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Would love some advice / words of wisdom Starting a new job next week and I am feeling super nervous and icky about it :(….

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Would love some advice / words of wisdom Starting a new job next week and I am feeling super nervous and icky about it :(….

Honestly, I took a new role (exciting) because my value was not seen in the previous one. However, I loved the organization and my coworkers. It truly makes me sad to have done it but I wanted to avoid toxicity and remain professional. This new role sounds great, something I can really get interested in but one of the managers I interviewed who I would support 25% of the time gives me the worst vibes. Which is scaring me because I would like to stay in an organization where I can really be seen and grow. That’s my personal intimidation. I would love any advice if anyone had been in this spot before.

Thank you! ☺️

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  1. Anonymous

    1) I would highly recommend getting some therapy or counseling to work through your past work situation to help prevent you having anxiety about the new situation. It is possible that you first need to "see yourself" in order for others to see you.

    2) No matter where you go, personality conflicts can happen. Toxic employees are unfortunately everywhere. What if it's the same situation, and only the names have changed? Will you quit again and keep looking? I would sit with those feelings and see if you are looking for a "unicorn" or if perhaps you can bring a new version of yourself into the new role while still being guarded until you know who deserves your trust.

    3) I'm sorry you experienced a toxic work environment. I personally have had to deal with such an environment, and it can wreak havoc on your mental and physical health, as well as productivity. Put your most positive attitude forward and watch what these new managers do. How do they interact with you and others? Are you sensing an attitude?

    I wish you the best on your journey! Here's hoping that this will be the best job yet.

  2. Anonymous

    Thank you!!! ***

  3. Anonymous

    You're welcome! You've got this. :)

  4. Anonymous

    I was supporting someone ~20% of the time who 100% did not want me hired. She didn't have any input into my annual reviews and my main boss was incredibly supportive. I would take any conflicts or concerns to my main boss and let her make the final call about what I did next. Sometimes I liked her decision, sometimes I didn't. But I let her set the boundaries with the jerk and then did what I needed to do. Eventually was promoted out of supporting the jerk, and eventually had the opportunity to get that duty removed from our team entirely. Years later (after the jerk was gone), one of my staff started doing backup for that position again and I was able to negotiate a raise over it.

    If everyone else is great, it's still possible to work around the crappy person who is the least part of the your job. Good luck!

  5. Anonymous

    Thank you! This gives me hope. I think I will start with setting boundaries right away!

  6. Flavian Oparaekocha

    Congratulations

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