Last Sunday was Mother’s Day, and only my second one as a mom. In other words, I am still new enough to motherhood to have vivid memories of my childless days.
Recently, there has been a lot of discussion about the divide between working moms and childless women in the workplace. For starters, online hostilities seem have broken out between moms and non-moms over a new novel by Meghan Foye. Called “Meternity”, the book focuses on a childless woman who so badly wants self-focused time away from her career that she fakes a pregnancy in order to take a maternity leave.
The uproar by moms was predictable, and judging by the media coverage, maybe even a calculated marketing ploy. Comparing maternity leave to a career sabbatical is a poor analogy given that a typical maternity leave looks more like an un-showered, sleep-deprived fog of identity-crisis and endless diaper-changing than anything resembling time off for self-fulfillment. On the other hand, many commentators rightly point out that childlessness doesn’t mean the lack of demanding, important responsibilities, whether they involve family care-taking or other things.
Motherhood certainly changes your life, forever. Last week I wrote about the fact that I only really became conscious of my gender at work when I became pregnant. So just how different are moms and non-moms when it comes to issues in the workplace? Is the divide between them really a gulf? We set out to investigate.
According to a survey commissioned at Fairygodboss, we did in fact find differences between what women prioritize in their jobs, depending on their parental status. However, the differences are not as great as you might think.
We asked women, “Apart from compensation, what is the number one thing that will be most important to you in your next job?” Across the board, the number one answer was flexible work hours, followed by opportunities for advancement and promotion, a nice and collegial work culture, and the ability to work from home.
This article originally appeared in Forbes.
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