I am unhappy at my current job due to one coworker.

11 Comments

1. AnonymousFebruary 16,2025 at 12:25AM UTC

   What is her role? Hard to respond to this without knowing more details. If she has little influence, then I would say stick it out.

2. AnonymousFebruary 16,2025 at 10:22AM UTC

   There is always at least one so what you need to do is find a way to work around that person. She most likely isn't going anywhere.

   The other people you say want to leave are most likely not ever leaving either. This is just the group dynamic. You'll need to learn to deal with it because you'll run into this situation everywhere.

3. Michele HighleyFebruary 16,2025 at 2:03PM UTC

   My advice is to report said co-worker to boss & HR. If others are also having issues than thry can do thr same. My experience, i workes with difficult person said very little, negotiated and kept it proffional. Over all i think that hurt my case. Taking a paasive role is NOT thr answer. This difficult person is adding unnecessary stress to your job.

4. AnonymousFebruary 16,2025 at 2:55PM UTC

   Have worked in this and currently work with a few unhappy people that make it hard to deal with them. Just last week in a meeting the toxic worker showed their colors to our new manager. I privately asked this negativity to be addressed and was told it would be. I’m a strong female and will not tolerate hostility. Hoping your coworker finds a new job to help improve the working dynamic of your team. I hope the same. All orgs have bad apples. Always talk with your manager and in your case let them know their behavior causes hostility which is counterproductive. Hoping for a good turnout but seeking other work is an option too.

5. Jacqueline CutlerFebruary 16,2025 at 4:28PM UTC

   First, I am sorry that you are experiencing this.

   A pay cut of 10 to 20% is too significant to dismiss, especially because it sounds as if everything else is good, and if that is the case, I would do my best to stick with this job.

   I would, though, keep a record of what this toxic co-worker is doing. Please keep it on a small memo in your purse or on a home computer; nothing work-related. Just a few sentences on the behavior with the date and if anyone else was involved. After you have solid examples and data of the behavior, then I would make an appointment to speak with a manager.

   I would not do it with many people because it looks like you are ganging up on the culprit.

6. AnonymousFebruary 16,2025 at 10:03PM UTC

   What's wrong with ganging up on a toxic colleague? If they're causing a hostile workplace for multiple workers, they should be a problem for the company as well. Plus it's easier to prove when bad behavior isn't isolated to one person.

7. AnonymousFebruary 16,2025 at 5:04PM UTC

   have you spoken to your manager about your situation? If you have & your issue is not being handled & this is creating great stress for you , then ask for a claim form for stress injury caused by this toxic employee. Or if u belong to a union, speak to your union steward about the situation. Hold your ground & do not quit.

8. AnonymousFebruary 16,2025 at 5:36PM UTC

   Based on my experiences, toxic coworkers work their way out or you soon enough org structure will change and you'll be on to other things. It may feel like eternity, but until then, focus on yourself, do the right things, do good work. Keep notes of the toxic examples so if it needs to be addressed, you have clear examples to present. If it escalates, ensure you have worked through plans with your manager and HR. After that and if you quit, you could be eligible for UE as long as you have documentation. That will allow you time to get reemployed, and hopefully find a role that aligns to the pay you left. Best of luck!

9. AnonymousFebruary 17,2025 at 1:07PM UTC

   Determine your threshold for sticking it out. I've been there done that with a toxic coworker. It took a few years, but after a few/several rounds of restructuring and job eliminations, she was out and I was still there. Ultimately though, I wish I had left sooner as it became clear that the company really didn't truly value me. They saw me as a way to advance other people.

10. AnonymousFebruary 17,2025 at 1:09PM UTC

    We work with all types of humans, I think you need to get to a place where you can too. Let them be them, and you let yourself be transparent as well. Don't get lost in the office gossip or complaint club, Try to get to the root cause and connect. Now, if you say you've tried and done everything, rethink that and ask yourself have you? Mindset adjust.

11. Cindy GloverFebruary 18,2025 at 3:35AM UTC

    No no no

    Hold your head up with confidence

    If they are as bad as you’re saying- they will work themselves out of this job soon enough