I’ve worked with hundreds of females that were peers or lower ranked staff which I left out of my initial comment. My experience, more than twice that of yourself, has shown me that generally females are competitive with one another. No, not all, as I personally don’t subscribe to such behavior or choose to associate myself personally with anyone that does. However, Insecure females in power positions who arent above toxicity, tend to use unethical and subjective measures to “attempt” to tear down women who intimidate them. In a professional setting it’s typically by being dismissive, gaslighting, spreading false narratives, and opinion based gossip.
When such a manager is unable to make the employee bend over to their superiority, they resort to tactics potentially threatening the livelihood of their now focused target. I’ve NEVER encountered any such behavior in my male colleagues or managers. Simply NOT EVER..
Your assumption made without inquiring for further info to base an informed opinion of me was completely out of line and frankly, bends towards bitchy. I do however appreciate and commend your attempt to gain further info now. Thank you.
Communication and the means of communication used for a fact based assessment and appropriate conclusion are of key importance when those judgments involve people.
If those types of assumptions are made and lived out in a position of leadership, results will very likely cost yourself the great loyalty and respect from staff and peers, as well as personal relationships.
For a manager to do the same with an employee, creates a threat to the employee’s livelihood and health considering the amount of time spent at work .
To explain further, that quick judgment with such little insight leads to complete biased belief in the false assumption and is evidenced in how the employee is subsequently treated.
Without informed facts and consideration to the contrary, the resulting relationship deteriorates along with the motivation, confidence, and mental health of the employee. The manager’s situation in that equation is untouched, Resulting treatment of the employee is in direct correlation to the ill-formed opinion and subjective judgment.
I’ve had more male managers with zero issues along with male colleagues.
My current situation of a long held and successful career at one of the largest banks in the world leaves me now devastated. Professionally, I take great pride in my work ethic, abilities, and overall success in professional relationships I’ve worked hard to achieve what I have, starting at the bottom and up through the ranks I’ve maintained contact with most all of my prior managers which speaks to the fact that my current situation isn’t a “me” issue. It has not easy and spans over half of my life….only to have one toxic female steal it piece by piece over the past year. Recently brought to light was the fact that she set me up to fail intentionally. She’s not gained any further respect from doing so, However, she’s ensured the fact that one way or another I’ll be leaving for another position at a different company at the first opportunity that favorably presents an itself..
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