Advice needed.

25 Comments

1. Alison Moran-PowersJune 10,2024 at 5:18PM UTC

   Apparently, the other interviews didn't go as planned, so they're circling back to you. I'd ask (nicely) what brought them back to you. And if those answers are satisfactory, raise your concerns directly with them. Is there a workaround for your transportation, such as carpooling with another employee? HR should have some answers for you. Good luck!

2. TkJune 10,2024 at 5:35PM UTC

   I wouldn't. I'd just thank them and go check it out. What do you have to lose?

3. TkJune 10,2024 at 5:34PM UTC

   I'd go for the opportunity to interview and sharpen your skills. Maybe you'll like the job and they'll like you. You'll never know unless you take a risk.

4. AnonymousJune 10,2024 at 5:56PM UTC

   Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Don't think too far ahead...just go for the interview and see what comes of it. If for nothing more than continued interview practice.

5. AnonymousJune 10,2024 at 6:42PM UTC

   I would see the process through. If for no other reason than experience. It's always good to have options. You can keep looking and if you receive an offer np big deal. Just decline it.

6. AnonymousJune 11,2024 at 12:31PM UTC

   That’s very unkind and not helpful at all

7. AnonymousJune 11,2024 at 3:42PM UTC

   I would ask the sender of the last email to give you a call for just a few minutes as you are a bit confused being rejected then called in again. Let them know you are still very interested but want some more information. (Even if you are only mildly interested) When you speak to them find out what the full steps are in the interview process. Find out if there is some remuneration for travel to the interview.

   Since you are looking for work actively and it has been some time if the responses suit your limitations keep interviewing as you may just land the role and find out it can fill the gap while you continue to consider other options. Additionally your "teams" interview might have been only so-so but in person gives a whole other view of reality in the interview process.

   Find a friend who can drive you if possible and save the costly U/L fees. If the role requires you to be in the office every day and the commute cost is the limiter you will have to figure that out should you get an offer. Can you bike there?

   As for being second or third choice, I wouldn't think too much about that. Who knows they might have had one role filled and added another just the same, or maybe they didn't find anyone the first time, shifted the requirements or interviewers a bit and they are going at it again.

   Keep going with this it might just be a good option surely better than unemployment if you really need work.

8. AnonymousJune 11,2024 at 8:39PM UTC

   I think you are overthinking things. Just try interviewing to see if you receive a great offer. No need to predict all the details. Find out what really happens. Take a breath. Life really isn't that complicated. At every step you can decide what is right for you.

9. AnonymousJune 11,2024 at 8:57PM UTC

   I agree. When you're invited to interview, always say yes. It's not a commitment to join, just an opportunity to learn more. If you decide you're interested, you can always negotiate a signing bonus to get your transportation situated.

10. Nada AngelinaJune 12,2024 at 11:39PM UTC

    Half the paycheck will help you build credit to get a car, it’s a start not bad, even if you were second or third choice put your pride and show them that you’re number 1 .. If it was me I would go and join and see how things go

11. Sami RezlerJune 13,2024 at 12:46PM UTC

    Personally, I've never been rich. I would check with a rental car place and ask how much if a discount I can get for long-term rental. Save as much as you can so you can either do a down payment on a new-to-you vehicle or buy a car from a private seller outright. Just make sure you get a mechanic to go with you. I think you can get one for like $75 for a day. Last time I checked it was $45, but that was years ago.

12. froerden@yahoo.comJune 13,2024 at 1:13PM UTC

    Go for it! Their “first choice” candidate didn’t work out or maybe didn’t show up. You gave a second chance. Take the interview and the job if they offer it. Believe that you were probably their second choice if they are now asking you to complete the interview/welcome process. Good luck!

13. AnonymousJune 13,2024 at 3:11PM UTC

    take the interview for the experience.

    it doesn’t sound like the best fit for you.

    so don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. Tell them you need higher compensation to pay for the taxis and buy a car because it would make you more effective. You have nothing to loose since you don’t really want the job anyway. Have you liked for remote work?

14. Amy GeffenJune 13,2024 at 1:34PM UTC

    If you still want the job, go for it. Always accept an interview until you get an offer from a job you want.

15. AnonymousJune 13,2024 at 1:52PM UTC

    lose your ego. Who cares if you are their 3rd or even 4th choice. If they offer you the job, you are their first choice.

    And most of the time, you might not even be aware of what ranking you are...

16. JasmineJune 13,2024 at 2:17PM UTC

    Just an aside to the transportation issue, you should look in to Turo- you might be able to rent someone's personal vehicle for cheaper than Uber or renting from a rental agency

17. LORI-ANN BURLINGAMEJune 13,2024 at 2:28PM UTC

    Thank you, but no thank you. You are not second best!

    What happen with their "first pick"? This is a red flag. More important, the company has not offered to pay for your transportation to and from work.

    You deserve better! The right position is out there and waiting for you.

18. AnonymousJune 13,2024 at 2:38PM UTC

    I have never seen a company offer to pay for transportation to and from work. It is usually expected that if you hire someone, they can get themselves there. I don't think holding out for a company that offers this is reasonable advice.

    Also, who cares if you were the 2nd pick? You aren't dating them, this is a job. There can be a variety of reasons that other candidates didn't work out, including they received a counter offer at their current employer.

    If you need a job, take it! Figure out your transportation and go from there.

19. AnonymousJune 13,2024 at 3:36PM UTC

    Your inner voice lead you to ask for outside perspective, so you're on the fence. Jump in and have a lap or two. See what it's like. What have you got to lose? Maybe the invite is to dwindle down who's serious about the job. My husband works in recruiting and he says there are candidates that are offered the job, but never show up for orientation. Perhaps they offered the same invite to another candidate and they never showed or are planning to consider the ones that actually show up for this opportunity.

    Check if your community has a car pool. You can also check if your neighborhood has a community page on FB/Meta and ask there. Wishing you all the best!!

20. AnonymousJune 13,2024 at 5:05PM UTC

    I had something similar happen a while back...there had been a lot of back and forth with the position being posted, taken down, filled, then posted again (and not one but two people had apparently changed their mind/left quickly for "personal reasons.") Then, after getting the standard "we're going with someone else" email after interviewing (which I did not even receive until I followed up), they came back to me and when I asked what happened, claimed the person they chose had unforeseen circumstances or something along those lines. Very little in the way of explanation, just acted like nothing happened and they hadn't already passed me over. This being the third time in a pretty short time frame that someone had seemingly backed out before starting or quit soon after starting (along with some other red flags pointing to toxicity/instability)...I listened to my gut. The hiring manager was also very rude when I asked for more time to consider based on the circumstances and basically said they had a lot of interest in the position and were moving on to the next person. Not long after, I saw the same hiring manager's position posted on their jobs page. It just seemed like constant turnover and turmoil.

21. SophJune 16,2024 at 1:15AM UTC

    Definitely a good move to skip that place.

22. Karin EldredgeJune 13,2024 at 5:33PM UTC

    I was the second choice for a position that I accepted at one time (I didn’t find out until I had been in the job for several months). I absolutely loved the job and the people I worked with; I had no regrets. I stayed with the company for 10 years and still look back fondly on the time I worked there. Take the tour and meet the people in person and then make your decision. Good luck!

23. yvette finley PHRJune 14,2024 at 2:02AM UTC

    Take the tour..negotiate transportation expenses

24. AnonymousJune 14,2024 at 2:13PM UTC

    others might disagree, but I think you should pass on this one....your time is valuable, and so is their time. You need to be honest with yourself and others: you stated that you don't think it's a good fit. You stated that they've sent you confusing messages (moving on with others, and now an opportunity to tour the place). You stated you don't have transportation to get there (and Uber would be 50% of the cost??)- In my opinion, if you really want the job---then it doesn't matter whether you are first or 10th on their hiring list- YOU WANT THE JOB. But, it doesn't sound like you want the job anyway (which is fine, but you need to be HONEST with yourself). They are going back and forth, and so are you....Yikes. Be honest with yourself and move from there.

25. AnonymousJune 14,2024 at 8:28PM UTC

    This is what you need to do. Start looking for a job close to your house. After this, do not take jobs events personally. Your employer pays you for the work that you accepted before. I know that things are not working the way you want. In my experience, almost nothing works the way we expected. If you can survive at this time with this employer, tough it out until you get a better job.