My role is in marketing and fully remote as is the rest of the company.

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October 7,2021 at 8:21PM UTC

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My role is in marketing and fully remote as is the rest of the company. The majority of employees are located on the West Coast and I am East Coast.

There is a specific meeting every week for Account Managers, Sales Team and my manager from Marketing. It's typically supposed to be just for Account Mangers and Sales Team.

So I have been with the company for a little over 2 months now. My manager has told me there is no need for me to attend this meeting and it has not been on my schedule since the first week I started.

So today it popped back on my calendar and our head of HR is the one that added me to this meeting. Since that was the case I figured I probably should go to it.

While in a meeting earlier today with my manager and one of the account managers, the account manager asked if we were both invited to the sales team meeting. I said I was. Before I could even say I was looking forward to going my manager and the account manager both chimed in that I probably don't need to go.

Now I am super nervous. Especially since I keep hearing my manager tell me when I have a marketing idea, that a specific account manager that I suspect to be gunning for my job already brought it up to her in a meeting they had earlier in the week.

Now I am wondering; What am I missing? Why am I not included on these plans? Is this account manager moving in on my job?

What are your thoughts?

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Vicki RossOctober 7,2021 at 8:25PM UTC
It sounds like you’re pretty new still. I am from the east coast and now work on the west coast, and have been out here for 2 years. The culture is a lot more forgiving out here in my limited experience. I would reach out to your manager who you report to and ask them if you need to attend the meeting and if they say no, just delete it. If someone invites you again, I would ask them if it was intentional or if it was because you’re on some listserv that they added to save time. This happens a lot in my role and it’s not intentional or malicious.
AnonymousOctober 7,2021 at 8:34PM UTC
I would attend anyway and see what all the mystery is about.
When questioned, just say HR put it on your calendar.
AnonymousOctober 12,2021 at 9:41PM UTC
Multiple conflicting opinions. Looks like you need to ask multiple sources to clarify...
It also sounds like there's a lack of trust someplace within your team. It could be that you're still new and some people are still adjusting. Maybe the group culture lacks transparency. Maybe communication is a problem. As a newbie, your job is to be detective :)
Some things to consider:
-Did you let the account manager and your manager know that the head of HR had added the meeting back to your calendar?
-Did you check with the head of HR why s/he/they had added the meeting back to your calendar?
-What makes you sense that the account manager is after your job?
-What trust-building conversations or interactions can you have?
-Is this the right team culture for you?
-Out of curiosity, how was your work situation before this job?
Keep us posted!