I've been passed up for roles despite having nearly 20 years of experience and being more suited for a job in favor of older candidates who look closer to their age than I do to mine. Ageism cuts both ways. I keep on trucking and ensure that I discuss my experience in detail so the interviewer gets depth and breadth.
Your issue will require a different approach. The biggest thing that causes interviewers to artificially age others or view age as an issue is visual style. Consider updating the way you apply makeup by watching some youtube tutorials of young women doing theirs. If you aren't wearing any makeup (totally valid), consider wearing some for interview purposes and if you need any support in updating your style or applying products you're not familiar with, pop down to Sephora, where they'll help you out free.
A haircut may be in order. If you're open to that, visit a styling school where they're already learning the latest trends. Having a style that you love from 10 or 20 years ago is great, but it'll reinforce any signs of age.
Update your jacket. If you're wearing a jacket to interviews and you've had it a while, chances are the fit isn't up to date. Consider going to a younger branded store for a new one. If you're not wearing a jacket, this is a great time to start, just be sure to pick up something that reads young.
Accessories. Mind that your accessories are either classic or current, but not too obviously expensive. You want to look nice at interviews, but honestly, too nice and people can tell that you've been around a while and it will go back into any ageism bias they may have. This includes shoes - only current styles or ones so classic they're always around.
Perfume is also a tell. If your favorite is one all of your contemporaries are wearing, it's time for something new during interview. Best practice right now is none at all, as drawing a big breath around someone new so you can get a whiff of their perfume or cologne is just asking for breathing in their germs. However, if you feel better to wear some, visit Sephora again. They'll send you home with samples even, so you don't have to purchase the perfume outright in order to try it out for a while - like on an interview. You're looking for fresh, citrusy, and/or floral. Avoid powdery or heavy smells, as these have an 'older' impression.
Also, any references to when you graduated, if you have a degree, should be removed from your resume. They only need to know that you graduated, not when. Leave only the last 10 years of relevant experience on your resume and summarize the rest.
These things can reduce resistance during the interview process. You may also want to consider fully remote positions where you're only interviewing over webcam, which isn't that crystal clear in the first place, so some of your signs of aging (if you're showing any) are blissfully blurred out or you can even use a face filter to give you a little update. They're quite good, actually.
I don't know what industry you're in obviously, but consider working in nonprofit. Idealist.com has a lot of really great positions that pay well, good benefits, and require people to have experience in life and work.
I hope some of this is helpful and applicable for you. I've interviewed a lot of people myself and been in even more interviews. What you're dealing with at interview level is first impressions and prejudices that you can't begin to guess at. If you can take away the impression of being in your 50's and maybe pass for 42 or even a slightly silvery 35, all that's left is stuff out of your control entirely. Best wishes and take care!
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