What’s most important?

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November 25,2022 at 9:49PM UTC

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What’s most important?

I’ve been in a new job for five months and love my coworkers. They are supportive and we spend time with each other outside of work.

In my line of work (sales in a retirement community for seniors) it’s essential to have a team that gels to make thing flow. We deal with complex family dynamics and raw/sensitive emotions and it’s essential we are all on the same page.

Unfortunately the company tends to micromanage. I feel stifled and worry if I don’t hit my goals, despite having a supportive boss. It also feels as if my work/life balance isn’t as much as I’d like it to be.

Just recently I was given an opportunity with another company I’ve heard doesn't work like that. However I’m not sure how I’d connect with my team there and am hesitant to make a leap.

My question is do I stay in my current job with a team that looks out for me or take a chance with a new company without fully knowing the team or how they operate?

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Crystal HowellNovember 27,2022 at 1:48AM UTC
Think,before you got there, what happened? You grow and go, if they follow great,if not, see them after work, and train your new team. Just do you!
Amy GeffenNovember 29,2022 at 1:11PM UTC
You need to find out more about the next company, what your manager will be like, who will be on your team etc. You dont know enough now to make the switch. You can go on an interview with them to learn more but dont jump ship just yet.
Michelle GrajkowskiNovember 29,2022 at 2:04PM UTC
Have you talked to your boss about your fears? Since you have a good relationship with your boss, that would be a good first step. It sounds like your boss is fostering a great team and they would much rather have the conversation with you than to find out you're leaving. Good team members are hard to find and a great culture can be even harder.
The other side of the coin is that you are still pretty new in your job, so you're learning and may still be feeling the insecurity of not being able to perform the way you think is expected. That's normal -- it shows you care. Unless your new opportunity is spectacular, it sounds like you have a really good career ahead of you where you are. I would #1, talk to your boss; and #2, stay for a year to give yourself time to feel more comfortable with the role. Good luck!!
GirlBossanova934974November 29,2022 at 2:25PM UTC
I would go ahead and interview with the other company. Ask LOTS OF QUESTIONS aka micromanaging............You have nothing to lose. If things don't seem right or it appears you are going from the frying pan to the flame, just forget about it. Jumping from 1 not so great situation to the unknown has risks. Be sure you get your questions answered and do plenty of research on other company.
AnonymousNovember 29,2022 at 4:34PM UTC
if you had been at your current job for 5 years instead of 5 months, I would tell you to check out the new opportunity. But your current team sounds awesome, a supportive boss is worth their weight in gold, and you are still new enough that there is a good chance, with time, that you will master the current challenges.
Another thing to consider is that if you leave this job, you also leave all of your outside of work social activities. I wouldn’t do it.
RichNovember 29,2022 at 4:36PM UTC
A great question to ask to spot micromanagers is, "Can you tell me about someone who works for you, who is doing or did a fantastic job?" Then follow up with "Why?" A micro manager will reveal themselves in that answer. "They always check in with me before they do anything," or something along that line. They can't help it. They've just said identified a specific person whom they value... Now you know why. You want to hear about people who use their initiative, are proactive, or who lead the way for others.
AnonymousNovember 29,2022 at 4:45PM UTC
I worked in senior housing for many years. It's gotten so much more cut throat. I'm now retired. We had a new management company take over, and they were too corporate for me.
Clydene HorriganNovember 29,2022 at 10:28PM UTC
What makes you say you don’t know how you’ll connect with the new team besides the fact that you don’t know them? Did you meet them?