of what you have been working on for the next incumbent.

  4. Anonymous

    I guess I am feeling bad in general (the work, the result, and I have to leave somewhere I kind of enjoy) so hard for me to put together a mature conversation.

    But I think I have a clue now, thank the advice on the spelling catch.

  5. Anonymous

    You are so welcome, come to the conversation telling her especially how hard it is for you but that because you care so much you want to assure that the relationship ends sweetly. I might even suggest that you give her some small token (a little figurine with an upbeat saying for her desk) that will always remind her of you and how good of a manager she is. You never know she might fight to have you be remote until the VISA can be sorted out. These days there are companies like remote.com and deel that can co-employ you and handle the financial side and legal side of employing you if you have to go back to your country.

  6. Anonymous

    Unfortunately I am working in a data sensitive industry so there is no way to work outside US, but thanks for the little token advice :)

  7. Anonymous

    I do too, and there are ways if the company is willing to retain you as a GREAT employee....

  8. Anonymous

    I would hope they wouldn't hold your struggles with the lottery process against you! It's just as simple as, "due to my visa status, I will need to leave the country and therefore am resigning my position. I hope that we can remain in touch and I could continue to look to you as a mentor" or something along those lines.

  9. Anonymous

    3 years and every single time I have this feeling of failure and unluck, but it is about time to move on. Thank you for the suggestions :)

  10. Anonymous

    This situation is way out of your control!!

    You are doing exactly right by providing notice, an explanation and wanting to maintain a working relationship (ie mentor) I feel that there is no way this will be held against you.

    My only suggestion is to see if you can get a letter of recommendation and, or use manager as a reference. If I was your manager, I'd happily oblige!!

    Hugs!!!

  11. Anonymous

    Thank you thanks you, I will try to address that in our final chat.

  12. Anonymous

    Been there. 7 years ago I left the US after not being approved for my work visa, and I’m still in touch with my boss and my former team. When I left, I explained why I was leaving and how important my work with them was, and how I was sure it was setting me up for my career back home. I made sure to connect with all of them on LinkedIn and commenting on their achievements, and emailing her whenever I feel I need guidance.

  13. Anonymous

    I will! Thanks for your understanding and I will try to do the same thing!

  14. Anonymous

    Our company doesn't handle immigrant issue well, after reaching out they just told me to reach out lawyer (which not even covered by company) or go through a CPT school 100% out of pocket :(

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