If at first you don’t succeed...

I have had the misfortune of knowing many people recently who are successful and give the impression that their success happened because they are “intellectually driven”, born “smart” and/or the best package. I think too often we don’t discuss failure and this can cause people to give up on their dreams too early at the first sight of failure. I encourage you all to give examples of your failures and how you tried, tried again and succeeded. My examples:

- I didn’t speak English well when I first came to US at the end of 8th grade. I joined speech and debate and was getting amazing English SAT scores in a few years and eventually got into an Ivy League university.
- When I first applied to law school, I was rejected by 14 schools. My guess was it was because I applied late in cycle and I applied again after giving the LSAT again, writing a more heartfelt rather than resume essay and applying early in cycle. I was accepted to more than half of T14 law schools and eventually best business school in country too and ended up earning dual degree.

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  1. Noreen Whysel

    Not speaking English well as a grade school age immigrant is hardly a failure. Missing soft deadlines, maybe. But kudos for getting into law school. What you have is persistence and perseverance. Both very good qualities for success and resilience.

  2. Anonymous

    Well done and what a great idea to talk about failures. I often shy away or feel conscious while talking about them but you are so right, we need to talk about them openly as they contribute to who we are. My first marriage failed miserably and I was single for almost 9 years after. I was tired of meeting weird men, with tons of expectations or judgement towards me being divorced. I am now married again and have two girls. I was also rejected by 12 schools for my degree in management. I lost half year due to that but i made up for it and graduated with everyone in my batch and was the topper in the university!

  3. Anonymous

    Wow you are so resilient and amazing! And the power of not giving up.

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