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I was having a conversation with a coworker when out of nowhere he tells me how he had spent time in jail for murder.

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I was having a conversation with a coworker when out of nowhere he tells me how he had spent time in jail for murder. I was definitely caught off guard with this information. I pretended like it didn't bother me but as soon as the conversation was over I tried my best to avoid him. The sad thing about this I was having trouble deciding whether to tell my employer or just quit. What would you do?

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  1. Anonymous

    What? Your company doesn't perform background checks through a 3rd party?

  2. Anonymous

    Guess what, a rehabilitated criminal is not automatically barred from getting a job because of their criminal background. Depends on what their crime was and the terms of their sentence.

  3. Susanne Dow

    I mean they said something about it which entails that they aren’t trying to hide it which could mean they either have zero shame about something really bad, or it was situation where it was a crime of passion or heck self defense that didn’t get seen as that or they didn’t even commit the crime . Since I don’t have enough context I can’t say what I would do. If it was someone who was clearly creepy and scary to me I would consider quitting unless I knew that my boss would have my back. If it was a situation with more nuance,I might ask more questions of that employee if I get the vibe that there’s a story there. Does your employer have history of hiring ex convicts? Because some places do that intentionally to give people a chance at rehabilitation.

  4. Anonymous

    I wouldn't quit or say anything. If he creeps you politely keep your distance.

    Maybe it was self defense? Maybe he has no shame. Maybe employer knows and he's in counseling or rehab of some kind. I don't think it's your place to say anything unless he goes after someone you know or yourself

  5. Janet Parkhurst

    Nothing.

  6. Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition Specialist

    How do you know your employer doesn't already know? Do they run background checks?

  7. Anonymous

    So, a coworker confided in you that he committed a crime, served his sentence for it and I assume paid or is paying the financial restitution. Now you're all weirded out because you found out and you think he should be fired or that you need to quit?

    Just wanted to make sure I understood your bias and discriminatory attitudes correctly here.

    Rehabilitated criminals need to eat too.

  8. Susanne Dow

    This here like I can understand being weirded out but at the end of the day if he is behaving well and is making an effort to become better than the person who got that sentence she doesn’t have a reason to want him fired. Now if he is being threatening etc then of course do something about that. But we aren’t given enough info here to assume he is being threatening.

  9. Anonymous

    It's likely your employer is already aware. This is something that would've been surfaced in a background check. Many states/cities have so-called second chance laws, where discrimination in hiring of people convicted of crimes is illegal (the details and specifics vary). If you decide to quit, that's your choice to make.

  10. Anonymous

    If you feel threatened then request to work from home while you look for a new job.

    He feels pretty confident in sharing this information so I'm not sure you'll be telling anyone at work something that isn't common knowledge.

    Do you think he'll hurt you?

  11. Anonymous

    Are you sure he is not pulling your leg to see what you would do with the information? Did you ask any questions? If the coworker was that comfortable In sharing they would probably have no issues with answering questions. Having some answered might ease your anxiety about this person and I agree with everyone else, if the company does background checks then they already know

  12. Anonymous

    Does your employer do pre-employment background checks? Chances are, your employer already knows. Do you know the circumstances around this? Is he possibly pulling your leg? My nosy ass would have been googling the hell out of that!

  13. GirlBossanova934974

    First off, you don't know if your coworker's statement is true. Hate to say it but some people really want to stand out from the crowd more than they should. My question would have been right away, "Oh, is that so? When and where? How many years did you serve? How's life on the outside been treating you? " Depending on the answers, I would find out fairly quickly if this statement was just being made up.......

  14. Anonymous

    Context is missing. Was his conviction explained to you? Was it that he felt it was worth sharing because you’re work friends and confiding? Is he a good employee or at least doing his best? I get that you may feel a sense of caution, but you’ve left out some important details as an anonymous poster that could eliminate the guessing game and some discriminatory commentary in return. If someone has paid their sentence time for a crime (or was it an accusation where he was arrested and freed?), there are still large holes in the story you’re giving that lead to biases. Either continue to discuss what happened to clear the air, or let bias take over, avoid them, and/or tell them you aren’t comfortable around him. People who served their time and paid the price, or went through something awful, they deserve an opportunity to better themselves or their lives and move forward. We do t even k ow if this was a conviction based of an act of self defense (which in some states would still apprehend a victim). If your company does background checks, they likely already know and decided he was a valuable employee, regardless. If you’re not comfortable with his honesty, avoid him.

  15. Nicole Carrita

    In my unhealed life I’d quit. I have worked with a lot of murderers and it is hands down scary. No amount of fear can be hidden. Be kind to yourself.

  16. Anonymous

    I would think your employer would know , every application asks for criminal background and if you lie they still check your background.

    I don’t really know what to tell you , I have never been in this situation however if your sure he is telling the truth and not some kind of weird joke but if your uncomfortable now working there with him , and I would not blame you one bit it’s time to lol for a new job . Two ways to look at it , at least you k ow what he is capable of so you would be alert , some people have done stuff and no one knows, . So in the end its what makes you the most comfortable.

  17. Anonymous

    If he's joking it's not really something to joke about. Snarky and sarcastic me probably would have replied with "Thanks for telling me. I don't want to be your next victim."

  18. Anonymous

    I like the idea of requesting to work from home if you can’t get over being tormented by this knowledge.

    My dad had an employee for many years who had spent time in jail for murder. It had been a crime of passion ( caught his wife with another man, killed the man) and his only offense ever. He was a family friend for many years, I don’t ever remember being afraid of him.

  19. Anonymous

    I do want to stress that, if it’s tormenting you, don’t risk your own health.

  20. Anonymous

    Tormented by this knowledge??? Give me a break - people need to stop seeking drama and do their jobs. Leave the guy alone and try to figure out why you feel the need to be so melodramatic.

  21. Anonymous

    please let's not make things bigger, people who kill one person, meet hundreds and thousands of people who they don not kill.. just keep your distance. you do not mention say if you have to work even remotely close with this person.

  22. Sandy Spence

    I'd assume your work place does background checks. If you don't know the specifics of his case I wouldn't judge, just keep your distance

  23. Christi Miller

    I don't think I would tell the boss or keep my distance. Everyone has a past. He served his time for his crime. He is now trying to be a productive member of society. If you liked him as a person before he said anything then you can like him as a person now.

  24. Annalise M

    Realistically, I would feel uncomfortable as well. But I would also caution that you don't know any of the circumstances, whether it was accidental or self-defense for example. Or if the information is even accurate.

    What also most concerns me more than the stated history is the fact that he so casually dropped it into a conversation with a co-worker. I'm not sure what he was trying to do there, if it was just to get off his chest or it was to purposefully intimidate or something, but regardless it seems so risky that it makes me wonder about his judgement in general. Like did this even happen? Some people treat their own history like they're a fiction writer.

    You're the one who actually knows him, can see his nonverbals, or maybe you even have your own history around this type of crime, so I can't tell you not to avoid him or do whatever you need for your safety and security. Without more information, it's not something you necessarily need to quit over and also the manager either already knows or it's none of their business. (Do you really want to get someone fired over something they already served time for, or can we as a society actually try to be rehabilitative?)

  25. Anonymous

    I once worked in a company hiring people into a team and a woman's background check came back that she too had a murder charge. It was in self defense when her boyfriend tried to kill her. Needless to say she was hired despite that. Not sure what he expected you to do when he shared his information but unless you want to delve into the details or he did this for shock value then let it be.

  26. surfnwrite

    Why would you quit? Why would you give up a job because of someone else's past? And why do you think you need to tell your employer? Just do your work and leave him alone.

  27. Alison Sonderfan

    He could be joking??

  28. Anonymous

    People deserve second opportunities. I don’t see any reason for you to quit or tell the employer. If they ran a background check on him, they should know too. I would keep my distance with this person, just like I do with any other employee. All the best!

  29. JSan

    First, I would be surprised if your employer did not already know as pre-employment criminal background checks are very much the norm these days.
    However, some places only require that the potential hire disclose their criminal history, if one exists. If your place of employment does not run criminal background checks, I don't see anything wrong with reporting what he told you to HR. He made the choice to volunteer this information to you and am assuming he did not swear you to secrecy? I'm curious about how long has he has been employed with the company? longer than you? just hired?

  30. Anonymous

    Have you googled him to see if you can find out details? Look at county records- court records are publicly available for free. Mugshots are usually easily google-able unless someone paid a lot of money to get them off. If it was self-defense or something let it go.

  31. Davacenia Adams

    I would mind my own business.

  32. Jacqueline Cutler

    Why would you do either? If you are that afraid, maybe quit but if it's a good job, not sure what you're accomplishing. And if he's that open with you a casual coworker it's a good bet the employer knows, so what are you adding? Why do this?

  33. Debra Wheatman

    You don't know the circumstances or any details. Your employer likely already knows. MYOB.

  34. Anonymous

    He did his time, don't punish him further.
    Work as normal. I can understand why you would be personally uncomfortable, so if this makes you not want to hang out outside of work, by all means, don't do so. And while I agree with others' observations that it's weird he dropped it into the conversation, it's likely that his experience has impacted him in ways that would change behavior. The feelings/circumstances that led to the crime, guilt after, encounters in prison, etc. Expecting him to act in a typical manner would be unfair. He hasn't had a typical life.

  35. Mamalynn

    I all depend does your building have security? Do you work close to him. Does he know where you live or number? If you tell someone and he get fired he could come after you? He did it for 1 or 2 , 3 reasons- he either wants you to be afraid of him or trust you and wants to empress you. Either way just be careful. If you quit first then tell.

  36. Mamalynn

    Much Love Stay Safe

  37. Anonymous

    Where do you work a restaurant? The 1st thing I would do is Google him. He may have been messing with you...lol.

  38. Anonymous

    I thought that too - was he messing with you and trying to be funny?

    I'm all about google to understand a situation. My recommendation is to do it on your own time though.

  39. Rachel Egan

    He said he spent time in jail for murder, he didn't say he committed murder though! He could have been cleared.

    If it's bothering you, mention it to somebody but I reckon your workplace already know.

    Otherwise do what you need to do to feel safe.

  40. Anonymous

    I worked with someone who committed the same crime. This person was a teenager and acted in self defense and was trialed as an adult. They did their time, 8 or 10 years, had an advocate on the outside and was released on probation. This person fully accepted responsibility for the crime and was able to live a full life as a working participant in society. They had a very respectable salary job and made a positive impact on many people. If you don’t know the whole story you should just relax. Maybe they are getting a second chance on life. And their story doesn’t have any impact on you. They did their time.

  41. Jennifer Anderson

    Almost every comment I have read here talks about context. I agree that it is important and I agree that it's very likely that your employer already knows.

    If this person scared you before dropping the bomb, then please do what you need to to keep yourself safe. That may mean quitting and that may mean putting safety protocols in place.

    If the person did not make you feel unsafe before this then let it go. There are too many scenarios that are unknown and telling and/or quitting without context is "assuming".

    Remember that years ago, anxiety and depression were not spoken about and anyone who admitted to it was often ostracized and/or treated as "less". Someone with a physical disability was treated as "less". A former alcoholic was 'watched' even if they had been sober for many many years. So many things in our society used to make people treat others as "less" when it wasn't warranted. So take a moment and think about how you will react to this news. Is this a scary thing because this person was scary before OR is this someone who might be trying to be matter-of-fact about their past and trying to help people normalize that the incarcerated deserve a second chance?

    Good luck regardless of your decision.

  42. Jodi Peters

    i imagine your employer already knows. You don't know the details. They did their time and were released. Leave it there.

  43. Wendy Curtis

    Perhaps he was convicted of involuntary manslaughter or excessive force in self-defense of himself or someone else. Two young men in a fight can accidentally kill one another.

    These crimes are not premeditated nor necessarily caused by a dangerous person simply one using bad judgement. Your company knows his past. He was probably letting you know because he wanted to be upfront about his past. Maybe he is seeking friendship.

  44. Kathryn

    Your employer knows. Most people tell before a bg check or someone finds out. I think it was probably a young fight thing or something similar. You do not need to avoid him but you can tell him that made you uncomfortable he will probably tell you the whole story,

  45. Kim Raper

    I am somewhat surprised at the tone of many responses to your post. If I were you, and it makes you uncomfortable then perhaps moving on somewhere else is your best choice. Lots of heated comments and such but only you can make the decision best for you . Clearly it bothers you and may not be something you can easily come to terms with. Best of luck to you however you proceed.

  46. Anonymous

    It is not your place to tell anyone. Your employer probably already knows.

  47. Marisa C.

    I recently lost my job for a mistake that was reported on in the news about 10 years ago. Over the last 10 years, I went to therapy, owned up to my mistakes, did my best to make amends and have focused my careers of social impact (specifically helping under-recognized women, like myself) so that others dont make the same mistake I did.

    By the way- NOT posting anonymously because I refuse to be ashamed of my past but instead remind other what I have been capable of in my present and going into my future.

    Well- after a year at an organization where it was verbalized over and over again the positive impact I was making on staff, in our programming and with our corporate partners- someone found the news article.

    They showed it to HR and I found myself jobless within 24 hours.

    Leave the person alone. If before the conversation, you would have never guessed they had a dark past, leave the past in the past. We constantly tell our children our past, our mistakes should not define us. Yet we are very quick to making sure adults are constantly paying the price of their mistakes over and over again, even after the work has been done to understand, make amends and move forward.

  48. Lesheka

    Well said, Marisa.

  49. Franita Delk

    I definitely agree

  50. Anonymous

    He was certainly comfortable enough to open up to you with such disheartening info, I wouldn't tell my employer. Wouldn't your employer have conducted a background check before they hired him? How long ago did this happen? People deserve 2nd chances and shouldn't be punished for life. He did his time; he's probably a changed person.

  51. Karen Burke

    Most employers run background checks, so they know... I'd be surprised if they didn't. I understand that it made you uncomfortable, and I won't tell you that's wrong to feel that way.

    He did his time, and doesn't deserve to keep being punished by people. Whether it was in a "fit of passion" or premeditated, the justice system decided he was fit to return to "regular" society.

    I'd personally let it go. I do my best not to judge people based on their past, only on the decisions they make now. If that doesn't work for you, maybe it's best you move on, because he doesn't deserve to be treated poorly for something he can't change.

  52. Lesheka

    "Don't judge a book...." I personally would stay out of it. You don't know the circumstances surrounding this persons actions. I've never been to jail, the worse thing that I can be accused of is receiving speeding tickets. For all you know, your employer is aware of this person's history. I feel like that a few instances where "un-aliving" someone is called for. Definitely, if is involves the harm of a child, or woman or pure self defense.

  53. Leader135412

    Anyone who even has the combined intelligence of a dozen steamed clams would take that information to the grave with them. Not go bragging about it at their job. Either it's a lie or that person is very ignorant.

  54. Franita Delk

    I believe sometimes people say things to see how you will react or to see if the information gets back to them. To openly say that to you is strange

  55. Anonymous

    I understand the fear you might have but as another person here said, they must have felt comfortable enough with you (and in general)to open up to you to tell you such shocking information about himself. One, I wouldn't take that for granted. There are various reasons why someone may divulge info like that about themselves to someone they barely know but at the very least, he was honest. Just because someone gets in trouble with the law doesn't make them automatically a regular criminal, untrustworthy, or bad person. Two, I for one have been arrested for assault when I was in a relationship with a man that was abusive and I fought back. I didn't call the police on him from the beginning for several reasons but, when I finally tried, he would take my phone from me. Mind you this a huge 6ft 3, 280 lb man and I'm 135lbs at 4'11. Lucky for me that day I was quick but my strength us no real match against his. After that, he called them on me the first and only time I was able to defend myself. Unfortunately, because he got to the phone before I could the first time, I had no choice but to plead guilty to punching him in the eye which also kept me out of jail. Had I tried fighting it, I may not have won according to the public defender. I already don't have much confidence in law enforcement especially being that I'm a latina and my ex was white. To me and to anyone looking from the outside, it was absolutely self defense but the law is the law and it doesn't always work fairly. I'm a single mother and wasn't willing to do jail time and be away from my son so I had no other option. I also have a good friend who had to kill her husband in self defense.

    All this being said, I would consider that maybe he had a legitimate reason for his crime. Not saying it's right, just saying sometimes situations won't allow for another way. He paid his debt to society and is working a legitimate job obviously doing his best with what he can. I would keep quiet. If he was open with you about his past, it's most likely that he already told your boss. Don't make yourself look bad. If he's done nothing to offend you, I would just go about my business. Unless or until he does, you can choose to treat him like any other person you work with or ignore and stay away from him. However, the latter would make you seem judgemental and he will notice. Best of luck to you!

  56. Anonymous

    Chances are your employer already knows. If this is true. He could have been trying to get a rise out of you. Frankly, I think you’re overreacting. He has paid his debt to society & you don’t have all the facts to why he was in jail. If you’re that uncomfortable ask for a transfer. But honestly, this seems to be a situation of needing to just stay out of it. Good luck to you.

  57. Michael Swisher

    I wouldn't pay much attention to it. People will tell you anything. The more you're around someone the better you'll be able to identify that person.

  58. Anonymous

    It may be scary, however unless you can prove to yourself (you never need to prove this to ANYONE ELSE) that these words were said as a threat, please simply approach this as someone who is trying to reintegrate.

    That doesn't mean you have to force yourself to like or interact with that person. You can communicate to them something along the lines of: "I understand that you might need to communicate this with me, I have to admit that it makes me uneasy to know this. If you wish to create a professional bond with me, please respect that I may need time to build trust".

    This person may become one of your closest allies. If at any point though they show signs of using this as a means to pressure or intimidate you in any way, please immediately seek help (wherever you can think of it: friends, employer, authorities) and adopt behavior to de-escalate the situation until you know you are safe.

    If you can't handle the stress of it, do not force yourself and do not blame the person... Such a thing can be a heavy weight to carry, especially if they have genuinely repented. It is normal for such a person to blurt out such an information.

    There are also, as has been mentioned, people who will simply say things like this to see how you react. If this is the case, it can possibly come from at least two motivations:

    a) someone who is waiting to see how you react because they have been estranged and rejected for other reasons and is now trying to filter out people by acting scary and seeing if you'll see past your judgements or

    b) someone who is actively seeking prey and testing your mental defences to see if they're going to be nice with you or try to turn on you.

    In any case, please do your best not to let blind fear guide your actions. Meditate, center yourself as much as you can and see what arises. You may and should seek help and council from without, and in the end you are better placed than any of us to fully understand the situation.

  59. EMILY KIKUE FRANK

    If your employer does even the most basic background check, they already know (presuming it's true) so don't worry about it. Assume that they have judged this person to be not a liability and go about your day, but, of course, pay attention to your surroundings.

  60. Milissa Jacobs

    I have learned that simply because someone says something, that doesn't make it true. He has either killed someone or he lies. Either way, it seems like a person with whom you would limit your exposure.

  61. maria rose

    With the push to allow rehabilitation for anyone who has been jailed, this is a sticky situation. Obviously the type of crime that put this individual in a jail sentence would be what the OP is concerned about, in this case ( jailed for committing murder) Since the OP didn’t disclose the type of job they are in, we can only assume that the crime committed has nothing to do with work performance and the hiring process already evaluated and accepted this individual as an acceptable employee. So telling your employer that you know about this background, doesn’t really matter if they were hired following the current rules. But knowledge of this background is making the OP very uncomfortable no matter how rehabilitated is the individual. The OP should have a chance to discuss this with HR before making a decision on whether to continue to work at this job to get assurance of their safety working in close proximity to this individual. For them to have been released and still be physically able to be employed, means they only served a short amount of jail time because most murder conviction sentences are 15-25 years depending on classification of first degree or secondary degree. You, the fellow coworker, need to be reassured for your safety.

    But also remember that your coworker is not your BFF that you would hang out with after work.

  62. Anonymous

    If I don't say anything to my employer and he isn't aware of it and this co worker goes Postal one day I would never forgive myself

  63. Jodi Peters

    I really hope you are not being serious. I think you are out of line. He committed a crime, was punished and now he is living life again. If he was suppose to continue to be imprisoned he would be. You don't even know the details. I suggest staying in your own lane and stop the dramatics.

  64. Kristie White

    I agree with you. It would disturb me to think I heard a red flag and did not act. How much are we hearing “if you see something, say something!” What also disturbs me is this employee revealing it. There’s a reason behind that - the thrill? The guilt? Something…

  65. Anonymous

    Do you know the whole story?
    If he was guilty of murder he would still be in prison doing life! Why do you feel the need to tell your employer? Are you the company police officer? How do you know that your employer doesn't already know his back story? Mind your own business and get on with your job!!!!!

  66. Anonymous

    I just skimmed the thread. I think a lot of you all are hanging your hat on a control that isn't as consistently used as you might think - especially in some industries or small, family-owned businesses. Background checks are not always pulled. I repeat. Background checks are not always pulled. I've seen it in furniture delivery services (home), I've seen it in machine shops and I've seen it in construction. If they are pulling background checks and the result was a criminal conviction then that looks bad for the company and it's actually more difficult to obtain insurance if you employ individuals with this history.

    I don't know where you work, but if you are in a place of work where you wouldn't expect to be working alongside people who have a record then you may want to rethink where you are working. Either they didn't pull the background check and they don't know or they don't care.

    I have always worked in financial services so this would (should) not happen in my industry, but I would feel uncomfortable too.

  67. Anonymous

    i think your intuition knows if something feels off. Maybe research and see if this is actually true. If it is, decide if you want to work for a company that would overlook this. This is not a petty crime. It’s a dangerous one. If this is true, I would not want to do anything that might make me target. So, I would not say anything to HR. Maybe attach the evidence with your resignation letter. This is a tough one.

  68. Anonymous

    Your employer may be aware of this employees past and your co-worker may be involved in a program where his wages are subsidized because of his status of an ex-felon. Depending on the circumstances of his crime and its relation to the work he was hired to do, he may have been offered a chance to re-enter the workforce after serving time. I have worked with felons in job search programs. Some of them can be wonderful employees. They are grateful for a chance for redemption and the opportunity to turn their life around. I would not tell your employer because that could open a Pandora's box and not turn out well for you. But it would make me uncomfortable that he shared this information "out of the blue". If you are uneasy in your work environment and feel you will be spending a lot of time avoiding this co-worker, it may be time to think about updating your resume.

  69. Kristie White

    Tell your employer. I would be very surprised if this was reported during the recruitment process. Violent crime is a serious red flag. Of course, there may be extenuating circumstances since he is now free. But be sure they knowbb

  70. Anonymous

    I just don't believe this story.

  71. Terry Costello

    Don’t do anything, w

    if you’re not sure to believe him.

    HR should have been told about his past and done a background check on him before he started working.

  72. Anonymous

    Could it have been for self defense and it took a long time for him to be found not guilty, but in self defense? ( Not sure of appropriate terminology.)

  73. Anonymous

    My question to you: are you being set-up? Are your coworkers trying to determine if you're the "snitch" amongst them? Are they making you the butt of a joke? Think for a moment: that's a very provocative thing to say to anyone! Why would your coworker suddenly reveal that to you? I would suggest you don't take the bait!

  74. Bradford McCormick

    Very good point!

    Bu is somebody is "stting you up" or thinks this is fun, it's "the writing on the wall": You need to find a new job in a more honorable and/or responsible place, now.

  75. Bradford McCormick

    It's none of your business unless thisperson is currently a fugitive from justice. Of course if it was me I would be wary of this person, but not really more han anybody else. I would be curious about them and maybe learn from them if they were willing to shar with me. Indeed they might be more trustworthy than some people who have never "broken the law" but been "yes persons" who might metphorially stab you in the back" to get ahead.

    If this person is being decent with you (and productive for the company, of cousre!) that's what matters. You know that some people redeem themselves in prison and come out better persons than when they went in. Not all, of course, but not all people who never went to prison are good or trustworthy, either.

  76. Anonymous

    The same people who say that you should forget a person past are the same people that would not forgive for petafilia.The truth is you should judge on a persons past because that's the only thing that you have to go by.

  77. Anonymous

    There is a huge difference between murder (which may have been self-defense) and pedophilia. Your logic that those who support giving someone who has paid his debt to society is somehow equivalent to supporting a pedophile is off and wrong. Are you the same person you were a decade ago? Should we hold all past mistakes you've committed against you. Thank goodness you are not God.

  78. Milissa Jacobs

    pedophilia murders a child's spirit. Not much difference between the two.

  79. Anonymous

    This thread is absolutely bonkers. I say leave this poor human alone. You have absolutely no idea what brought them to that moment. Are they bothering you? Stalking you? Making you feel uncomfortable or did they maybe overshare? If the issue is your physical safety that is different than you just deciding that this information makes you feel icky. Be a big kid and do your job and go home if its nothing other than "Man, I wish I didn't hear that."

  80. Anonymous

    he may have been in prison for murder but that doesn't mean he really murdered anyone. You need to get context on what happened. This person is clearly trying to get their life back on track. Don't ruin it for him without knowing all the details.

  81. Lynn Klein-Rosner

    What makes you think your employer didn't do a background check?

    Quit if you can't handle it but don't make a person who paid their debt to society leave because you are sensitive.

  82. Anonymous

    I've no idea what you were going for here. If you're trying to scare all of us into not talking by saying it's all being collected...yeah, no sh*t, everything is being collected and sorted and analyzed. If you don't like it, then don't be on social media.

  83. Anonymous

    There are many people out there who have been convicted of a crime they did not do. It's not that uncommon but hey, that's my perspective and it clearly doesn't reflect yours. If he has murdered someone and has been that open the employer may also know as most companies do background checks.

  84. Anonymous

    It can't have been easy for your coworker to reveal his criminal past. Sounds like he trusts you and has developed a rapport with you. Paul was a murderer and went on to become one of Jesus ' great apostles. I'm sure HR has run a background check on him and is aware of his record. He has paid his debt to society, give him a chance.

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