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October 24,2021 at 5:01PM UTC

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Hi everyone,

My husband recently started a new job that is requiring us to relocate. As a result I began a job search, found a job and accepted an offer.

This week I tried to put in my notice and my boss asked me if I would be willing to stay if they let me work remote and matched the salary I was offered.

I love my company and was super sad to leave so I’ve decided to accept the offer from my current employer.

If you’ve made it this far, I am asking for advice on how to professionally communicate this change to the company I accepted the offer from.

Thanks!

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Jackie RukaOctober 24,2021 at 6:12PM UTC
Let the other company know asap so they can offer another candidate the position.
Be honest, tell them you current employer worked out a remote role for you that you did not expect and decided to stay put , thank them for the opportunity and move on!
Carli GarciaOctober 26,2021 at 1:01PM UTC
"that you did not expect" is key
AnonymousOctober 24,2021 at 10:30PM UTC
I would be as transparent as possible. Let them know you never saw this competitive offer coming and was caught off guard
and you adore your company and have decided to stay.
Thank them for their offer and wish them well.
AnonymousOctober 26,2021 at 11:40AM UTC
I agree; honesty is the best policy. And please tell them that you let them know immediately and are not telling them you plan on staying as a negotiating tactic. As a hiring manager, this has happened to me and I am understanding that things don't always work out. I have personally never held it against anyone who got a counter-offer and decided to stay.
Janelle ThomasOctober 26,2021 at 12:25PM UTC
What a blessing! I would say that the best thing to do is let the company know immediately especially since this was completely unexpected. I'm sure that the company will be appreciative, so that they can offer another candidate the position. Best of luck to you and your Husband!
Rachel SchreiberOctober 26,2021 at 12:34PM UTC
That's great! I would send an email and ask for a call with HR. On the phone, I would be thankful and appreciative buy let them know that your current employer countered their offer and you have decided to accept and stay with them. You don't owe any more details than that. Keep in mind that Hiring Managers are trained to keep the candidate pipeline full for instances like this, so they likely have other folks they can move along in the process. Don't feel guilty, you might actually be making someone's day by opening room for them in this role.
ValerieOctober 26,2021 at 12:45PM UTC
Did your current company know you were relocating? I have a lot of Q about this before I can suggest anything. For example, did you hide the relo and then tell them or did they know and said nothing until you told them you were leaving?
KelleyOctober 26,2021 at 12:47PM UTC
Everyone has their reasons for rejecting an offer. I’d say as long as you’re respectful in your approach, that’s all you need to do. Let them know you appreciate the opportunity but your current employer countered and you’ve decided to stay on at your current job.
Christy K. HanthornOctober 26,2021 at 12:59PM UTC
Exactly as you just did with us--that you hated leaving a good employer and didn't know staying (remotely) was an option till they offered. Be sincere and grateful for the opportunity. I'm sure they will appreciate it even if it's an inconvenience. And do it sooner rather than later so they can get someone else on board.
Cheryl J.October 26,2021 at 1:03PM UTC
I agree. Great advice Christy.
Jacquelyn LloydOctober 26,2021 at 2:25PM UTC
Just say that. Congratulations!
AnonymousOctober 26,2021 at 2:47PM UTC
I would take the offer. Once you have given your notice it shows disloyalty and they may retain you only to let you go down the road. I would take the new offer at the new company. Never a good idea ti stay after you have given your notice.
Jennifer HoweOctober 26,2021 at 3:07PM UTC
That is amazing! It sounds like the company you currently work for truly appreciates you.
Congratulations!!!
As far as the other company goes, I would just simply tell them that you appreciate their offer, however at this time, your current company has provided you with an offer to stay on board and work remotely. I would also stat that if something should change with your current company, you would be grateful to be considered for future opportunities with the other company.
AnonymousOctober 26,2021 at 3:09PM UTC
All the advice is great, maybe make a list of pros and cons, and check in with your heart- what do you want most, and what would be best for you. Either situation may not work out later on. Also you could be rehired by either later. This has happened to me 3 times
(Over 40 years) Congrats on being desired !
Rosa GoesOctober 26,2021 at 3:29PM UTC
Congrats on working for a company that values your talents! I would let them know that your boss matched the salary, you love your job, and the only reason you were looking was due to relocation. Thank them for the offer and that you would like to keep in touch. You didn't mention if it was the same industry. If yes, then you may run into them again and it's always good to stay connected.
AnonymousOctober 26,2021 at 3:37PM UTC
Let them know as soon as possible. That your current company wants to keep you is a good sign to the other company as well, even if that means that the other company will not 'get' you. Emphasize the remote work arrangement, and not the salary, and make sure that they know it is not a negotiating tactic. Be professional and it will not burn any bridges for the future.
But keep in mind that you need to be confident that you will get a real offer from your current employer, not that they are playing games and you end up with nothing.
Renee Radcliff SinclairOctober 26,2021 at 3:57PM UTC
Reach out to them and let the new company know as soon as you can. Let them know that your current company, which you respect and enjoy working for, has made you an offer you can't refuse. They will understand. This actually speaks very well of you...and they will get it.
Jocelyn LyonsOctober 27,2021 at 12:03AM UTC
I agree with the advice below. I would let them know that the offer from your current company was not anticipated but ultimately was an offer that simply makes the most sense for you.
Carli GarciaOctober 29,2021 at 12:28AM UTC
Well said.
AnonymousNovember 1,2021 at 3:40AM UTC
Lessons learned - be transparent from the beginning. Why not let your employer know your husband is relocating. I am sure that was not a mystery if you are so connected in a company. That discussion would have come up before you even begin to look for a job. When I state disloyalty, I am familiar with how companies operate. Many times when you give a notice it’s a good idea to proceed forward. Time will tell it always does what the best course of action was to take. Nothing is ever set in stone.