I finally quit my very toxic job that was taking a huge mental and physical toll on me.
October 4,2021 at 3:08PM UTC
However, my boss and her boss have been reaching out to me asking me how to do things (I left a how to with screenshots on how to do everything, as well as an email with detailed instructions) and then also asking how I'm doing. I've emailed HR and asked them to let them know that I won't be answering questions since I no longer work there, unless they want to pay me per question.
However, both of these people have also reached out to me personally to check in and see how I'm doing. I'm not interested in maintaining a relationship with the majority of people at my old job because of how much it destroyed my mental and physical health.
Basically, my question is, should I ignore all the texts/questions asking about how to do things and how I'm doing? I'm worried that if I open a line of communication that I would be opening the potential for continual hurt.
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"I did a TON of work leading an ERG!
But I have no idea how to put it on my resume, or if it even belongs there..."
Oooo, my friend! Your ERG leadership role absolutely, 100%, should be on your resume if you are seeking out a new leadership/management role.
Now that THAT is out of the way, let's talk about HOW to include that role on your resume.
1️⃣ List it out as its own role.
Just because your ERG leadership position wasn't your Full-Time job, does not mean it hasn't earned its own place on your resume!
You can include your ERG leadership role as a separate role with overlapping timeframes (totally fine) so that you can give it the real estate it has earned for accomplishment-driven bullet points.
2️⃣ Include your ERG role within a leadership subhead of your current role/company.
If you've been in a role for a long time OR if you are looking to switch into a new function or industry, I like to break up bullet points into a few subheads.
Think about the key skills and experiences you are utilizing in your current role that are RELEVANT to your next target role. If leadership or project/program management are on your list, you can include your ERG leadership role and key accomplishments under one of those subheads.
3️⃣ Focus on quantifiable accomplishments.
Metrics, please! People, money, scale, scope. Numbers help tell your story.
Start here: Did you grow your ERG membership? Did you secure funding to host events or programs? Did your ERG touch an increasing number of folks within your businesses through your activities? That's gold!
4️⃣ Double down on those accomplishments.
If you're getting stuck on your accomplishments as an ERG leader, list out the responsibilities of the role. But don't stop there!
Take that list of responsibilities and then ask yourself - because I did THIS responsibility well, what was the positive outcome?
OR if I didn't do this responsibility well, what would have been the negative result?
Either question can help you turn responsibilities into accomplishments.
5️⃣ Include ERG Leadership as an area of expertise.
I love a good Skills or Areas of Expertise section on a resume, and I especially love a really TARGETED Skills/Areas of Expertise section.
ERG Leadership itself can be listed as an area of expertise but you can also break this down further. What skills/experiences did you build in this ERG role that would be highly valuable to your target companies?
To make sure you're including the right stuff here, review job postings, LinkedIn company profiles, and company websites.
✍ Ready to get writing? ✍
Off you go!
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