How do I deal with an owner and manager team who are very rude and condescending.

Angela McCeney

June 10,2022 at 2:33PM UTC

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How do I deal with an owner and manager team who are very rude and condescending. I am trying my darnedest to make a success of this position. I received absolute minimal training since I started almost 3 months ago. I get zero positive feedback for any of the steps I have made since I am doing the one thing i told then I DID NOT do when interviewed. Ugh. I'm at the end of my rope-- and having my 90 days held over my head repeatedly is not helping.

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AnonymousJune 10,2022 at 5:05PM UTC
That's a challenging situation to be in, especially when you're new to the company. As a new hire you don't want o make waves immediately but I'm an advocate for speaking up when something doesn't seem right, especially if you are being disrespected. You need to gauge if you're comfortable saying something, maybe you can wait until your 90 day if it's coming up. But I've worked with enough dysfunctional and toxic people to know that they won't change their behaviors, they just want to see how much they can get away with. If the job is good, it's definitely worth saying something. If it's not worth it, then it's time to evaluate an exit strategy.
JJJune 10,2022 at 6:26PM UTC
Leave? I am really surprised by the volume of posts here where employees are being bullied and have toxic work environments. I have a lot of vim so I am comfortable speaking up and setting boundaries. If you can muster the strength stand up for yourself. If it’s too much, start looking.
CAJune 10,2022 at 9:58PM UTC
Success doesn't happen in a vacuum. And if they're already crossing your boundaries, this might be a long-term frustration for you. Maybe time to look for a new opportunity?
AnonymousJune 13,2022 at 10:01AM UTC
Putting everything in writing will do nothing to change management’s approach.
While it will help the OP create a list of ways they’ve been treated like a disposable employee there’s unfortunately nothing actionable from this. I appreciate the recommendation but what will that look like: on Wednesday at 10:00 am, you made a snide comment and it hurt my feelings. Time to cut your losses and look for something new.