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I reported my supervisor to my manager because I was being treated differently in a male dominated workplace and I wasnt getting the support I needed .

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I reported my supervisor to my manager because I was being treated differently in a male dominated workplace and I wasnt getting the support I needed .

My supervisor never recognized me for my effort, I was being excluded from meetings, and my colleagues were making demeaning comments that made me feel I wasnt doing enough and would end up saying they were only joking , yet my task were completed in a timely manner. It seemed they felt I was in competition , but I was only trying to do my job. This situation affected my wellbeing so I had to report the situation to my manager

I later regretted why I didn't speak to my supervisor first and apologized to him.

Did I take the right step apologizing.

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  1. Anonymous

    I've learned that people are people, no matter their position. It all depends on the relationships you have with them and your level of comfort when it comes to whom you're most comfortable with talking to.

  2. Donna Richardson

    I believe you did the right thing by apologizing to your supervisor. They should have been given a chance to address the problem before going over their head. It never benefits your career to create an adversarial relationship with your direct supervisor, even if they are not a great leader. Apologizing for bypassing them shows humility and may help salvage that relationship.

  3. Anonymous

    Honestly, this is a situation where you have to trust yourself. There was obviously a reason you didn’t feel comfortable just approaching your supervisor and involving the manager felt appropriate. I don’t think you owe your supervisor an apology as you shouldn’t be sorry for standing up for yourself nor for not feeling comfortable approaching the supervisor directly. If he has created an uncomfortable or hostile work environment that is on him, not you.

  4. Anonymous

    Yes, definitely. Never escalate until you have spoken directly to the person with whom you have an issue. Be honest, give them time to remediate the situation and if that does not solve things, then bring in a 3rd party preferrably HR. If HR cannot help solve your issue bring in the skip level exec. Do always document what is going on so that the mud does not fall on you especially if you are concerned at all about any sort of retaliation. Hopefully the lesson learned from your situation made things better?

  5. Anonymous

    Apologies are never a wrong step.

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