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1. AnonymousNovember 18,2025 at 9:15AM UTC

   In my experience, most people procrastinate on projects where they feel that the probability of success is small. I have a friend who constantly chases "shiny objects" and fills her days with endless activities.

   My supposition for her is that she is avoiding making a budget because she fears what she will learn, even though it would give her more control over her money.

   She and I both procrastinate in decluttering because there are some emotions involved with the items that need to be decluttered and we would rather do almost anything else.

   I am procrastinating changing to a new mobile phone because I fear losing some of the information currently on my phone, although the new mobile phone would enable me to avoid the annoying "storage space running out" notifications.

   So from these instances, I would say that the greatest help would be helping us to overcome our fears. In many cases, identifying the fears would be also be helpful. In one situation, I finally realized that the reason I was often barely on time was so that I didn't have to deal with an awkward social situation before others showed up.

   As far as being late to an in-person meeting goes, I now consciously drop one item from my agenda that I would have previously planned to accomplish before leaving. This solution has worked well and the dropped item has always been accomplished anyway, either before or after the in-person meeting.

   Sorry to ramble so much, but hope something in these examples will give you some ideas for your women's procrastination project.

2. KiraNovember 18,2025 at 1:33PM UTC

   Thank you a lot for your comment

3. AnonymousNovember 18,2025 at 2:52PM UTC

   You might want to look at some of the MBTI research (I know it gets controversial) because folks who are deemed Ps are work up until the deadline kind of people - there might be something in that.

   For myself (and in MBTI I'm a P), I tend to overload myself with so many things that I work towards deadlines.

   I also find that I'm more productive and efficient when there's more going on - so...I might end up working right up until a deadline more often than not. It's like something clicks into place in my brain and I can focus better - what's really important rises to the top and I don't get side tracked.

   And i fyou ask, I'm not ADD or ADHD have been tested. (I am a little OCD, though)

4. Cherrice AkinsNovember 19,2025 at 2:59PM UTC

   I luv this. I know my pic is there under Procrastination in Websters

5. AnonymousNovember 20,2025 at 7:47PM UTC

   ADHD diagnosis over here... and although it's gotten better as I've gotten older, procrastination is a specialty. I'd say my least favorite thing about it is starting something later than unexpected, always getting what needs to be taken care of done because I am also a mother and that has helped force me to stay on track. But because of that, sometimes not even rejoicing or feeling relief when it's done! Just thinking about the next thing that needs to be done, or even the next time it inevitably will happen again. It doesn't rule my life or even my profession, but I would love to have this huge sense of relief when completing a project, or work assignment. Instead of the feeling of anxiety about what's next. I try to combat this with self care, and treating myself when I've completed something major. That definitely helps!

6. SPQNovember 22,2025 at 8:47AM UTC

   Most of the time, I procrastinate because I am too detail oriented and a high achiever. I can't just be basic, I have an internal gold standard. I won't finish something that can be attributed to me unless it's high quality, something I can be proud of, not ashamed of. I rarely produce something I wouldn't be proud of show-casing in my portfolio for an esteemed company.

   I procrastinate starting things that are big projects because I don't feel I have enough research or experience to just do it. It feels overwhelming because I am not familiar with the task. If I did it every day and knew how to do it, it'd be nothing. I'd do it and get it done.

   However, I also procrastinate on things I find boring or menial. Things that are just painful to do. For instance if I needed to retype handwritten notes for whatever reason. Or make things look a certain way because management asked for it (use this lime green instead of neon green, don't underline the headings, bold them). I think a lot of people procrastinate on things they think serve no purpose, or can be done later.

   I also think, as women, we hold a lot of things in our head and our hearts. And we are constantly performing a juggling act and balancing act at the same time, while keeping a smile, being nice, keeping up appearances (in both attitude and physically) and working twice as hard as our male counterparts.
   - We are able to remember more than men, and more distinctly.
   - We also are more empathetic. We care for others deeply. And are more nurturing and have more concern for our community.
   - We are more organized and purposeful. We plan and tread carefully.

   All of this causes a great psychological burden! I know that I have to remember so much, plan so much, do so much around the house, and work, that when I get to putting away every one else's mess I am exhausted. (Re: your comment about being more productive).

   And then we blame ourselves that we are "procrastinating" because we didn't clear the dirty dishes off the table, and we haven't yet started the laundry, and we didn't call to make an appointment at the doctor's like we said we would, because we were dealing with our aging parent who has dementia, and that caused us to miss the deadline to sign the kids up for swimming lessons... Because we "procrastinated" too much.

   Honestly, we gotta reframe expectations and define what procrastination really means. Sometimes it just means, I don't have the energy nor the mental space to do everything and remember to do everything!!! So I'm not gonna.