Dilemma: I was recently separated from a job in a smaller community and my replacement's job is open - do I apply or not?

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August 14,2022 at 8:33PM UTC

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Dilemma: I was recently separated from a job in a smaller community and my replacement's job is open - do I apply or not? The incumbent to my old job comes from a local company, has been a member of the community for many years (might even have been born here), left their former job in good standing, and is very well-connected. They are also Facebook friends with most of my former staff and/or their SOs. On the other hand, I am relatively new to the community, was separated from a highly visible job (new boss/different philosophies), the position would be a step down, likely a wage cut, and not a job I would normally be interested in. However, there are currently no other similar jobs open locally. I am trying not to let ego into the picture and am fully aware that I might not be considered for the job based on what they are seeking in a candidate. Honestly, I am feeling embarrassed that I lost my job and concerned that there will be some pre-conceived notions about my ability. However, the job is local, and would prevent me from having to commute on weekends or move to another community. So, given these circumstances what are your thoughts?

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JYJAugust 14,2022 at 11:29PM UTC
Is it possible with what you do to work remotely?
If so, the whole world is literally open to you right now. If not, you have nothing to lose by putting yourself out there for it. Assuming you didn't do anything illegal, you can't control what other people are going to think. People lose jobs all the time. It's life. DO NOT BE EMBARRASSED. I feel like you're limiting yourself, but I don't know if that's true. Put yourself out there with your best foot forward and see what happens!
AnonymousAugust 15,2022 at 12:08AM UTC
Thank you for your response, JYJ. I have indeed applied for remote positions and positions in other cities and states. Other than a layoff over 20 years ago, this is the first time I did not initiate my exit (which is being classified as a "mutual agreement" - no policy violations or misconduct). I am not normally so self-conscious, but this is a small community, and gossip and conjecture are freely shared.
JYJAugust 15,2022 at 1:36AM UTC
I understand exactly how you feel, but can't control what other people are going to think or say. You do realize how crazy that is? Your job is to rise above the mindless gossip of those who don't have lives. Your concern is about yourself and your livelihood-not gossip! This is an opportunity for you to move forward into something amazing. See it that way! If you don't, I promise you will attract what you don't want.
AnonymousAugust 15,2022 at 1:04AM UTC
Thanks, Maryann - I appreciate your feedback!
AnonymousAugust 15,2022 at 12:42PM UTC
Honestly, you will probably not be considered for the role unless you left under circumstances where they actually told you to come back at any time. Look into hybrid or remote work and see if there are any options.
Cyndi RosenblattAugust 15,2022 at 1:51PM UTC
It sounds like there are two different companies, with one employee stepping up to a promotion at company A and the OP considering stepping down to the now-open position at company B.
I don't have any advice on the situation besides at the end of the day you have to pay your bills and sometimes you do whatever you have to do.
AnonymousAugust 16,2022 at 6:43AM UTC
You are correct, Cyndi - that is exactly the scenario!
AnonymousAugust 15,2022 at 1:55PM UTC
Please don’t be embarrassed by losing your job, having different philosophies with a new management is not a flaw.
Be confident in your abilities and look forward. Try not to sabotage yourself by guessing what others think. If you want the job and feel you can do well then apply.
Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistAugust 15,2022 at 5:47PM UTC
Why not. What can they say, no? If you don't apply, it's already a no. And that's you saying no to yourself.
Go for it.